Girls in their 20's who want to lose about 100 pounds

beachbabe:  I am SO sorry, babe.  It's happened to me a couple times, and the first time it just---killed.  I was working at a hotel, when a guest came in and said, "I just have to say, you make such a pretty pregnant lady."  I didn't know what to do...so I smiled and said, "Thanks" really awkwardly.  Then she goes, "OH GOD.  You are pregnant, aren't you?"  I responded, "Nope, but I was just gonna let you get away with it."  Then, she apologized for about 5 minutes, all the while I got closer to tears.  She left--and then I cried in the back and had to pull it together when other people came in.  ---And then more recently--like--a month ago, I was looking FLY, shopping with my best friend.  I was in line for the bathroom, leaning up against a wall with my gut poking out, when a little old lady walked by and said, "Well they certainly shouldn't be making YOU wait"--and it took me a good 30 seconds to realize that the only reason she would've said that to me in an entire line of people...is because she thought I was pregnant.  GREAT.   Listen------TRY not to let it bother you too much, okay?  I know it's awful....but people are morons.

Shapie:  I'm SO BAD AT PUSH-UPS!!!  I hate them.  Is it okay if I do girly ones?  I guess I could do some against our kitchen table....I just did my 40 minute walk carrying 2lb weights.  Which may not do much.  But----I think I'm going to make it my goal to do SOMETHING for my arms everyday.  Be it walking with the light weights...or doing Wii Fit stuff...or some pushups or SOMETHING.  Because I think my arms are the only part of my body that I hate--that are VISIBLE to other people on a regular basis.  No one can see my nasty thighs on a regular basis.

muppet Every wittle bit helps.

hey ladies!

I'm skipping the gym today (too many things to do!) but at least I did a short Pilates routine and I plan to do another one tonight. Why? Because I S.U.C.K. at my Pilates class, and I want to improve. I don't want my instructor to tell me "just do what you can" and I want her to tell me to "Well, done! Now just push yourself harder" like she tells a classmate all the time. It was funny though, to look like a human pretzel on my yoga mat while trying to breath properly while thinking "I'll show that gym elastic bunnies that I can do it too!". We're supposed to think nice, peaceful thoughts... Details, details, details! I'll work on that later!

dalma, I loved the swimsuit. And you definitely know now how to pick clothes that show off your arms! I'm so jealous! And I get you with the crazy size ranges that you deal with in misses' sizing. Just before Christmas I got this amazing top at Pull and Bear, a size L which I loved. I wore it yesterday (for the first time) and now it's too big and since is a deep V neck I spent the whole time fixing it so my bra wouldn't show. My top section changed sizes in three weeks, wTf? The bottom part is a whole different story. I'm still a 10-12 no matter what.

akela, I'm sorry that David kept you up. I believe that kids up to the age of five are little dictators. My six-month old niece (which I often baby$it) likes to be carried around all the time. So I get your pain. Breath in, breath out.

beachbabe, I'm so sorry that happened to you. It has happened several times to me, even at a very very young age. The best thing to do is just to move on. And forget about it, because that comment came from a stranger who did it without the intention of making you feel down.

fallon, pickles? really? I like them but only in burgers and hotdogs!

muppet, If you can't do regular push-ups try to start with wall push-ups (standing up, hands over the wall, looks a bit weird, sort of kinky). Weight lifting does help but it may stall weight loss. The best results I've seen is with dalma, so I guess heavy weights do make a difference. In my case what has helped are both my Pilates and Pump class. Pilates elongates your muscles while Pump trims the fat. I'm slowly toning up and it took me a month and a half to see a difference. I reccomend to measure your arms so you see "actual" results faster. I use the metric system in measurements as well, just to keep a better track of even the small improvements.

re: guy friends

I was thinking about it last night. And one of the things I miss about having a group of guy friends is the simple egomaniac reason that they help me to stay fit. When I'm with guy friends we're usually doing something physical: taking pictures while hiking, playing Wii, watching games. While with my girl friends we're doing something that always includes a food sharing act plus a group whining session. I've suggested them to do something more active (hiking, swimming, I'm even open to go in a picnic outing!) but aside from a couple of exceptions they're really into this cake/chips/dip/ sugar loaded cocktails + chitchat routine.

Hello Divas

It's a wtf another raining day here in California. Yippe kiyaa.

Not much to report .Woke up super stupid early and got an hour workout on the ellipitcal. I just had a smoothie for breakfast. Guess I need to do something productive at work, just not motivated today.

I'm here.  Still sick/sick again.  Feel like poop. Scale holding steady at 159lbs since I can't work out and am eating sporadically.

Is it spring yet?

I really hate the rain. I can't go to the park again today because it's rainy and really cold. It's supposed to rain up until next week. Ugh! I finally got a good night's sleep last night. So I don't feel so blah, but now I am sick. Go figure. Well I def. have to work out some today. I haven't worked out since Sunday. I've just felt horrible all week long.

