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This is my first visit to the forums and I would really like to make some friends. My motivation needs to be motivated...lol

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Hi, and welcome!  I'm a fairly regular forum-goer in the cats.about.com forum, but new to CC -- joined June 1 and have been mostly lurking. 

Someone in the cats forum lost about 60lbs and when I asked about staying motivated, she said motivation is overrated because really, there will be days when you just won't feel like going to the gym or sticking to your diet, but the important thing is to still go ahead and do it. 

Me, I'm here because I've just started trying to lose weight and get healthier and I need a place I can talk about the whole thing. It's on my mind practically everyday, and I think I'll drive my friends (who either don't need or aren't interested in losing weight) insane if I keep talking about this! :)

I always start off with a bang then fizzle. I've always been overweight and can't honestly say I ever really "tried" to lose weight. Very small attempts would be more like it.  I would tell myself and other people that I could always maintain and not gain but over the last couple of years that has not been so. Just since January I've put on quite a bit...to the point that I'm uncomfortable physically and none of my clothes fit. I came across this website the other day and tried it out. I really like it. I like being able to put my own recipes in and get the overall nutritional data. Thanks for responding to my post. I too have friends/family thinking..."here she goes again" with the weight loss stuff. I will be nice to just say whats on my mind. 

Hello,

I'm new here also, but my goal is to gain muscle and cut the fat.

Good luck with you goals. I think you are like most, you start with a band and get tired of it. The best advise I can give it to stick with it, and do go over board. Slowly make changes to your lifestlye and over time you/your lifestyle and your diet will all be working for the same goal. Remember that every once in a while you are able to have a few cheat days if you are on a strict diet, no one is perfect.  I would be happy to give you any help or motivation just send a message and I will help you along the way.

Welcome to c-c. this is a great site to begin your journey.

Since the bang is not working for you, try slow and steady.  Think the tortoise and the hare.  Remember the tortoise won the race.
Start with a walk around the block for the first week and go from there.
Start with trying a new veggie or fruit that you never had before.
Make this a life journey to get healthy and not a diet.  There is a big difference between the two because diet are not necessarily very healthy or good for you.

I have been on here for four years now and it has been mostly up with a few downs.  We are all works in progress and all striving to be better.  You have started the journey towards a healthier lifestyle, just take baby steps for a while.  Believe me, those baby steps add up.

Good luck

Yeah, I've lost weight before on starvation and zero-carb diets, but as you can imagine, that was not in any way sustainable and after a few months I was back. Usually I do manage to maintain -- I gain a little more weight over the holidays, lose a little weight over the summer. But I'm becoming more interested in doing outdoorsy stuff like diving and hiking, and it calls for a better fitness level than I currently have.

I'm trying to do this slowly but at the same time feeling very impatient at wanting to see results!

My doctor has told me not to dispense overt advice. So I am going to just try and recount what I did and the net effect(s). When I was in my mid twenties I stopped my recreational past times which were surfing and skating. I thought that getting married and settling down to do yard work and swill beer is what I was supposed to do. In my mid thirties I had a tumor removed which took a bad situation and made it worse. Then I had a wake up call when I nearly passed out while driving from hypertension, high cholesterol, high blood pressure and exhaustion. I'm not sure what happened exactly but I was depressed at first, then angry. I decided to see a psychologist and to get my former life back. I started simply by using this site. When I began to see the effects of what I was putting into myself, it helped a lot. I got back into surfing, took up snowboarding and now longboard skate as well. The activity log helped me to see the massive benefits of what I was doing. Over the last year, slowly and steadily, I have dropped 46 lbs. The key is what someone else mentioned, sticking with it. I strongly recommend seeing not just a physician but a mental health specialist or doctor as well. Many people are skeptical but finding a sense of self and a sense of what you truly want - which is probably happiness - is important. I found I had to jettison or pare down many friendships I had because of the negativity in those people. It wasn't easy and at times it was downright horrible. But a year later I have emerged in the best shape of my life, healthier (no more hypertension, high BP or cholesterol) and far happier than I was when I started. So, I didn't give any advice, I just gave an example :-)

Thank you so much for your example. I have considered going to a therapist  to see if I could find and fix the link between my poor eating habits and any underlying emotional problems I am sure have. I have never lived a healthy lifestyle and I was one of those people that would say "I may be fat but I'm healthy". As time went on though and I got older I couldn't say that anymore. High blood pressure, high cholesterol, Afib, blah blah blah. Now it's I'm looking at 50 and I am reeling at how much time I've blown being fat, not to mention disgusted every time I have to swallow a handful of pills. 

