*Bringing "Sexy Back" Motivation Group* ( *Group Closed* )
I want to start a group of motivating girls that have the intention of bringing nothing but their sexy back... I would love to motivate, work towards, congratulate, get tough love and throw pity parties whenever deemed necassary... Anyone want to join me?? I do belong to other groups with other wonderful women but those challenges seem to be ending and people are dwindling... anyone want to stick through it with me, until we get our sexy back?? 
Special note: There are no weigh in days, no challenges, no scales, you are own challenge, whether you want to use measurements, scales or even a pair of jeans to measure your success, welcome, if you want to gain weight welcome, if you want to lose welcome, if you want to build up some curves welcome... we are all here to give one another positive reinforcements...
Good morning girls,
I'm glad to see all my favourite girls are still here. I don't have much time, I have a Hemodynamics class to get to (2morro also) 9-330. I'm glad to read that each of you are working thru life pretty effectively. It's always a struggle we know that! It's about how we head it down. I feel my motivation creeping in, I've been doing better. I've gone to the chiropractor twice, that has helped immensely. I've been working on clearing out my garden to start anew for winter. Moe welded a wrought iron gate for it. It's just over 3 feet tall once placed in the frame, I would have like it at 2.5 so I could bend over it easier. I've been trying to eat healthier. I'm back to yogurt, fruit, and nuts for breakfast, although I'm still wanting the other stuff.
<3 Nix
UGH! i completely went overboard on food yesterday...i still got my 30 day shred level 2 in, but for the life of me i couldn't stop eating...i felt like utter crap this morning, like i had let myself down and ruined my chances for a good weigh in on Friday...i'm determined to not let this get the best of me though...i packed all the right foods for work and am planning on eating clean and light today...i don't know what happened, its just like i feel so unworthy of success...but as loud as that voice is in my head, i'm refusing to give up...struggling through this week. I'm going to make today a great day, even if i have to force a smile...i just need to make myself get into a positive mindset...
Mandi- sorry you are feeling down babe, but of course you are worth success! don't allow yourself to even think you are not worthy of good things in your life especially when it's with in your powers to make that change! if you make good changes in your life good things will come. i think you, me, we - we all feel like it's so hard to keep that momentum going some times. like when you are really on your game, then you are realllly on your game and in that perfect zone and when you are in that mind set it's so easy to work out, eat healthy, or no biggie when it's one day off, ect... but as you can see it's a trend for all of us to have ups and downs. i think it's okay to feel a struggle w/in your self, we have all been there, but the struggle is what helps keep up humble. remember you have felt like you were in the zone before, so you can do it again. i think once you get there then if you can maintain that type of feeling then that routine becomes second nature and more of a priority. sign up for a 3K or something to make yourself train for the event! i wish you luck and i applaud you for still doing the 30 day shred!
Nikki- glad to hear from you :) and i'm glad you are feeling some motivation and your breakfast sounds delish!
Nikki: have a great class. So glad you're starting to feel better. Keep it up!
Mandi: One day will not ruin you. You are worthy of success and happiness! Smile, even if you have to force it. Studies show that even faking it will improve your mood.
Insiyah: I agree, we all have ups and downs, struggles, and it's how we handle them that defines us.
I ate pretty terribly yesterday, too. So then I got a huge breakfast burrito this morning. I hate how I'm so all-or-nothing. Isn't there a middle ground? YES, yes there is. I can go get a salad for lunch and eat sparingly at dinner at the in-laws. I can make this day a success! So can you!
*Jen
thanks for the positivity ladies :) this is all due to pms and the soon to come cycle...UGH! i am constantly hungry and whiny this week, and the first place i come to vent is here lol...i just need to kind of cruise through this week without any great expectations, just surviving and not gaining any weight...you are really helping me get through this week, so thank you!!
Insiyah--i completely agree with everything you said, and it is so comforting to come to a group like this where everyone is able to write about their bad days just as easily as their good...
Jen--i agree with you too! i'm not ruined and neither are you! you have a good plan keeping it lighter after the burrito
Hope you all are having a great day, woo hoo tomorrow is Friday!!
Oh my gosh!!! How I missed my ladies so, it's so great to have the core group of girls back :) missing megs and a few others but looks like, everyone here has been each others sounding board and strength! I love it! I read thru all of the posts and not sure where to begin!
