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I am looking for anyone's honest opinion here, and I really would appreciate if I could get some responses because this is really bothering me.

Lately, my mom has been telling me that I am looking really skinny and quite unhealthy. She even went so far to say that she thinks I am anorexic. I went from 145 lbs to 110 lbs in the last year (I am 5'5''), and I was feeling great about it. Since I lost the weight, I have had so much confidence and I felt good about myself. However, my confidence has plummeted ever since my mom has been telling me I look unhealthy and anorexic.

I have pictures in my profile of me at my current weight. Could you please tell me, do I really look that unhealthy right now. This is really bothering me that I have worked so hard this last year to get my body back into shape and to get healthy, but in reality I might have made myself unhealthy instead.

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No! You dont look unhealthy you look perfect. Although your weight is kinda on the low end of the healthy BMI, it think you have a cute small frame.im actually REALLY jealous. but your progress is amazing and really motivating.do you have any tips

Hi - I don't think you look unhealthy. You are very thin - that much is true. Kinda hard to tell in jeans/sweater but you look great to me!! Like Sheeva said you have a very small frame and a very cute figure. Congratulations on your weight loss.

I do have to say though - that cookie cake looks soooooo yummy ;)

i think you look absolutely awesome.

i think as long as you're eating enough and not starving yourself or harming yourself, then ignore what your mom says and enjoy being slim. :)

You look great! Right on the edge - don't lose anymore, you look perfect!
Original Post by xochitl92113:

don't lose anymore, you look perfect!

Yeah - I agree with this, too :-)

Thank you all very much for the responses. Each one of your comments really made me feel better!

I honestly didn't feel that I looked unhealthy, but I was so confused as to why my mom would say that stuff to me. My mom has always been so supportive of me in everything that I do, but when it came to me losing weight, she has been nothing but against it. I just don't understand why.

Again, thank you all for your encouraging words. You sure know how to make a girl feel better. :)

I think anytime we change some folks close to us have a hard time with it. Your mom was used to you the way you were before. As long as you were healthy about your weight loss, and healthy about maintaining, I think you're cool ;)

Just out of curiousity, how quickly did you go from 145 to 110? I wonder if it was realatively quickly, if that may be why your mom was concerned.

I started watching what I ate and exercising at the beginning of June, and I reached 110 pounds in November. Do you think that I lost the weight too fast? I tried to make healthy decisions from the beginning.

Also, I feel like my mom feels like since I have reached my goal weight and I am now maintaining my weight, she thinks I should go back to how I was eating before I started losing weight. She thinks that because I am eating healthy foods like fruits and vegetables, I am still on a diet. The thing is, when I started my weight lose journey, I never thought of it as a diet. I knew from the get go that I wanted to make a lifestyle change. I think it is hard for her to accept this.

I don't know if this has anything to do with the reason my mom has a problem with me losing weight, but when she was my age, she too weighed 110 lbs (although she is 5'7'' and I am 5'5''). However, over the past several years she has put on quite a bit of weight. I am guessing she is 190 lbs right now. Over the years she has tried many diets to try to lose the weight, but she has usually really struggled losing weight, and when she has lost some she ends up gaining it all back. I don't know if she jealous that I have been able to lose the weight or what.

not at all! you look great. as long as you are comfortable with your weight and are eating healthy, you're fine.
Hi Krystal - Well that averages out to less than one pound a week (assuming you lost 35 lbs over about 24 weeks). So that seems healthy to me!! That's great that you've thought of it as a lifestyle. Good luck to you :) I'm sure after your mom sees that you are being healthy she will not worry so much. Who knows -- maybe you will even inspire her to making a lifestyle change herself instead of yo-yo dieting. How cool would THAT be?!?!
Original Post by amy_blue:

Hi Krystal - Well that averages out to less than one pound a week (assuming you lost 35 lbs over about 24 weeks). So that seems healthy to me!! That's great that you've thought of it as a lifestyle. Good luck to you :) I'm sure after your mom sees that you are being healthy she will not worry so much. Who knows -- maybe you will even inspire her to making a lifestyle change herself instead of yo-yo dieting. How cool would THAT be?!?!

