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Short survey for those in recovery for ED


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I will not be comparing myself to anyone. I simply want to know how recovery is different for everyone. Answer only if it applies to you.

1. Basics: age, height, lowest weight/BMI, goal weight/BMI? (*do not answer if it will trigger)

2. How long did you have an ED? How long have you been in recovery?

3. What made you decide to recover?

4. How supportive are your friends/family?

5. How many calories are you eating now?

6. The biggest challenge you have faced during recovery?

7. At what weight did you (or are hoping to) get your period back?

8. How long did it take for bloating to go away or for the weight to redistribute?

9. Things you have learned about yourself?

10. What your goals are for your health for the future? 

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1. Basics: age, height, lowest weight/BMI, goal weight/BMI? (*do not answer if it will trigger). 15, 5'4, 90lbs, dunno yet:/

2. How long did you have an ED? How long have you been in recovery? Disordered eating since November, ED since March, recovery since May-ish

3. What made you decide to recover? At first it was involuntary...now I just want to be normal again.

4. How supportive are your friends/family? My friends don't know, buy my family is great:)

5. How many calories are you eating now? around 2200 with light exercise

6. The biggest challenge you have faced during recovery? the uncertainty...not knowing if I'm doing everything correctly

7. At what weight did you (or are hoping to) get your period back? a healthy weight?  I am/was/? irregular

8. How long did it take for bloating to go away or for the weight to redistribute? ask me later:)

9. Things you have learned about yourself? I want to be perfect.  I have to be perfect.  And I hate it.

10. What your goals are for your health for the future?  Being fit, and not obsessing over food.

 

 


1. Basics: age, height, lowest weight/BMI, goal weight/BMI? (*do not answer if it will trigger) 21, 5'2", LW- 78, GW- HEALTHY!

2. How long did you have an ED? How long have you been in recovery?

Since around spring of last year 

3. What made you decide to recover?

My unhappiness and physical sickness, I was not only hurting myself but the people around me

4. How supportive are your friends/family?

VERY; I am so thankful for them.

5. How many calories are you eating now?

I don't count because it causes anxiety and restriction. Way more than I used to, that's for sure.

6. The biggest challenge you have faced during recovery?

Eating fear foods...gaining weight, obviously.

7. At what weight did you (or are hoping to) get your period back?

I don't know- I got my period back when I went back onto birth control but I was still very sick.

8. How long did it take for bloating to go away or for the weight to redistribute?

I'm still recovering, so who knows...

9. Things you have learned about yourself?

I CAN be happy.

10. What your goals are for your health for the future? 

I just want to feel good emotionally and physically. 



Original Post by chrissy1988:

If you KNOW your goal weight is unhealthy then A) don't post it or B) change it. Some of the goal weights/BMIs are still underweight when they should be a BMI of 20 or greater. 

 I agree that a goal weight should be healthy, but not everyone needs a BMI of 20 or greater.  Some people are naturally small.  I used to eat everything and anything I wanted before my ED, and I never had a BMI greater than 20, so it doesn't make sense to aim for that.

1. Age: 17

Height: 5'5"

Lowest Weight: 115 lbs

goal weight: Whatever my body decides and makes me look fit and healthy :)

2. How long have you had an ED? I've had ED thoughts for around a year or more. But I didn't start to look sick due to restricting and over exercising til about 6 months ago.

How long have you be in recovery? 3 months now

3. What made me decide to recover? When my best friend told the school counselor something was wrong then the counselor called home. And then seeing the look on my boyfriends face when he found out: pure worry. Oh, and then when I heard my mother crying about it one night, thats when I began to take it seriously.

4. How supportive are my friends and family? Completely. They keep tabs to make sure I'm not relapsing. My boyfriend constantly tells me how beautiful I am. My best friend is the reason I'm still alive really.

5. How many calories? I don't count. I estimate roughly 2500 but I know I overestimate. I say things like a tsp of ketchup is 100 calories. Yeah, not quite. But counting causes restriction.

6.The biggest challenge? Being okay with not exercising for a day. Still something I struggle with.

7. Weight I got my period back? I got it around a month ago, and I didn't weigh myself alone, but I estimate around 135-140.

