I like them because i fancy them but at the same time they make me think - whats the point? Whats the point in trying when i will never be up there with them?
My boyfriend sees alba as his ultimate woman and i think its funny that we share the same tastes in women but then when i hear him talk about her it makes me feel like - why is he with me then? Like i am the best he can do so thats what i am here for...
I decided that measurements were the closest thing i could get to looking like a celeb. My measurements are 35-30-35 and i want to 34-24-34 like alba or at least 35-25-35.
Maybe then i will feel slightly better knowing i am me but i have a celeb body. I just can't bare thinking like i want to just give up on life to look like them anymore its driving me crazy
You know what helps to get your mind off of things like this? HAVING FUN! Seriously... I went to a concert this weekend and rocked out like never before. I was jumping around, dancing like a mad woman having the time of my life. I got about 10 gallons of water poured on me because they throw it off the stage to keep people cool... I looked like a wet towel, but I didn't care because I was so into the music and the time that I was having. I was with my fiance too, and I wasn't concerned that I probably looked a bit disheveled. It was FUN!!! :) I am sure he would have much rather had me jump around and enjoy myself than run to the bathroom every 5 minutes to fix my hair and dry my face.
Your jaw does make you unique. If you are having it "fixed," that is fine... just realize that unless it is impairing the function of your face/jaw, then it is just a choice that you are making. If it will make you appreciate yourself more, then go for it. I had my teeth fixed because I had a really crooked tooth. I don't think that there is anything wrong with anything like this, but realize that you are beautiful JUST AS YOU ARE right at this very moment. And if you never change your jaw, you will be just as beautiful as if you had. This will not increase your beauty, it will just change your comfort level with yourself... which might help you a little bit.
But I am glad that I could help you to see things a bit differently, and I hope that you are gathering the support that you really need in these forums. Hugs!
I also talked to my boyfriend about my bad thoughts of suicide and he was shocked and said he'd tell my mum. I made him keep it to himself and he said he would as long as i phoned him up the next time i felt like that.
His reassurance really made me realise how bad it actually was to be thinking these things on a daily basis when i have a good life with a small but good group of people who love me for who i am.
I'm hoping i can continue to think healthier about things by just focusing on my good points. THanks for the support here its really given me a boost.
I used to feel just like you do, and there comes a time when you have to stand up for yourself and stop supporting the nonsense, because YOU are part of "society" and if YOU keep buying into the idiocy then YOU are just making things worse for other women too. I never understood why so many girls and women tolerate these ridiculous standards and flock to stores and stylists and surgeons and spend thousands of dollars supporting what they hate!
Your boyfriend sounds like an insensitive, shallow git, who is obliviously basking in the privilege of being male in our society. What I mean is, he is firmly indoctrinated in the whole bulls**t notion that celebrity women are just naturally more desirable than the ones in front of him, and he isn't even bothering to listen to the crap he's saying, or think about how it makes you feel. Typical. Personally I'd dump him. I once had a boyfriend who would always show me these all-blonde swimsuit calendars and tell me how gorgeous and perfect these thin, blonde women were. I finally got fed up and told him to f**k off and go find one if that's what he wanted. Naturally he spent a week crying and sniveling into my answering machine. Life is too short to feel like crap about yourself, and if guys want to play stupid games designed to make you feel worse about yourself, then screw 'em.
You've got to stand up for yourself, see past the air brushing, the makeup, and the team of stylists, and realize that it's the stupidest thing in the word to hate yourself because you don't look like Jessica Alba. Work on improving yourself and doing something with your life. It's so wrong that "beauty" should be the only thing a woman is respected for....I don't suppose Jessica Alba is going to cure cancer, or bring clean water to Rwanda, or save the Siberian Tiger with her millions of dollars. Hell, I bet she'll never even win an Oscar. In fact, when she ages too much to be a shallow box office draw, you'll never see her again, because the fact is, she's not even a good actress.
Sometimes I am jealous of other women's bodies, and then my mind wanders to far, far more interesting things like astrophysics, running, or the lastest novel I'm reading and the silly thoughts leave my mind. There are like 1 billion things more interesting and valuable than having a hot body -- and I suspect old Jessica, who is a rotten actress, has never and never will contemplate them. And frankly, most women who are in shape have totally great bodies, anyway. So even if some boy says Alba is his ultimate woman does not mean you don't measure up. Hardly, he is probably also thinking, And damn if my girl isn't totally hott, too.
Trust me. Men aren't that complicated.
Celebrities are miserable because they are held to impossible standards of beauty. You also will be miserable if you hold yourself to the same standards. The difference is you won't get paid at the end of the day for it.
Dump him. Find someone who appreciates YOUR unique beauty and body shape.
jessica alba, specifically, is baffling. i have no idea how she keeps getting jobs. yes, she's cute. yes, she has a great body. but, no, she can't act.
does this relate to the question? i'm not sure. except that your boyfriend's attraction to jessica alba is by definition absolutely superficial. he doesn't know her. she's not interesting or talented or supportive. she's a paper doll. you are a real live woman. and that's the conversation you need to have with him.