Actually that is about a pound and a half a week, but that is still fine and you look great! Not unhealthy at all. You look healthy and happy!

You are very thin but to be honest I wouldn't worry.  Some people are healthy at lower weight than others - I dropped to around 110 but it was very unhealthy for me on my body.


I do want to ask, though are you still getting your period? That would be a major factor in whether you're okay

As far as your mom, I have to agree...jealous that you're out-shining her!

cat-girl: When you were 110 pounds, how tall where you? Also, to answer your question, I have never lost my period. I don't know my exact body fat percentage, but assuming that since I still get my period, I figure that my body still has plenty of fat to keep myself healthy.

Original Post by denise07:

Original Post by amy_blue:

Hi Krystal - Well that averages out to less than one pound a week (assuming you lost 35 lbs over about 24 weeks). So that seems healthy to me!! That's great that you've thought of it as a lifestyle. Good luck to you :) I'm sure after your mom sees that you are being healthy she will not worry so much. Who knows -- maybe you will even inspire her to making a lifestyle change herself instead of yo-yo dieting. How cool would THAT be?!?!

Actually that is about a pound and a half a week, but that is still fine and you look great! Not unhealthy at all. You look healthy and happy!

 oops. yeah - English major here. Wow that's kinda embarrassing huh? Thanks for correcting me :-) But yeah - still a healthy rate of weight loss.


I think you look great! Congrats with your weight loss. =D
I was 16, 5'7 and briefly went below 110 (more like 107) - but it was through undereating and over-exercising. and I lost my period.

I think that a lot of people, me included, see fairly rapid weight loss and/or very thin people as automatically unhealthy/disordered.  So its refreshing that yoiu are doing this for good resons and in a healthy way! 

You don't look unhealthy or gaunt, but pictures don't always tell the whole story.  You didn't look huge at 145, and 120 would probably be just as nice a weight for you as 110.

 

I definitely would not lose anymore... 

Dear Mesmilan4u,

You look fabulous!!!  I think you made a very mature decision to lead a "healthy lifestyle". 

I am sorry your mom is being so difficult.  Unfortunately we can not control what others say, just how we react to them.  No matter how old you get, she, will always be your Mom.  I am sure many of us can relate.  One of my embarrassing stories is when I left home to attend college (at 21 years old) (1,200 miles away), my mom was concerned about my weight (dropped to 108, (i am very tall) She called the administrators assistant to say she wanted her to look after me to make sure I ate!

So Moms will always be moms, because they care.  Hold your head high, and be proud of the hard work you did.  Continue to lead your healthy lifestyle.  Next time your mom says a comment about your weight give her a hug and say wanna share a lowfat frozen yogurt? :+) 

Take care!  You are lookin fab!!

I think you look great. I would say that if you feel good, then to ignore her "too skinny" rants. I know she is your mom, but it is your body and if it feels better "skinny" then good for you!

 I was very thin growing up, I grew tall and then filled out, but there was a period where I was 125 and 5'10''.... pretty slim. People called me anorexic anne for a long time. ...I ate constantly! I played sports, swam, and in general had a very active life. I just burned off everything I ate! My point is, change will cause some ppl to say things but if you are true to what you know is right inside, then you can not go wrong. 

I wish you many blessings! good luck!!! 

If your healthy (getting your period, normal heart rate, normal blood pressure, etc.) then it's fine.

However, if you have low heart rate, low blood pressure, no period, and experience coldness, then you probably should put on weight. Those are signs of bein underweight.

I'm 5'5" and the most I've ever weighed is 103. I got down to 86 (unintentionally) and got stuck in an aeting disorders hospital. Be careful not t let yourself loss to that point. Trust me, hospitals suck.
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