Girls in their 20's who want to lose about 100 pounds

dutchess Whaaaa? Was this planned? Should we be happy?!

akela You and me both...that damn video tells ALL! I'm committed, and I'm ready to cut out the dairy with you in August. I can't promise that I'll NEVER eat ANY dairy, but I'll make a conscious effort NOT to add cheese or milk or butter to something.

elf That's awesome that you WANT to go out and be active. YAY! I'm hoping to get to that point soon. And you were always pretty, so don't be silly...but I understand feeling "prettier" than before.

timid I've given up on my mother. She had gastric bypass two years ago and was doing great. Like even pumped to go to the gym and work out and whatever, but once her stomach expanded a little she was back to her old ways, sneaking food in the kitchen when no one was looking and eating CRAP. I would even call her out on it and yell at her and tell her THIS IS WHY she is the way she is and THIS IS WHY we are ALL the way we are and why we ALL have poor eating habits and that what she does affects other people. She didn't seem to really care nor did she want to take responsibility for it. She's gained a little weight back this year and just got a lap ban put in. Basically she's fine with losing weight but then sucks at actually changing her habits for good and maintaining. I understand your frustration because I feel it too.

galaxy A little trick I picked up for sitting and standing straight. Next time you're watching tv, during a commercial break get up and stand with your back to the wall (or in a door frame if you've got too much junk in the trunk...everyone's shaped differently) Then focus on trying to lay your shoulder blades flat against the wall, or if you're in the door frame try to pinch the door frame with your shoulder blades. And hold that for the length of a commercial. Then rest for the next commercial, and hold it for the next one after that. If you do it once or twice a day for a few minutes, it'll really help train your muscles. That and wall sits really help too.

Feeling better today. Felt super dizzy when I got home yesterday (even after eating plenty of calories and drinking over 75oz of water. So I drank some Gatorade when I got home. My cousins were over saying Happy Birthday to my Mom and my one cousin is an athlete, like plays international soccer athlete, and he told me to mix the Gatorade with water so it'll absorb faster. Drank a Gatorade and a half mixed with water and felt better. Finishing off the rest of the Gatorade and water mixture today and hoping that'll push me into the clear. Damn this dehydration crap is AWFUL.

I felt SO bloated this morning too, blah. Just a bad week weight wise, yesterday and this weekend I was 197ish and today I shot back up to 199. Stupid water weight and crap!

Hey girls--just checking in really quick.

Back up to 230.6 today...and I was perfect yesterday, truly.  Working out, water, high deficit, healthy food--the whole deal.  I'm trying to remind myself that when I FIRST started doing this...it took three weeks with my body doing NOTHING before I suddenly dropped 8lbs in 11 days.  So...I'm not giving up.  Because I KNOW I'm doing it right.  I'm not messing up.  I'm not doing poorly.  I'm doing it RIGHT. 

I've worked out 5 of the last 6 days--and I'm taking today off so I can squeeze in a nap.

About to go to my first interview.  (The interview I'm REALLY excited about is tomorrow.)

Also--our air conditioner is broken.

Also--I'm so sleepy.

Also--------------I'm gonna kick ass the rest of the year.  I wanna be 199 on January 1st.  That's 31lbs.  And I've been stuck in this area for over a month.  And I've been stuck within 5lbs of this area for over two months.  So I think it's time to just-----------DO IT UP hardcore. 

Thinking happy thoughts about your interview muppet! And thinking cool happy thoughts for your nap later.

Shapie, I've kinda had to come to peace with the wedding I'm planning too.  It's kinda scary because although I haven't been planning my wedding forever and ever, since I've been engaged, I've found all these great ideas and seen all of these great themes... And with every wedding decision I make, it takes away an alternate path that could've happened.  So now, as the wedding takes shape, I've had to let go of some of the other equally good ideas that I've had/seen, and it was a little hard at first... But I'm still excited! And thanks for the posture-practice ideas! :-)

Fallon, consider yourself lucky... The first 6 months I had my IUD I had cramps so bad that I actually couldn't walk.  I'd curl up into a ball under my desk at work.  I was popping ibuprofen like they were candy.  It was brutal!  How long have you had yours?  Which one did you get?