8. How long did it take for the weight to redistribute? *Sigh* I wish I knew that answer. I still got tons of flab on my tum tum. Buuut its only month 3. Fingers crossed!!!

9. Things I have learned about myself? I'm a people pleaser. If I'm not there for someone, I'm not a good enough friend. Them first, myself second. Oh and I have no self confidence, but I already knew that... Other than that, I'm sure I'll learn more about myself as I continue therapy.

10. What are my health goals for the future? I wanna be strong and fit, I wanna be happy with my body and be able to eat out with friends. I wanna be able to eat junk every so often and not feel horrible, but I wanna keep a balanced diet. I NEVER wanna relapse, and I hope when I have children someday, none of them will go down this hell road.

1. Basics: age, height, lowest weight/BMI, goal weight/BMI? (*do not answer if it will trigger) 17, 166cm, 40kg/14.5, 53kg/~19

2. How long did you have an ED? How long have you been in recovery? had anorexia for 3 years, this time recovery for about 2 months.

3. What made you decide to recover? was forced by parents the first time, and have been admitted to hospital twice and forced into it too.

4. How supportive are your friends/family? my family try, but often they say the wrong things and think they know more than they do. my friends are all fantasic!

5. How many calories are you eating now? not strictly counting, but about 2500

6. The biggest challenge you have faced during recovery? feeling like i wasn't sick enough, and that people only cared about me because i was anorexic.

7. At what weight did you (or are hoping to) get your period back? i would love it back now! (im 50kg)

8. How long did it take for bloating to go away or for the weight to redistribute? in the past, not that long maybe 3 months?

9. Things you have learned about yourself? no-one actually cares or judges you by how little you eat, how little you weigh or how long you spend at the gym. i have learned that people like me because of who i am, not because i am unwell.

10. What your goals are for your health for the future? become a nurse, and travel the world working for humanitarian organisations. then, come back and work in adolescent ED units. :))) i just want to help people. oh, and have a lovely family.

1. Basics: age, height, lowest weight/BMI, goal weight/BMI? (*do not answer if it will trigger)  

28, 155 cm, LW/BMI: 38 kgs, 15,8, CW/BMI: 48 kgs, 20ish. Goal BMI: 20-21 for now.

2. How long did you have an ED? How long have you been in recovery? 

I had EDNOS for many years. But I devellop anorexia/anorexia athletica in the spring of 2009. Entered recovery in Winter 2009, but has got in & out during a time of 2 years.

3. What made you decide to recover?

I'm so tired of the on-going cycle of restricting/loosing weight, binging/gaining weight. Besides I've done enough damage to my body already, and I want to devellop a healthy, stabile eating-pattern. (Also to have my period back, and have children in the future.)

4. How supportive are your friends/family?

My family are very close to me and very supportive. So are my friends. But my parents understand me more, I guess.

5. How many calories are you eating now? Uff.. I actually dont count them anymore. ;o) I decided that I wanted to let go of the constant, obsessive measuring, counting cals. But I would guess that my daily intake varies between 2000-2700 cals a day. (And sometimes I still binge for 3000+ cals.) :-S

6. The biggest challenge you have faced during recovery?

Is definitely the phase I'm going through right now! To push through the horrible part of weightgain, urges to binge, water retention, bloating, gas.. (hate that part, lol), constipation etc.. I never got further than bmi 20-20,5 the other times, because of this uncomfortableness. But this time, I dont care. I WANT to be healthy and free again. And I WANT to do what it takes to get there!

7. At what weight did you (or are hoping to) get your period back?

I HOPE SO MUCH to get it back at my current weight of 48 kgs.

8. How long did it take for bloating to go away or for the weight to redistribute?

I ask myself the same question.. I only started recovery 12 days ago, so I'm in the middle of the bloating-thing.

9. Things you have learned about yourself?

a lot!  Just to mention a few examples:  I'm much less anxcious when I nourish myself right. I am starting to be more confident without my ed, than with my ed. (never thought it would b possible!) I'm not the center of the world, which I used to think, and noone are judging my weight and eating habits. Only I do.

