Wow. Ditch that therapist. Clearly she has no brain.
It's probably her fault, but I find many therapists (ESPECIALLY if they don't specialize in ED's) think you literally have to look like a walking bone to have an eating disorder. Most people think this way. My sister felt this way and she had a BMI of 15. Not underweight? Seriously!?
Get a new therapist, one that specializes in ED's.
seriousy, find a new therapist. Call the company and request a new one or go to a different place in general. Mine played games with me and gave me beer goggles and told me this is how ED distorts the mind. She didnt tell me to "eat more" she told me to follow the exchange system they give us and wanted me to make daily logs and write down how i felt. She would analyze it and give me stickers and such for my progress.
We talked about a lot of things that werent ED related, like handling stress and fun things we liked. Then she would ask me questions like "if you were still back before you were IP would you be able to enjoy your birthday? Or playing instruments? Or hanging with friends?" It made me think and realize.
^^What everyone else said!
Sometimes you need to go see a few different therapists until you find the right one for you... this one clearly isn't it!! The therapist I got on best with when I was a teen, was actually the third one...
if i can yeah i think im gonna switch people. therapists arent supposed to make you feel bad ): but thats what shes doing. obviously not on purpose but i think i might try a dude therapist this time?
It may in part be her style of therapy....I believe they call that method "psychodynamic" or something like that...it's where the therapists basically makes you do all the talking. What I prefer is a cognitive behavioral therapist, ones that actually participate in the session with you, and they help you with dealing with problems in the present more than examining the roots of the problem in the past.