On to some good news, I think I found my wedding photographer. He has some great pictures and his prices are really affordable because he hasn't done too many weddings. Put all of his photos are amazing. For 4 hours he is only charging $350.00 then each additional hour is $75.00. I am just waiting to hear back about how many photos I will be getting for that 4 hours. Plus I've got most of my major things covered and picked out and I'm only at $3800 of my $7500 budget.

I haven't stepped on the scale today. I am kind of scared. Hope it doesn't hate me today!

***So I broke down and got on the scale, I am at 182.4lbs. I haven't weighed this much in god knows how long. I only need to lose 7.4lbs and I will be at my next stepping stone of 175.

Hey ladies! Thanks so much for the support! I really do feel much better knowing that I'm not the only one who has been mistaken for being pregnant. I was just really upset because it had NEVER happened to me before and I was actually so happy this morning because I lost 9lbs since I started about 3 weeks ago.

Unlimitedana - What is pilates like? I was going to take a class, but I have no idea what you do. Is it basically stretching and stuff? Also, maybe you can try finding a group of girl friends that enjoys being active! I'm surrounded by girls who love working out and keeping fit. They go to ZUMBA once a week (I can't because I have work, lol).  

Bootser1 - I'm definitely motivated today. Being called pregnant when you aren't really gets you fired up.

Ally - I can't wait until my scale reads 159lbs! I'm around 185 at the moment...

Dutchess - Keep going, girl! You can do it! 

My grandfather died this morning.  We just found out.  I'm sad...but....sitting on it.  I'm at work, you know?  Part of me is like, "It's for the best.  I knew it was coming.  I'm fine."  And the other part of me is just...so, so sad about it.  If I think about it--like--REALLY think about it...I'm just so deflated. 

So--I don't know if Ryan and I can go on our much-needed romantic weekend now...because my family may have to leave immediately.  My dad is under the impression that the funeral probably won't be until next week.  But my mother seems to think we'll need to hit the road tomorrow.  So--it could go either way.

Also.......it is almost certain that we will be driving.  40 hours round trip.  To Texas.  My parents.  My older brother.  And me.  In a car.  Because we're too poor to afford tickets on short notice, because it'd be over $2000 for four people. 

I really hope...selfishly...that Ryan and I get to go this weekend.  We never have days off together.  He took time off specifically for us to do this.  We need a get-away.  I want to see my best friend Lauren.  We're reserved a hotel.  We've reserved tickets.  We found Waffles a sitter.....and we don't often get this opportunity. 

And I'm just not ready.  I'm not ready to go.  I'm not ready to see the body.  I'm not ready to cry with my family.  I'm not READY for this.  I need some time to process it.  I can't hear he died today and then just BE THERE tomorrow. 

I need more time. 

And just the idea of leaving Ryan and Waffles to go mourn without them seems so foreign.  They're what lift me up.  And I won't have them there.

muppet---I am sorry to hear about your grandfather. I felt the same way in September when mine passed away.

beachbabe---I am going to try my hardest to do it. My last mile stone I was off by 3lbs. So this time I want to try and make it.

Muppet- I'm soo sorry to hear about your grandfather. Even if it *was* for the best, that doesn't make it hurt any less! My thoughts go out to you and your family. 

this week - 1 lb... :( But it's TOM so any loss is ok..

hello lovelies, crazy week for me per usual.  Im back up to 307, TOM is in full force, tomorrow may nto be a good weigh day for me I'm affraid....

Just checkign in quick I wasn't stellar this weekend, but undermaintenace and thats all I can ask on the one dat I get to see my man outside of pjs and actualyl go socialize, not high hope for this weekend either, its wine on ice ( local wineries all pack into the hockey arena and drunkness commenses)

Hope everyone is doing well.

Edit: I didn't even read befor eI psted... Hugs muppet. sorry for your loss

muppet I'm sorry that this is so rough on you. My friend Dennis died of cancer (jeeze it'll be 3 years ago this April) and my other friend Hannah had a trip booked to Las Vegas and was in the same perdicament that you are in now. One of the administrators at our school (who was really close to Dennis) told Hannah that he would have wanted her to go and have fun - which is completely true, he was quite the good-time guy - and Hannah went and we honored Dennis a few months later by donating arts and crafts supplies and visiting the children's hospital that he was treated at.

If you're not ready to mourn, don't let your family make you. Honor your granfather when you're ready. Funerals (I agree) are too soon after the loss and don't really give you enough time to mourn and gather some sort of closure.

I say go on your mini-vacation with Ryan. Explain to your parents that you will make a trip to visit your granfather's grave when you're ready to say goodbye but right now you need to mourn in your own way.

I can imagine them being upset that you don't want to go. But I can't imagine them hating you for wanting to do something so difficult in a way that's easier on you.

muppet:my gmother passed away a year ago. I was numb. I didn't want to go to the funeral/wake. They made it into a celebration of life kind of thing. I thought it was stupid. Do what you need and want to do. It took over a year before I felt normal again but I was hecka hecka close to my gmother ---like she was my mom. Let us know if you need anything ((HUG)))

Shapie:  I do want to go to the funeral.  And--I LOVE my mother's family very much.  And seeing them during this time would be great.  It's just...I need more than a day, you know?  If the funeral is in a week or five days or something--I think I can handle it.  I just....need more than 24 hours to process before jumping into a car on the way.  I DEFINITELY want to be there.  I just...maybe I wasn't as prepared as I thought I was. 

brit- I am so, so, SO sorry, hon. I hope you're getting on, okay. And it is NOT selfish to want to keep plans that you and Ry made ages ago. I *know* you've got to be there for your family, but I still hope you get to go on your mini holiday. 