10. What your goals are for your health for the future?

To be FREE from my ED and HEALTHY in body, spirit and soul. To devellop my own identidy - an idendity without ED. To accept myself as I am. To enjoy eating, and maintain a stabile weight-range and healthy eating patterns. To increase my social network. (I was very isolated during my ED.) To get back to studying and become a Clinical Diectician. I want to use my experiences to help others, and to guide them the right way with the right nutrition, that fits the individual needs. I want to see more of the world.. I want to marry someone (after divorcing my ED), and become a mother of gorgeous, healthy children. :)

1. Basics: age, height, lowest weight/BMI, goal weight/BMI? (*do not answer if it will trigger)

19 years old - 5 foot 6 - lowest weight 96ibs - goal weight 8 and a half stone.

2. How long did you have an ED? How long have you been in recovery?

Ive had an ED for around 5 years - ive been in recovery twice but had relpases but this time has been the longest time ive been in recovery :) its been a month and a bit.

3. What made you decide to recover?

- I have goals in life i want to achieve Eg. Driving lessons, Going to uni, Getting my own place :P Getting a job in my dream career - forensic photography ( SOCO ) for the police :)

4. How supportive are your friends/family?

My family is quite supportive, even thought they dont like me talking about it sometimes because it annoys them.

5. How many calories are you eating now?

around 2800 - 3000kcals with 4/5 times a week exercise.

6. The biggest challenge you have faced during recovery?

The weight gain.

7. At what weight did you (or are hoping to) get your period back?

Really soon :(

8. How long did it take for bloating to go away or for the weight to redistribute?

The bloating still hasnt gone away and its been a month

9. Things you have learned about yourself?

People like me alot better when im full of energy and happy :)

Im more sociable :) I enjoy things more!

10. What your goals are for your health for the future?

First thing is going to uni and getting my driving lessons sorted :)

Original Post by chrissy1988:

If you KNOW your goal weight is unhealthy then A) don't post it or B) change it. Some of the goal weights/BMIs are still underweight when they should be a BMI of 20 or greater. 

^^Definitely. I was quite shocked ( and, yes, very triggered) to see that most people's goal weight is way too low (under BMI 20 anyway) Lots of us are fighting to make ourselves accept the need to go above BMI 17, 18, or whatever, so a long list of people who are only aiming for BMI 17-18 or so as a goal is conterproductive in my opinion, not to mention detrimental to your own health. I've DONE the semi-recovery thing more times than i can count, and ultimately you are just setting yoruself up for one relapse after another.

Can we all please at least AIM for BMI 20+?! Thanks!!

Original Post by dansmum99:

Original Post by chrissy1988:

If you KNOW your goal weight is unhealthy then A) don't post it or B) change it. Some of the goal weights/BMIs are still underweight when they should be a BMI of 20 or greater. 

Can we all please at least AIM for BMI 20+?! Thanks!!

^^ what she said! :o)

I will not be comparing myself to anyone. I simply want to know how recovery is different for everyone. Answer only if it applies to you.

1. Basics: age, height, lowest weight/BMI, goal weight/BMI? (*do not answer if it will trigger) 15, 5'4', 79lbs

2. How long did you have an ED? How long have you been in recovery? 3years, 8months

3. What made you decide to recover? My mom took me in and made me recover, now I want to recover to enjoy life and be healthy

4. How supportive are your friends/family? They are very supportive!

5. How many calories are you eating now? I'm not counting anymore, it could range from 2,000-3,000+

6. The biggest challenge you have faced during recovery? My body image, at first eating so many calories, then dealing with rapid weight gain

7. At what weight did you (or are hoping to) get your period back? I've never had my period in my life, so I have no clue

8. How long did it take for bloating to go away or for the weight to redistribute? Still waiting on this:/

9. Things you have learned about yourself? That I have perseverance and people are calling me strong for not giving up, so I'm beggining to learn that. I don't know if I believe it yet, though.

10. What your goals are for your health for the future? Eat healthy, be able to run and maintain my goal weight. Oh, and I hope my hair grows back!

Original Post by sarahdenmark:

Original Post by dansmum99:

Original Post by chrissy1988:

If you KNOW your goal weight is unhealthy then A) don't post it or B) change it. Some of the goal weights/BMIs are still underweight when they should be a BMI of 20 or greater. 

Can we all please at least AIM for BMI 20+?! Thanks!!