Elf, I'm glad you had a great weekend!  Yay for having other people notice your skinny-ness! And double yay for feeling good about yourself!  That's better than all the new clothes and recognition in the world! :-)

Akela, I guess the e-cigs seemed gimmicky to me because for a while the only place I heard about them was on radio commercials that fell between ads for "male enhancement" and miracle energy pills and stuff... You know, the kind of things that are kind of too good to be true.  So I never really thought much of them.  When the smoking ban passed here, all of us ('cuz I was one then) just got banished to the patios (which is easier to do here where there's no snow, lol).  Actually, it was kind of funny... The whole reasoning behind the smoking ban in bars here (restaurants passed the year before) was that more non-smokers would come out to bars because they didn't smell like smoke, and the employees wouldn't be forced to breathe in second hand smoke all night... The first weekend I went out to the bar after the ban, there were like 50 people crowded onto this small outdoor patio, and like four people inside... On top of that, you could never find a bartender inside because they were all outside smoking!  I got a kick out of that... I mean, the ban was a good thing for sure, I just thought the reasoning they used at the time was silly.  Why not just say, smoking is bad and the more difficult we make it, the more people will quit and not use up tax dollars on future health problems?  'Cuz that's what they meant!  In any case, (sorry for the tangent!), the FH DOES like boy toys, so maybe an e-cig would be perfect for him!  I'll most def look into it!  Also, I KNOW you can be kickass this weekend!  Don't think of the past three months as wasted... You weren't gaining, right?  It sometimes takes longer than we'd like (um, I've been at this 2.5 years!), but in the long run, all the working out and not gaining is good for us!  You'll get there, chica!  You can do it! :-)

Dutchess, I'm glad to hear about the interviews, and congrats (that is, if you're excited and happy about it!) on the potential little one!

Timid, there's a bunch of us who've been trying to help loved ones get on track with weight loss.  They say they want to do it, and they do genuinely want to lose weight... They're just not ready to put in the work.  And we understand in a way, because we've been there, but we also want to shake them and say, "you can do it, dammit!  The quick fixes don't work, and the hard work isn't as hard as you think it is!  It sucks, but it's worth it!"  I've been working on the FH for years, and although he gets into it a little bit, it never really sticks.  All you can do is be supportive and wait for them to come around...  I don't have any direct mom advice, but I know Dalma has had some similar experiences trying to help her mom... Maybe she has some insight?

Galax, it's so funny that you mentioned posture... In one of my pics from trying on wedding dresses, I noticed how incredibly hunched over I looked, and I've been trying to correct my posture ever since.  It's hard and it sucks.  Honestly, it's super uncomfortable to sit up super straight and walk the proper way... I'm hoping if I can stick with it for a few weeks it'll become habit, though.  I actually tilted my computer screen at work up a bit so that I get a bad glare when I'm slouching, and HAVE to sit up straight to type.  I hate it, lol!  Good luck with your posture practice!!! Hopefully both of us will improve soon! :-)

Muppet, Good luck with the interview!  I'm sorry your A/C is broken... That's sucky.  I hope the apartment folks get it fixed quickly! :-)

So I went and worked out last night.  I took it kind of easy since it was my first day back, and I'm afraid I took it too easy.  I just did weights, and I fully expected to be stiff and sore today, and I'm not, even though I struggled to finish my reps.  On the bright side, maybe I'm not as out of shape as I thought I was...

Happy Tuesday, ladies! :-)

Shapie: Don’t be jealous. We’ll be around for a good 60 years and in that time we’ll both see venues that we’ll wish we could have had. I’m sure there are tons of venues in NY that I would DIE for. I just haven’t looked cause I don’t want to be angry! LOL Now who’s this photographer? I missed it.

Iwill: You are so close! Do it!

Dutchess: No way! WOW! Congrats!

Muppet: Sorry about the gift sitch. I’ve put my foot in it a few times too in that regard. Just love him up til he forgets about your reaction LOL I TOO need to lose 30lbs this year. I lost 35 last year and nothing this year, in fact I’ve gained a few back. I definitely need to kick more ass!

Pissed:  I called my apartment complex to tell them about the AC--and the woman at the front said she'd been meaning to call me anyway---because people had reported that we haven't been picking up Waffles' poop!!!!!  I was SOOOOOOO pissed.  I pick up like 1-3 poops a day--every SINGLE day.  ALL THE TIME.  I ALWAYS pick them up.  I always have a bag handy, etc, etc.  And this person described me, said they knocked on their window trying to get my attention (to shame me into picking up a poop they claimed I didn't pick up?)--and that I just kept on walking--and left a poop there.  They are "positive" it was me.  And they commented that "We (Ryan and I) look like THOSE kind've people."  What does that even MEAN?  Also--why are you watching me out of a window?  Oooo, I am sooooooo mad.  I'm gonna wave those poop-bags around and sing poop-pickin-up songs every time my dog takes a deuce now.  I told the front office they're welcome to DNA test every poop on the lawn.  Jerks. 

Morning Ladies!