Dalma, Muppet, Boots, Fayny, Kath, Mladdy, Iwill, Ana, MSN, Akela, Shapie and Watchme, you guys are the best - Unfortunately I didn't get Dalma's message soon enough - I weighed in again this morning at 202.5 - I really think it was a glitch yesterday LOL I haven't given up though - I am going to the gym tonight to try and make it a reality!

Shapie you are still in the running ;)

Fayny: I hope your back feels better. Look up some lower back stretches on you tube. And don't do them if they hurt!

MSN: Love that you called me Carls - that's been my nickname for years - so funny!

Dalma: LOL Hey they're trying - we were once gym newbies too. But yes, I will be glad to be rid of them. My gym is really close to my work so I see them handing out flyers and promoting on my way in. I think I'm gonan start taking the flyers just so that there is one less chance of someone joining! LOL P.S. I totally missed your original post where you said you fit into a size 6 but others have commented and WOW lady - WOW. I have never been a size 6, I can't even imagine! Congrats!

Akela: You are so sweet XOXO I lurve ya too lady! Good luck with the 22's you can do it!

Muppet: Mahi Mahi is delish - mmmmmm so jealous! - Sorry about your granpa hun :(

Oh Beachbabe :( That used to happen to me all the time... The worst is when you get even bigger and people realize that your just fat and they STOP offering you seats SIGH

PUSH UPS: I suck.

Shapie...keeping fingers crossed for the sister!!

Elf...sorry to hear about your gram :(

Watchme, yeah I'm not focusing on being single or not, just going with the flow and at the moment my flow is single.  And know what you mean about setting your self up for faliure, I don't set too specific goals cos yes its about the numbers in and out, but its too calculated, all our bodies work differently, and outside things etc...at the moment I'm forgetting about all the numbers and just watching what I eat and working out...and so far been doing great, still 20lbs up from my lowest but I hope to be there in a few months and just keep moving from there.  I had that once with a guy, we used to talk all night had an insane schedule it was nuts!!

Dalma...communication is KEY in all relationships!! I think I missed where you said you're a 6!!! WOW!!! It makes it so real to "know" and have followed someone's progress and totally makes me proud (in a not creepy way) almost like you can graduate from this group!  That dress is beautiful

msn...I actually am not gonna do it at the moment, it is something I would like to revisit in the future, but its really pricy and I don't feel like I am getting what I need to from it, yes you have to keep doing something to get good at it, its not cos I dont feel good at it, more I have too much weight in the way to be doing what I need to do and it frustrates me a little, so I will definitely revisit the idea when I am smaller, just trying to keep it real.  On the plus my knee is all better so gonna go back to spin! and Zumba is cheaper and sooo much fun, so gonna find a place near by.

mladdy...enjoy your vacation

Dani...lurking is also allowed!! :)

Muppet...totally agree zumba is amazing, and makes me feel sexy too!! now I'm all in the mood for going, must find a place asap!! Can't give you much to go on about arms...I can fly domestic with mine still...! Ryan sounds awesome!

Thanks Akela, took the day off from the gym yesterday to give my back a break, it's still hurts a little, but for sure better.

Beach... :( that does suck, but in away isnt it better to have someone call you pregnant than fat?! I have an aunt that has a bunch of kids and always looks pregnant, and she actually loves being pregnant etc...is that type... anyway they were at the airport checking in for a trip and someone from the airline pulled her over and said ma'am sorry you can't fly you're too far along...anyway she burst out laughing the guy was a young guy turned all shades of purple!! to her it was the biggest complement you could pay her and they all got upgraded to first class!! But in the moment it is totally mortifying I know that feeling!! so sorry you had to experience it!

sorry about your grandpa muppet.

i got a blazer in a 6, but i'm not a total 6, fayny. this was some mystical jacket, i'm sure. plus, my bottom is still solidly a 10. but i'll take a small size wherever i can get it!

re arms: it might not seem like it, but as you lose weight, you're losing arm fat, too. i didn't realize i'd lost any arm bulk until i wore a tight-fitting sweater i hadn't worn in months and it wasn't tight anymore. the arms were crazy loose and flowy! so give it some time, they're shrinking!

Am I allowed to eat junk food today because I ****ing GD feel like it?  I just ate two 100-cal packs of hostess cupcakes that will push me up to 1750 today if I keep the rest of my calories on point.

Maybe I should just accept that today will be a 2000 calorie day.  Haven't lost anything this week eating 1500-1600 calories anyway.  SIGH.  GIVE ME A TURKEY SANDWICH.  OR SOMETHING.

I give you a pass today Muppet. But don't eat anything you'll feel guilty about alter. Only eat it if you can deal with the aftermath.