^^ what she said! :o)

 I second this. :D

 

1. Basics: age, height, lowest weight/BMI, goal weight/BMI? (*do not answer if it will trigger)

  • 20 Years Old,
  • 6ft 1'/185cm (I'm a tall girl!)
  • Lowest BMI: 11.2,
  • Goal BMI: 20

2. How long did you have an ED? How long have you been in recovery?

4 Years, which compared to some people I've met it's not that long for which I'm thankful. Been in recovering for 9 months.

3. What made you decide to recover?

I was sectioned into an ED Unit. The option was taken out of my hands but I had a dreadful experience where I almost lost my life and since that day I have tried to strive for recovery.

4. How supportive are your friends/family?

VERY supportive. I have the most kind and considerate parents. I've put them through a lot and they have supported me non stop through the tough times and the good. They are actually very knowledgable (sp?) of an ED now and so are very good at picking up warning signals. My friends have also been amazing and have stuck by my side non-stop too. I'm eternally grateful.

5. How many calories are you eating now?

I just eat a weight gain meal plan - the calories can vary and I try not to focus on them anymore.

6. The biggest challenge you have faced during recovery?

Constant worry about my weight and how my body has changed. I'm also worried about over-doing it as I used to be overweight too. Also as I am still a day patient at hospital it is hard to be around a lot of very underweight people and constantly comparing yourself to them. It can get competitive sometimes.

7. At what weight did you (or are hoping to) get your period back?

I'm at 18.7 BMI at the moment and haven't got my period back yet so I'm hoping some time soon!

8. How long did it take for bloating to go away or for the weight to redistribute?

I had extreme water retention in my ankles for about 3-4 days soon after I started my refeeding meal plan but I actually found it hilarious. I looked like a cartoon.

9. Things you have learned about yourself?

I want to live. I love food & I'm pretty freaking strong-willed.

10. What your goals are for your health for the future? 

Be healthy, live life to the fullest & enjoy every moment.

1. Basics: age, height, lowest weight/BMI, goal weight/BMI? 25, 5'5", 98/16.3/, 111/18.5

2. How long did you have an ED? How long have you been in recovery? 10 years; almost 4 years

3. What made you decide to recover? My children

4. How supportive are your friends/family? Very supportive

5. How many calories are you eating now? 1500 - 1600 usually; can vary as much as 800 to 2100


6. The biggest challenge you have faced during recovery? Being able to trust myself when it comes to food

7. At what weight did you (or are hoping to) get your period back? 109

8. How long did it take for bloating to go away or for the weight to redistribute? About three months; I've been in recovery for a long time, but I've been struggling these last few months

9. Things you have learned about yourself? That I'm a much stronger person than I ever thought I was

10. What your goals are for your health for the future? To become a nutrionist and help change the dietary requirements in schools and hospitals

Original Post by candacebaker:

1. Basics: age, height, lowest weight/BMI, goal weight/BMI? 25, 5'5", 98/16.3/, 111/18.5

2. How long did you have an ED? How long have you been in recovery? 10 years; almost 4 years

3. What made you decide to recover? My children

4. How supportive are your friends/family? Very supportive

5. How many calories are you eating now? 1500 - 1600 usually; can vary as much as 800 to 2100


6. The biggest challenge you have faced during recovery? Being able to trust myself when it comes to food

7. At what weight did you (or are hoping to) get your period back? 109

8. How long did it take for bloating to go away or for the weight to redistribute? About three months; I've been in recovery for a long time, but I've been struggling these last few months

9. Things you have learned about yourself? That I'm a much stronger person than I ever thought I was

10. What your goals are for your health for the future? To become a nutrionist and help change the dietary requirements in schools and hospitals

That should say "nutritionist" -.-

1. Basics: age, height, lowest weight/BMI, goal weight/BMI? (*do not answer if it will trigger) 21 (22 in 2 weeks) 5'4, 36kg/13.8 55/20

2. How long did you have an ED? How long have you been in recovery? I've had an ED since I was 14, been in recovery this time around since early June

3. What made you decide to recover? Threat of admission but also getting sick of living like this and not achieving anything, sick of living a life consumed by food and numbers and isolation and fear and anxiety and lies. And the fact I realised I do NOT want this to kill me