Okay, here goes
Mandi, That's how I felt the first time I did 30 day shred too! level 1 seemed remedial, so I did level 1 and 2 back to back to give myself a kick in the butt. Level 3 is by far my favorite! okay Girl pms is a killer and is completely the reasoning for overeating, I read it's a zinc or magnesium deficiency that causes us to gorge the wk before our period. And our emotions get the best of us, hence why you would think that somewhere in the psyche, you have emotionally blocked yourself from success. Trust me we ALL do it, I know I have sabatoged that second I felt that success is around the corner which leads to me to answer.....
Jen, Jen! yes girl there's gotta be a middle ground, I agree! I'm sometimes all or nothing either and that's when I usually mess up on my goals. Girl Yes can you believe they took away my kickboxing?! so apparantly I was not the only one upset, so they are bringing it back! woohooo.... I have to tell you I did a weight lifting group class last week and have upped my dumbell wts! and totally thought of you! I started a yr ago w/3 lbs and now moved on to 8lbs and 10lbs! I wish we had a bosu class at my gym, that class sounds intense! what is this challenge that you and Insiyah are talking about?
Insiyah, dawling what is the challenge you guys are doing? Don't you just LOVE when you find a beautiful new trail to run, it's so very motivational and it's the much needed "me" time. Since I've been pay8ing for a monthly gym membership, I keep it indoors, but I will say I totally miss the outdoor runs :) speaking of running?
Claire, how is the running coming along? the sciatica? do you think the Yoga is helping? because since AI started my yoga regimen back again, I notice the sciatica is less painful. I really hope the Job gods bless you with that new job! I will put the good vibes and mojo out there for you...
Darling Nikki, I'm sorry to hear about the deaths, maybe thats why so much tension has built up in the household. Sometimes traumatic events lead us to hold pent up energy and aggression towards the ones we love. I hope your feeling better. How was the Wedding?! I'm so excited to hear about that :)
Okay girls, now I have no reason to not get my sexy back. There's this guy and it's been over a year now and we have had pent up energy towards ea. other and now he's starting to come around and was more open about his intentions w/me. Very sexy to be honest, + he admitted he missed me :) so I have to make sure that I get it tight for it to be right! Can't feel body concious this time, + the last time he saw me I was nearly 15lbs lighter, so no excuses. I had to drop my 'friend w/benefits' he started to get a bit needy and weirder. i told him I didn't feel like seeing him one night and he kept calling my phone, I ignored him but @ 1am he was like I'm coming over! I told him I wasn't home and he was like too late I'm in the back, open the door! Girlz, I had to put him on a permanent time out for freaking me out. I was under the covers with all the lights off, freaked that he was gonna knock on my door! How lame right? So I gotta get my sexy on. I'm headed to the gym after this with a good sauan/steam session to de-stress. Everyone let's keep ea. other motivated and honor our sexy selves this month!
(((Group Hug)))
- S
Soraya- well you must have something sexy goin' on cuz all the boys want a piece of it! but, on the other hand don't let that one guy get too creepy on you. even if it's not the whole truth= just tell him a that you have someone else in your life and he'll hopefully move on.
Mandi- hopefully PMS is going soon. but i have to tell you birth control can sometimes make PMS more bearable emotionally. Yaz helps a few of my girlfriends & has a slight diuretic for bloating. there are a few brands out there that do a good job in helping balance pms and are cheap.
Jen-did you find your middle ground?! i hope you did. i have that all-or-none personality too. it's so annoying. jeez why don't i have enough will power to help me make better choices in life... i wish i could get a life coach or hypnotherapist to either help me or trick me into wanting to put together the whole heath package and just stick to it, hahah. i guess I am going to have to make it happen. sigghh. :)
i didn't log cals a couple of times this week but did good over all logging cals, eating clean. did poorly on the # of WO's for the week. but just did 40mins at the gym and burned 310 cals. i'm hoping to get another WO in for the weekend.
balance~ that is my mantra for the month
Mandi: yeah, some weeks are just like that - gotta keep the expectations low. Just don't make it a habit :)
Soraya: That's so cool they're bringing back your kick boxing! Doesn't it feel awesome to up those dumb bells? I feel so powerful. Ew, yeah you definitely had to get rid of that guy; too creepy.
Insiyah: I have not found middle ground yet. This week I'm in Las Vegas for a conference for work. If any time were THE time to find that middle ground, it's now. I have a few pairs of larger jeans, but I'm to the point where I have to decide for me if I need to go up a size or figure out how to get back in those size 8's. We do have to make it happen. I can't commit to logging for now, but I'm back home on Friday. Maybe then I'll be feeling it.