I am off today. I got some things done this morning that I needed to take care of. Now I am waiting on my lunch to cook. I went to the library to check out some college books and practice test books for the ACT which I have to pass to get into college.

elf: Jason and I haven't really been trying. Congrats on feeling great about your self. You really should. You look great and your an all around wonderful person.

timid: I think your mom will come around. I did try the Alli pills before and they really don't work all that well. I don't think I really lost any weight at all.

galax: Don't touch the chips. If you do want some get a small zip lock bag (the snack size) and put some in there.

And to all my other Diva's: I am totally happy about maybe being pregnant. The first test I took said absolutely nothing. It didn't show one single thing, so I bought another one and will be taking it today. I will def. keep you ladies posted.

morning ladies. its pouring outside and freezing in here. why the crap am i up so darn early? ugh!!!

dutchess........ well congrats!!!!

muppet that sux. i hate it when you call to complain and they through some bs at you. i had that happen but we have no poop rules in this ghetto so we fought.  thats funny about putting your foot in your mouth. haha. you cried, i would have been pissed!!! only cuz it's not what i asked/hinted for.

ally i just got my iud last thursday. i was cramping so bad last night. it was horrible. i was reading up and ppl say its more like labor pains than period cramps. i believe it.  i got the 12 year but i will probably take it out and have the 5 year (merida or whatever) in like may. i so dont want a period.

welcome newbies!!!!

akela i hate when that happens. or there is just a very bad picture of you abd you are like "OMG!!! i am STILL that big?!!!" yea that is the worst.

august challenge one week left of alcohol!!!! so not looking forward to that challenge. my man said he will help by only drinking once a week. HA! whatever. its nice that he says it, but he cant do it.

Thanks for your ideas, I will need to pop up the the library, I also found the fitness channels last night on sky so i have set a few things to record and give them a go tonight.

I have also introduced a few new rules in our house

1. You need to have at least 1 handful of veg with dinner (or 1 piece of fruit afterwards)

2. You need to taste a new piece of fruit or veg every week (must at least chew it).

I am trying to get the kids eating more healthy too, my daughter is really good but my son is a nightmare with veg.

I have also been roped into going sswimming with my fiance and the kids (not that I want to be seen in my swimming costume) but it gets me back into it and i never really felt swimming was excersising so I am keeping my fingers crossed

Lx

timid: Congrats on the ipod! And yeah, don't register those things right away until someone tech savvy has a chance to play with it. Whenever I get any sort of new electronic device I always give it to the boyfriend first.
Sorry to hear about your mom being frustrating. Unfortunately you have to step back and let people screw up their own lives sometimes. Makes it especially hard when it's your parent who's doing it though. My mom went on this CRAZY starvation diet once where she was getting weekly injections of some hormone. She lost a ton of weight but had heart palpitations, developed ovarian cysts and felt really weak and crappy all the time. I wanted to punch her :P And of course, when she started eating like a normal person again she gained it all back.

galax: I can totally relate to your house sitting cravings. I feel like whenever I'm not at my own house I have a much harder time eating healthy. Especially if no one else is home.
Have you ever tried buying the heads of romaine or red leaf lettuce? They last WAY longer than the loose mixed greens kind. My heads of lettuce last at least 2 or even 3 weeks in the fridge. I waste a lot less that way, plus they're less expensive.

shapie: I'm really glad you're feeling better! I'll have to remember to mix gatorade and water next time I'm dehydrated. Also, water weight is DUMB

IUDs: Do they really cause bad cramps? I was thinking about getting one at my next gyne appointment because I'm sick of being on the pill. Was considering mirena I think it is? the one that still has hormones. I've had a couple of pregnancy scares before and I just don't want to worry about it. Besides, I'm going to grad school so babies are NOT in the picture for at least 5 years. Maybe I'll get the under the skin implant instead...or the shot. I dunno, looking for something I don't have to worry about.

Muppet: Sorry your apartment people suck about dog poop. I really hate when you KNOW you're being responsible about something, and people try to blame you for it anyway. It's such crap (pun intended)! You could always start piling up his poop on their doorsteps if you wanted to be really bitchy about it ;)

dutchess: Good luck getting ready for the ACT! Even though I love science (I majored in biology) the science part was the hardest for me. They asked a lot of stuff about how to set up experiments. I'll be studying for the GRE sometime soon so I feel your pain! Also, best of luck on being pregnant!

mum: Something that worked for me as a kid with vegetables was playing "pretend." For example, I didn't want to eat lettuce or broccoli, but me and my mom would pretend to be dinosaurs and the lettuce and broccoli were trees. When I was a dinosaur I loved eating vegetables. :P Maybe this will help your son, I don't know how old he is.

Shapie, ally and dutchess: aww thanks for the compliments girls <3

My August challenge will be to do 10 real, on the floor push-ups. I can do 10 push-ups now, but they are inclined NOT on the floor. I also want to run for 20 minutes straight.