4. How supportive are your friends/family? They are pretty supportive. Dad let me move back home so I can try get better. Friends can be eh but can be a good distraction. I just learn to ignore any comments really, I know they don't really understand and find it hard knowing what to/what not to say so I just shrug off most comments and let them help me in the social life aspects etc :) Have found i have to do most of this by myself but as long as I have to cry on and my friends to whinge to and distract, I think I'll be okay :)

5. How many calories are you eating now? Really struggling to get above 700 unfortunately.. but trying to get it higher. I just keep slipping and it keeps getting lower o.O

6. The biggest challenge you have faced during recovery? Accepting weight gain, bloating, gas, all those horrid stomach/digestive issues when you start re-feeding again, feeling full and experiencing emotions again

7. At what weight did you (or are hoping to) get your period back? Hopefully.. when I'm healthy? I'd love for it to come back now but I know if I got it back at a low and unhealthy weight it will trigger me into thinking I'm 'fine' now so hopefully once I'm healthy (weight wise) it will decide to come back :)

8. How long did it take for bloating to go away or for the weight to redistribute? To be honest, kinda going through it now. But not as 'badly' as others, probs coz of my low intake, thats one reason why I'm scared to up it but will take the dive soon and hopefully get it all over and done with o.O

9. Things you have learned about yourself? I'm not a failure, or a disappointment, the fact that before I relapsed I was NOT fat or even close to overweight. Learnt that I'm determined, that I love biscuits and not even anorexia will stop me from consuming my biscuits at nightly snack. Lol. I don't know what else..

10. What your goals are for your health for the future? I just want to be healthy and happy again so that I can achieve my goals (finish my degree, write a book, eventually *hopefully* have a family and just enjoy life again)

Original Post by sillyprilly:

I will not be comparing myself to anyone. I simply want to know how recovery is different for everyone. Answer only if it applies to you.

1. Basics: 23, 5'4, LW:~69 lbs(I weigh more now) GW: I have no idea.

2. How long did you have an ED? How long have you been in recovery? Oh, who knows...I'd say since I was about 15, the peak being around age 17, and dealing with recovery and relapsing for the past 6 years.

3. What made you decide to recover? The first time was my mother always being mad at me, the second time because I was starting college, the third time because I really felt like I could die anytime, the fourth time because I needed strength to graduate from college and this most recent time because I need to start my life and my career.

4. How supportive are your friends/family? Very supportive.

5. How many calories are you eating now? 1000-1200(too low, I know)

6. The biggest challenge you have faced during recovery? actually recovering for good, eating unhealthy once in a while, limiting excercise, and the guilt.

7. At what weight did you (or are hoping to) get your period back? I don't know. The most I've weighed in the past 5 years is about 95 lbs. I haven't had my period since I was 16. I'm not sure if I'll ever get it back now.

8. How long did it take for bloating to go away or for the weight to redistribute? haha, never quite made it that far.

9. Things you have learned about yourself? My eating disorder goes deeper than I previously thought, I'm stronger than I thought and I need to love myself more.

10. What your goals are for your health for the future? Just to be happy and live.

 

 

1. Basics: age, height, lowest weight/BMI, goal weight/BMI? (*do not answer if it will trigger) 26, 5'7. LW: 113, 17. GW: 135 

2. How long did you have an ED? How long have you been in recovery? 1 year of an ED,2 months of recovery

3. What made you decide to recover? seeing pictures of me looking sick, having family and friends tell me that I look sick, tired of being hungry

4. How supportive are your friends/family? very supportive

5. How many calories are you eating now? around 2000-2500, I don't count calories, I just eat more foods and more foods with fat. Counting calories triggers for me.

6. The biggest challenge you have faced during recovery? guilt, the fear of being fat.

7. At what weight did you (or are hoping to) get your period back? I only lost it for one month 

8. How long did it take for bloating to go away or for the weight to redistribute? 3 weeks, but I still get bloating.

9. Things you have learned about yourself? I'm a better person when I'm eating like a normal person, my life is normal.

10. What your goals are for your health for the future? to maintain a healthy weight, to exercise, to eat without regret or guilt, to eat with friends and family

 

1. Basics: age, height, lowest weight/BMI, goal weight/BMI? (*do not answer if it will trigger)

20 (nearly 21 :P) 171cm, lowest 37.1kg, current 48kg, goal BMI 20 (around 57.. Christ, that's scary..)