Have a good week, I'll see you when I get back :)
*Jen
Jen- oooohh vegas!!! um,, yeah don't expect to come across your middle ground there, hahah.. have fun!
went running over the weekend! yippy, ran i dunno maybe 3 miles and burned 410 cals. so i'm happy. it will help me make up for the whole bag of pop corn i had at the movies the night before... why don't they make air popped popcorn at the theater?? grrr.
have a great day!
Happy Tuesday ladies!
I still have not started my period...ugh! but whatever i'm starting over this week. I ate well yesterday and did level 3 of the 30 day shred...it was actually kind of funny to watch my blubbery but do those moves. I even yelled at the tv "are you kidding me?!" during some parts haha, but hey i got through it. Planning on doing level 2 today. My main goal is to workout 4 times this week, which will be tough because the last 2 weeks i only got in 2 workouts per week, which is lame!
Soraya--be careful out there, i hope that friend with benefits guy gets the message and leaves you alone. And good luck with the other guy :) that should be a good motivator for hitting the gym, you got this girl!
Insiyah--i have never been on birth control before. i am starting to consider it, but i really hate taking pills or anything like that. i just got health insurance so i'm going to look into low dose birth control, and maybe like a shot or something...and hey congrats on the run! thats totally giving me a kick in the butt to get out and runt too!
Jen--Vegas! hope you have fun and try to keep it as light as possible. Can't wait for you to come back
Well girls, here's to a great day!
sorry double post!
hey ladies!
I worked in my garden about 10 hours over the weekend. I got it cleaned up from the summer crops, irrigated the soil and planted winter crops. I quit the gym since I don't like it at all and I'm going to either go back to my old gym and just go after work or I'm going to find one that is not focused almost soley to men. Hopefully that will help me get back in my groove.
Mandi, Last month I had that issue with my period. I was so bloated for a week before I started, I could tell my body wanted and neededt o start but was several days late,I was PMSing the whole time, it sucked!! Lately I haven't been making it to the gym 4 x in a month which is why I quit. I don't wanna throw my $ away, i need to search for satisfaction. I'm not fitting in any of my smaller pants, I just ripped a good pair last week trying to pull them up. All my skirts that were to big and I was wanting to alter now fit again. i was pretty bummed about that until I looked at my trends here on CC. I see that in the early spring I did the same thing and actually dropped that 5 pounds plus 2-3 more in a month. My inspiration then was that I was going to GA. for Memorial Weekend, I can do this I just need to find my way.
Soraya, Ya crazy guys, I can say that was the biggest reason I wanted to settle down when Moe and I hooked up- either I was obsessing over some lovely man that wouldn't have me or some sguy was obsessing over me that I didn't want around, it's always one shoe or the other it seems if you are single, hence the fact that you are single! I have had a serious stocker & he did break into my house while I was sleeping and crawled in bed with me- I'm still alive- WOW!
About the deaths, i'm doing okay. just found out that my neighbor that was shot in the heart (my friends uncle), was shot in the back first, EFFing WoooooW! The 2 with my family are on a different level since they were natural causes (except that my causin always abused his body and was always a severe diabetic). My uncle passed very peacefully but that brought pain on different levels that haev to do with family not being as loving toward each other as I would have expected, it truely saddens me & I have to bow out of situations that end up being torturous to my mind and heart.
I would have posted pix by now but my computer at home is having serious troubles & I can't do it from work. You can see pix on Facebook- Nichole Soto. The wedding was lovely & we & everyone had such a blast!!
Jen- i hope you have fun with business. Sucks your so close yet so far, would love to meet you.
Insiyah, How are you settling in? Sounds like nicely, glad you like the town & your back to running so it must be pretty good. Are you in laws still with you?
Claire, Hey girly take it easy, I'm glad your doing Yoga with your mama, it is great to have nice gym clothes.
muah, Nix
Hello my lovelies!
Sorry I have to post and run! but I wanted to say I read all the posts up so far! Nikki we should set up a phone date next week if your around, Mandi! your here in california too! let's set up a phone date next week too!
Worked out for 3 days in a row, weight is completely out of control! Mandi, I'm going thru the same cycle problem, I can't seem to come on! so frustrating!