This site has been great and I've really enjoyed using it. I LOVE being able to enter my recipes and know exactly how good or bad they are...the bad ones I can tweak and make better. The people have been awesome too.  It helps to know I'm not alone. 

 Well it is never too late. 50 is now considered smack dab mid-life (although that implies we are all living until we are 100???). I forgot too mention I used to be on 2 prescriptions, one for Blood Pressure and one for cholesterol. I am now on neither. I occasionally take fish oil and vitamins - but that is it. As for mental health, I didn't mean to imply you have a disorder. The mental health side comes into play once you start the process and dealing with it. There are changes coming like digestion (which gets dicey at times), mood swings caused by change in diet etc. Having a professional to help you recognize when your out of sorts goes a long way. Another classic example; I didn't used to eat any breakfast at all and was *grumpy* in the morning. Well, duh, low blood sugar has that effect. But talking it out helped me to see it for what it was. I wasn't naturally an angry person (quite the opposite actually!) - I was putting my body into an unnatural state and didn't recognize the ramifications. A specialist also helped when I had to alter my personal relationships. It is a proven fact that birds of a feather is true and unfortunately doing it all online will not work. You will have to change some relationships in *the real world* and you can't do that alone.

Believe me I took nothing you said as an indication that I have a disorder lol. I have grappled with my emotional health for years. I say that because I have always known what I should be doing...eating healthy...exercising...and what not BUT I just didn't do it. I've always wondered why. Why don't I do the things I know I should do? I don't know and that's what I wondered if I could find out through therapy. Maybe I have hidden issues I don't recognize...

 

I absolutely agree with revamping personal relationships. I have a friend that is also extremely overweight. We have been friends since middle school (that's like 35 years or so). She is just not interested in doing anything about her health...she has diabetes, and has had a "cardiac event" that resulted in a stent being placed in an artery. She is on an outrageous amount of meds. Recently her own doctor dropped her as a patient because she will not follow the plan the doc laid out for her. At this point in time I am reluctant to even tell her what I've been doing this week (been walking the track and really watching what I eat) because I'm convinced she will try to sabotage. It feels strange to type that out loud but it's happened in the past. As soon as I mention that I'm eating more healthy and or exercising I'll get a call inviting me out to dinner or something along those lines. I used to think that maybe I was paranoid....

Original Post by jasonrfink:

...I forgot too mention I used to be on 2 prescriptions, one for Blood Pressure and one for cholesterol. I am now on neither....

 

That sounds fantastic, and really very encouraging! My parents are on maintenance meds for both those things, plus for high blood sugar for my mom, although neither of them is really overweight. They complain about the cost of the meds, and have recently been exercising daily, and hopefully will start seeing good results as well. :)

Original Post by lmat091448216: ... As soon as I mention that I'm eating more healthy and or exercising I'll get a call inviting me out to dinner or something along those lines. I used to think that maybe I was paranoid....

I had several reasons for putting off trying to get more fit.  (1) My workload is insane and I kept saying I just didn't have time for exercise. (2) A lot of my coworkers go out to eat for lunch, and usually get fastfood, and as part of camaraderie, I always felt like I needed to go with them from time to time.  I didn't want to be the "weird fitness-obsessed person", or worse, to come off as preachy.  However, I've decided that, you know what? The company I work for will not go bankrupt if I work just 8 hours a day instead of 12. I do feel some kind of weird guilt that I'm not "as focused" with work, but... I deserve to take care of myself, right?  And also, so what if I become the weird fitness-obsessed person?  If/when I succeed, I'll have the last laugh, LOL.  Actually, several of us have realized that these habits are making us/keeping us fat, and we've decided to have a bet as to who loses the most weight in three months, but with conditions -- no starvation diets, no weight-loss pills, no cosmetic surgery.  We're doing this the right way!

