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Why do I feel FATTER now?


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Hi everyone,

Just some things that have been running through my head lately.

I'm a 24-year-old female just under 5'3.  A year and a half ago, I weighed about 185 pounds. I now weigh 129. I've gone from a pants size 12 or 14 to a size 4 or 6. I've gone through so many clothes since I started losing weight. I KNOW I'm smaller. I can put on the old baggy clothes, see the numbers on the scale go down, track the measurements, look at old pictures and be shocked at how big I was. I'm definitely proud of myself.

But why do I still feel HUGE sometimes? I have days where I feel fatter than I ever felt when I was at my highest weight. My original goal weight when I started was 130. Now I think I should get down to 110 or 115 to look my best. But then I think, if I am still not happy with my body after losing 55 pounds, will I ever be happy with my body?

Does anyone else feel this way even after losing a fair amount of weight?

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I think it's because you are more aware and conscious of your weight now than you were when you weighed more.   I know when I was at my highest, I was in kind of a denial state and just ignored my body to keep from thinking about how big I'd gotten.

How often do you work out? Exercise can help with self-confidence and feeling better about your body.

By the way, congratulations!! That is a huge accomplishment! :)

Original Post by andi8983:

I think it's because you are more aware and conscious of your weight now than you were when you weighed more.   I know when I was at my highest, I was in kind of a denial state and just ignored my body to keep from thinking about how big I'd gotten.

How often do you work out? Exercise can help with self-confidence and feeling better about your body.

By the way, congratulations!! That is a huge accomplishment! :)

 You're right, I was also in complete denial when I was bigger.

I do between 45 minutes and one hour of cardio (walking and jogging) 4-6 times a week, and sometimes do some weight training (can't really get into a routine though), and working out does definitely make me feel better.

Wow!  55 pounds.  That's fantastic!!  So inspiring!

I've never really been in your shoes, so I don't I can help much.  I lost 45 pounds 8 years ago, but the exact week that I hit my target weight I found out I was pregnant.  Two kids later, I am back where I began (actually, I was 25 pounds past where I began).

When I lost all that weight I was euphoric for a long time.  Weeks I think.  I never experienced what you are experiencing.  But then... I only really stayed at my goal weight for about 2-3 months before the pregnancy weight started coming on.

Is it possible that you are identifying with how you used to be, and not really seeing yourself as you are right now?  Or are you looking in the mirror at yourself right now and feeling unhappy with what you see? Are there particular things that you would like to change about yourself?

I've noticed that I really get mean with myself when I am sleep deprived, stressed about money, or PMSing.  Could it be something like that?

I hope you can figure this out!  Please let me know if you do Smile

Shana

Hi. I feel the same as you do. The majority of my life I've been between 105-130 until I was at my highest weight of 182 wearing a size 18. I'm now down to 133 in a size 10-13 (I guess depending on the brand). Even though I've lost a lot of weight I still feel huge also. I think it's mostly a "psychological" thing because in my head I know how thin I used to be. So when I look in the mirror I still see the "old" heavy me. I feel like since I'm not as thin as I used to be I'm still big. Just a few thoughts.

I generally feel the same way as well. I've lost 65 pounds, and some days I just look at myself in the mirror and just hate what I see. Its really hard to change the mindset. I'm scared of putting on the weight again, so I guess the more I worry about it, the more I think its coming back to me. Illogical at times, but just remember that you did lose all that weight. If you keep on your goal of 110-115 you WON'T regret it, even if you have days you feel huge.

Adni8983 I think said something that rings very true to me. Exercise is a HUGE self-confidence booster. For me, I can go from thinking I look huge, to feeling really fit.


Also, looking in the mirror in the morning, when your stomach is empty and no food is digesting in your stomach helps :P. I always look thinner in the mornings, makes me feel a little happier.

i heard that fat isn't a feeling it is a state of mind, and it makes sense. when you are feeling fat it is more a case of lacking confidence than anything else...interesting though don't you think?

I ALWAYS feel fatter when i've lost weight, its because i realise that i'm on a positive weight LOSS rather than gain and hence become more critical of myself......just stay positive and it does get easier !

We have a lot in common! I started at 5'4" at 190 lbs, lost 55, and now weigh 135. I sometimes feel fatter now than I did 55 pounds heavier.

I think a big part of it is definitely denial. When I weighed 190 lbs I didn't realize how big I was. I looked in the mirror and saw only what I wanted to see. Now that I lost all this weight my flaws seem more apparent and I'm way more conscious about my body.

I have more to lose, and I know I'm at a healthy weight but I just don't see it. All I can focus on are little flaws that nobody probably notices anyway. Sometimes I think I'll never be happy with the way I look Frown

When I started losing weight my goal was to be in the 130s. Now I'm aiming towards 115 or so.

Similar stats here.  5'2" and just went from 193 to 137 (56 lbs).  I'm so glad to see this thread!  I wouldn't say I feel fatter, because I know I'm not, but I feel ... something.  More critical of myself and more self-conscious.

When I was a size 18 the clothes aren't form-fitting.  They fit a certain way, to make you feel like you aren't overweight.  Nothing pulls or tugs, I never had to suck in my belly.  But now at a 6, I'm wearing clothes that show the shape of my body.  If I drink a lot of water I feel self-conscious that it's showing in my tummy area.  Things like that.  

I guess the point is that at 193 I didn't bother trying to hide anything because I couldn't.  But now at a normal weight, it's easier to compare to others and hold myself to a different standard.  But I have to tell you, when I catch a glimpse of my reflection I see how thin I really am and I do feel wonderful.  We all should!  

Oh, and penny07:  I completely agree with you about the denial factor.  I was convinced no one could tell I was overweight!!  How silly is that??

Just so you know men feel the same thing women feel. I'm male and I also feel fatter now than I did when I was 235 pounds in Jan 2009. I'm 182.5 now. I don't know if I feel the same cause I'm wearing the same clothes I wore back then since they are extremely baggy or the fact that when I look in the mirror naked I can't see a difference.

The only time I can really tell that I lost weight is when I'm in my boxers and wife beater shirt going to bed. These are two articles that never fit me but they fit now and makes my body look all slender in the mirror.

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