Ok! Got HUGE meetings happening tomorrow! so gotta be fresh and ready for all of them! Keep your fingers crossed for me ladies! I need all of the love I can get!
Actually I would like to summon the Job Gods, the Sexy Goddesses, the Luck Gods ON US ALL! sprinkling good mojo for the group *******
(((GROUP HUG)))
Talk sooon!
xoxoxo...S
ahh, loving all the activity! that's great.
Soraya- sending you some good karma girl i wish you best of luck! if i come to LA i should look you girls up. my hubby is going Nov 3 and already booked tix for himself but i was unsure if i could go due to a work meeting that saturday.
Nikki- glad to hear from you. yes boston is awesome, so much to do. my in-laws actually left us last January, haha. but are thinking of coming again in Jan-Mar for 3 months. i know they need to come, their situation over there is not good and they don't have any of their kids there and their health is not great. so how can i say "no" you can't visit your son. but the length of time is what gets me.
Mandi- glad you ate good and did a WO! that's awesome, keep it up!
my sexy motivation right now is the possibilities of an awesome halloween costume!!!! hahha, thought about being a bed bug ;) or a gold digger... right now i am thinking gold digger which might mean a bit of a sexy'ish outfit. any other funny, sexy, cool outfits ideas???
ladies, i am starting to feel normalcy like i've never had before. my stress level is very low and i have complete job satisfaction!!! i am really grateful to be able to say that and wish that for everyone. part of my relaxation is that my fellowship takes some of the weight of responsibility off my shoulders and my main focus this year is to learn, and the best part is there are no exams!
i went running yesterday, gunna take my running clothes with me to work tomrw!
Hi all :)
Nikki--WOW! thats some serious gardening, you go girl!! I would love to have a place where i had space for a garden and actually learned how to plant, that sounds so rewarding. I agree on the gym sitch too, if you're not comfortable or happy being there, you will never go. good luck! i am moving soon, and hopefully once my bills get settled i'll be able to join a gym too! i love that we have our histories here on cc, that is a great tool to look at the past and see the success!
Soraya--good luck with your meetings! i'm sending you prayers and good vibes too, i figure if we just keep throwing love and goodness on eachother, some of it will eventually stick! :) and yes i do live in california soon to be moving to newport beach
Insiyah--love the gold digger idea! i'm going back and forth between a gypsy or a saloon girl...hmm decisions decisions ;)...i am so happy for you and the peace you have found. it sounds like taking that fellowship and moving was exactly the right thing for you to do!
i've been doing well so far this week.
monday was a perfect day, ate really well and got in my workout
Tuesday was a good day, ate well and ran errands after work so had no time for workout
Wednesday was a good day, ate well and got a workout in
Today eating fairly well, planning on working out after work
hurray we are almost to the weekend! :)
welllll,
Insiyah, You literally make me want to cry because I envy you so much at this moment. I aspire to get to that place, I have only had short lived moments there. I am having deep emotional issues of unstableness, insecurity, and anxiety. Last night I drempt of fish drowning in dark creepy fish tanks, and that my father had a heart attack and was dying. It's really strange because I've had the fish tank dream before. The fish are dying because the water isn't oxygenated enough and it has become merky and there are all kinds of creepy fish. Last night it was just one goldfish though. I imagine this resembles how I feel in life right now. Obviously the fish couldn't live if I took them out of the water, they would have to have an entirely new environment but the tanks are huge and sometimes there are eel and other creepy fish so that seems impossible in my dreams. I just want normalcy and relaxation in my life.
I am going to force the time to go to the garden into my life today.
Sounds good! I want to look sexy again! Of course hubby still says I'm sexy but I want to feel sexy! Flat stomach and tight buns!
Hello! Sorry it's been a while. Hard to post often when I can't at work and have been busy in my free time - job searching, having fun etc!
I did not get the job I interviewed for. :( But I am trying to have faith that there is something out there for me, or maybe I am meant to open my own practice. At least the temp job still seems to be busy enough I should be safe there for a while.
I got my mom some affordable yoga clothes at TJ Maxx, she loves them and has gone to yoga with my several times. Trying to find her a good beginner class though because she needs more hands on instruction right now.
I have fallen off the wagon. First I was sick the other weekend so I did nothing. Then when I get better I had a cut on the pad my big toe and couldn't run on it. I hate how a few days off the program can really wreck you! My sciatica seems to get worse when I'm inactive for a few days and it doesn't help that the first few times running again after that is hard.