2. How long did you have an ED? How long have you been in recovery? 

Since I was nine. Recovery (proper) since 2008 with some slips. 

3. What made you decide to recover?

University. My heart. My family. Friends. My boyfriend.

4. How supportive are your friends/family?

Family: very complicated... Friends: Brilliant, though I don't talk about it much.

5. How many calories are you eating now?

Struggling with a binge/restrict cycle.

6. The biggest challenge you have faced during recovery?

No longer being thin and 'special.'

7. At what weight did you (or are hoping to) get your period back?

Got it back at 16 BMI.

8. How long did it take for bloating to go away or for the weight to redistribute?

I don't know. 

9. Things you have learned about yourself?

Too much to write out... I've learned that analysing myself is addictive and makes me self indulgent though! ;)

10. What your goals are for your health for the future? 

To get healthy, get fit, to eat to live rather than the other way round...


1. Basics: age, height, lowest weight/BMI, goal weight/BMI? (*do not answer if it will trigger) 19, 5'4", lowest BMI of 15-15.5, goal BMI of around 19

2. How long did you have an ED? How long have you been in recovery? I have had anorexia for nearly two years, I have been regaining the weight since Easter this year.

3. What made you decide to recover? my health was starting to concern me, I was getting chest pains, I was so, so cold, people would stare at me, and I was over-emotional. I spent almost every evening during my first year of university sobbing on the phone to my mum because I thought I was dying and I didn't know how to ask for help! I just couldn't go on like that 

4. How supportive are your friends/family? ultra supportive, to the point of being pushy. :P

5. How many calories are you eating now? I plan for at least 2500, but try to eat more on top of that just to be sure, so I get around 3000+

6. The biggest challenge you have faced during recovery? These last 3-4 lbs are scary in case I over shoot my "goal" which is in my head actually my upper safe limit... huge huge stress at the moment. But the biggest challenge was the first few days of eating more for weight gain, I just couldn't believe I was willingly putting that amount of food inside me, it was so unnatural! 

7. At what weight did you (or are hoping to) get your period back? I don't know. I don't think about it to be honest.

8. How long did it take for bloating to go away or for the weight to redistribute? Soon I hope! it's not been too bad but my torso and thighs feel HUGE to me, though I guess they look normal compared to most people.

9. Things you have learned about yourself? I'm quite stubborn, haha. Also, my stomach can hold more food than I think anyone ever thought possible - I can actually out eat my dad which is quite something!

10. What your goals are for your health for the future? I would like to be fit and healthy, eat a good balanced diet, i.e. enough, exercise little and often, be more relaxed, have a life which doesn't revolve around food or avoiding it!



1. Basics: age, height, lowest weight/BMI, goal weight/BMI? (*do not answer if it will trigger)

28 years old, 165cm or 5'5

LW 68

GW and Current weight - a healthy 120 (i will never go back)

2. How long did you have an ED? How long have you been in recovery?

ED for close to 15 years

3. What made you decide to recover?

My husband (was b/f) and the fact that i didnt want to live - i thought - well what do i have to lose, and now i wouldnt change things, EVER! Life is AWESOME!

4. How supportive are your friends/family?

Fantastic - always have, always will be

5. How many calories are you eating now?

I dont count - prob on a high day 3500, lower day 2500

6. The biggest challenge you have faced during recovery?

Guilt, shame, i dont feel my age - sometimes older some times younger. I regret the years i lost to the ED.

7. At what weight did you (or are hoping to) get your period back?

I have been on the pill for years due to the ED, but now i hope it doesnt come back cause we are planning for a BABY!!!!

8. How long did it take for bloating to go away or for the weight to redistribute?

About 6 months

9. Things you have learned about yourself?

I have fought and won a massive battle - im alot stronger than i thought.

Im a great person without the ed in my life - it hid the REAL me.

I AM MORE THAN A NUMBER

10. What your goals are for your health for the future?

Now - to fall pregnant

Always keep to a healthy weight

happiness

love ..............

I would love to buddy up with others if you need support - always lurking around!

Take care and persist - RECOVERY IS WORTH IT!!!!

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