It's unfortunate that your friend is... okay, let's be generous and just say that she's unconsciously sabotaging you instead of deliberately.  If it's still possible for you to have dinner with her but not overindulge -- and if you can ignore any potential snarky comments she might make -- then you can keep the friendship. Although I guess if she really is your friend, she'd support you even if she chooses not to take the same path you're taking.

In reality no one else can really be held responsible for sabotaging me. I have to be the one held accountable for what I do and don't do. I can be a big girl (no pun intended) and eat right in those situations where I probably wouldn't have before. It's all my choice to make. I have chosen the wrong path for a long time and made a bunch of excuses at to why...I will keep it real. 

 

I love this site btw! It's great to throw thoughts and ideas out there and get great feedback. It helps to keep things in perspective.

Hello! I read through all the posts here and really felt like jumping in with my 2 penny worth!

I have been on here for the past one month and i think this site is brilliant. I am hypothyroidic and despite regular workouts and long walks (by long i mean anywhere between 5 to 15 miles) I was not losing weight.

It was only after I started logging my food that I saw how many calories i was packing away in each meal . In the past month, i have maintained my calorie intake to about 1600 calories with a few cheat days and i have lost 8 pounds.

The food log and the activity log - to me they are brilliant tools!

Anu

Original Post by lmat091448216:

I always start off with a bang then fizzle. I've always been overweight and can't honestly say I ever really "tried" to lose weight. Very small attempts would be more like it.  I would tell myself and other people that I could always maintain and not gain but over the last couple of years that has not been so. Just since January I've put on quite a bit...to the point that I'm uncomfortable physically and none of my clothes fit. I came across this website the other day and tried it out. I really like it. I like being able to put my own recipes in and get the overall nutritional data. Thanks for responding to my post. I too have friends/family thinking..."here she goes again" with the weight loss stuff. I will be nice to just say whats on my mind. 

I know it's hard when you have that kind of mentality from friends/family. It can put a lot of unecessary pressure on you and what you are trying to accomplish. This is a great place to talk about what's working and what isn't. We are all on the same boat, so we won't judge.

Welcome!

You came to the right place. Everyone on this forum is super encouraging and they now how to get the weight of. They have been my support structure and advice column when I needed it most. Good luck on your journey. Do not think of it as dieting but as a lifestyle change. This is why you should change in such a way that you can sustain what you do to lose the weight and keep it off.Laughing

Thanks for your post.  My story sounds like everyone else here.  I'm constantly looking for motivation.  I read this article on the Yahoo website this morning that was very interesting http://health.yahoo.net/rodale/MH/the-truth-a bout-calories and thought I would post this for information only.

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We may not know eachother other than on C.C., but we are a BIG FAMILY anyway. We feel eachothers' pain and when one of us has a triumph, we cheer eachother on.  We stick by eachother and we know why we're all here. Welcome to the family and let us know how you're doing. I've lost 120lbs. and C.C. and my "cyber friends have been a lot of help. I hope you have a smoothe journey. We are here to help and encourage you to success!!!Cool  

I agree.  I started swimming in April, didn't see any results, and started the calorie counting in June. I wasn't so much surprised in terms of the calories per item, but was surprised in terms of how small portion/serving sizes really are.  Hopefully will see improvements by the end of this month. :)

Hi,

Imat09 from the post it looks like you have had a great response.  I would like to be on your team of friends.  I to have tried to lose and the weight just keeps crawling back and my family does not always support me in the weight lose track.  I guess because I say I am going on a diet and there is never much response or progress on my side of the fence.  My bigest problem is I have no self control if I want it I eat it.  Maybe we can help each other out. 

I am just like you. I have started and quit diets so many times my family is not supportive anymore. In fact everytime I tell my husband I am starting a diet he sabatoges my efforts. I also need support from outside. Good luck. maybe we can chat sometimes.
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