Nikki I'm going to look for your wedding photos! Garden work sounds wonderful - I would love to be that advanced with plants one day. I hate wierd dreams. I was starting to have some crazy ones and I think it was part of my body telling me I didn't need the anxiety meds anymore (since I've been gone from the wacked out work situation) and I've been scaling down and the dreams have gotten fewer. I guess once your needs change the drugs affect on you changes.
Soraya: hope those meetings went well!! Job gods / universe needs to smile on us both soon! Be careful with all those men who want a piece of you heehee :)
Jen: You want to get back in those 8s. Yep. You do. I'm so very sure of it and I know you can do it!!!
Mandi I know a lot of women who say they can't be off birth control b/c the emotional ups and downs are so extreme. May be good for you to try. I don't have the emotional issues, but lord my skin breaks out and I get terrible cramps and my boobs shrink when I go off it. hahah Yes, I tried to go off it to save $ and I wanted my boobs back so I got back on. lol I was on Yasmin ($$$) forever and switched to Tri-Sprintec. $9/month I think (w/out insurance) at Wal Mart. No problems for me with the switch and works just as well.
Insiyah: So happy for you that you are finding more satisfication and less stress in your life. That is wonderful, and I wish it for everyone too! I need to get back to running too. I should take my clothes to work as well - I have a nice area around the office to run.
Whew - think that's everyone! Hope you are all having a wonderful weekend. xoxo Claire
Nix- awww sweetie, i hope you find a happy place and stability for yourself. i always find my crazy dreams are reflections of my life. i always get tornado dreams when i am feeling confused... ya, forcing yourself to go and spend time in the garden will do you some good and maybe inspire some healthy dishes loaded w/ veggies. maybe claire is right, are you ingesting or possibly putting yourself in a situation that may induce these dreams/feelings... or is it just the type of stress that is unavoidable in life? i wish my solution to stress would be to workout or to turn to something out doorsy everytime life gets hectic, but that is never my 1st instinct and is always a struggle. take care of yourself okay and keep checking in with us.. just saying how u feel out-loud (even if it's online ) is therapeutic.
Claire- so sorry to hear abt the job. but hey, opening your own practice may not be a bad idea. my friends found their immigration lawyer on craigslist; he was a new graduate in need of a job and was finding work that way. not sure what your niche is tho.
Mandi- both of your costumes sound cute btw.. actually i might change my costume idea.. i was gunna go big w/ my gold digger outfit- but i couldn't really make much from my own clothes to make my look eccentric enough for my taste, haha.... and after getting dressed in my running clothes a few days ago in head to toe black i thought i looked like a ninja thief. so for sake of saving some $$ i'm gunna be a thief and my husband can accessorize and be a police man for less than $20 ;) i keep changing my mind on cheap couple's costumes.
Jen- hope you are having fun in vegas ;) !!!
last night was halloween movie marathon, had coke and 2 pieces of thin crust pizza. i WO'd last friday and did P90x this am but took it easy so i'm not sore for the next 5 days..
group has some settings changed on CC website?? i used to be able to click on my profile and the link to the group was there, but the last 3 times i logged on it's no longer there and i have had to trace our group by clicking on my previous posts? anyways, it's just more cumbersome.
Hello my lovelies!
Tom hit me finally, (Mandi? you?) so now crampy but moving forward. One of my dearest and oldest friends moved here with their kids from DC and I've been with them this wknd, trying to keep my head on right. It got really bad btwn my daughter and I, it's gone from bad to worse to awful. She is completely under her coaches spell and told me that I have to 'earn her respect' that did it for me. I cannot have my own child speak to me that way, so at the moment I have to let her go so that I can move forward in my life and be in a healthier space. The constant crying and heartache has put me over the edge, so I've been strong the past couple of day :) Everyone thinks that I should continue with the tough love, but I have to say when you hear your own child say 'i don't love you, you are not my mother' it's very heart breaking. Thanks for listening and letting me vent. but today is another day and I am surrounded by a huge loving family and children everywhere, so it's good for me. The little one she's 8 and she's obsessed with me and follows me around and wants me to hold her hand everywhere, so it feels very good and heart warming. Very ironic -- the timing right?
Okay my lovelies, I'm here for all of you always, I will def. check in with you guys tomorrow to see how everyones doing. The little one is hovering over my shoulder now so I gotta go, but will def. check in and respond to ea. person soon.
(((group hug)))
- S