Speaking of running, I really think I need to either start getting up earlier to run or run at night. By 9:30 or 10 the heat/humidity is already so high that I feel sick when I run. I ran Sunday at 8pm and it was so much EASIER and more comfortable for me. I was still sweating and working hard, but I wasn't drenched in sweat and feeling like I was going to die like I was today. When it was cooler out, my pace, breathing and posture were all better. I'm going to try getting up at 7 and hitting the pavement by 7:30 or 8 on Thursday and see if that's any better.

technology/men Umm I'm totally guilty of running to Jason or my friend James when technology is baffling me. In fact I just spent like 20 minutes on the phone with James asking him what cell phone I should get. Literally, I'm a lost cause sometimes. // Jason promised to build me a desktop when I move in which is really exciting, can't wait to chose my own specs and everything!

muppet I would find out who is really leaving the crap around, and then bag it all up and leave it on their window sill. Yeah, almost as bad as burning bag of dog crap, is bag of dog crap roasting in the sun IN your window. There was someone who lived down the block from us who would let their dog out and it would crap all over our lawn. So my dad would shovel it up, walk it down the block and leave it all over his front lawn. He finally got the message about tying up his dog properly.

elf If I were to wake up early and run, I'd have to wake up and be at the gym by 5am, I think 7am is no prob for you. But yeah, it does get really hot and your form/stamina will suffer in the heat of the day.

timid, i think we have the same mom. they're hardheaded and you can't do anything with them.

let us know when you know for sure, dutchess!

So the test was negative, but I am still happy. That gives me more time to get a house and go back to school. Not sure what I want to do. I was thinking an x-ray technician but I've also always wanted to be a teacher. le sigh! Looking into what classes the college offers.

I will be preparing for my GED test on the 9th & 10th or the 11th & 12th. Then I will take my test. They only charge $7.50 so I am really thrilled, (most places want like $100 for the GED test). Got me some books on the ACT test and college, and grants. Wish me luck ladies!

The gym was hard today. I'm tired and cranky now.

Muppet: OMG, that is aggravating! I think I'm a bit less aggressive than some of the other ladies here, but I can see where they are coming from. Also, good luck on the interview! And may I say, I really admire you for your positive attitude about your weight loss. I know you will kick ass for the rest of the year!

Dutchess: Best of luck! I took the SAT rather than the ACT, so I can't suggest much about studying there. I remember that the math sections were easier than I was afraid they would be, but since it's a different test I don't think that'll help much.  Standardized tests are generally not so bad when you get down to taking them, though. (Unless some airhead keeps letting her cell phone ring without even turning it off during the whole thing! That made me angry.)

Elf: Romaine is okay. I'll have to give red leaf lettuce a try. Also, I would recommend against the birth control shot. The side effects list is pretty random (may cause weight loss or weight gain, may cause increase or decrease in sex drive), so maybe it would work for you, but it didn't for me. I tried it once, since I have trouble remembering to take my pills and I do so hate my periods, but I gained a lot of weight (like, 30-60 pounds, not entirely sure what my starting weight was) even though I was swimming laps daily and eating 2,000 calories per day. Also, my (usually quite high) sex drive dropped off to practically nothing. This was just for one shot, which lasted 3 months. Of course I never went back for a second shot!

Mum: Don't be embarrassed about people seeing you in a bathing suit. The way I look at it, everybody can tell how fat I am even when I'm completely covered. Sure, I avoid really skimpy clothes because nobody wants to see all of that in detail, but bathing suits are all skimpy, so there's not much other option. They may not like what they see, but I'm sure it's only what they'd expect to see, and they can get over it. Going out swimming is helping me do something about it! Besides, you'll be underwater most of the time anyway, right? My mother hasn't got swimming since I was very young because she doesn't want people to see her body, and I feel sorry for her.

Shapie and Ally: I've got a huge butt, so the wall thing is difficult, and all the doorways are too wide for me to fill with my shoulders. Also, I don't watch TV. Oh well. I did remove the pillows from the bed in hopes that sleeping flat on my back will help, and I've been trying to sit up straight at the computer. I have a notebook, though, and no desk, so it's a little tricky to do that and still see! We'll see how it goes at work today, where I do have a desk! Best of luck to us! Oh, and I hope your water trouble ease up soon, Shapie!

galax:  I've actually found a lot of helpful sites. I even found some good books at the library. Hopefully I don't have some airhead next to me letting her cell phone go off.

Hi everyone! This is Abby, many of you I'm FB friends with, my old name was abbypoo. I was away from this forum for a long time, first because I was incredibly discouraged at gaining back all the weight I had lost, and then because a nasty person googled me and found this forum (so I deleted all my old posts as well as my old profile). But anyway, no one cares about all that crap. For those of you who didn't know me before, Hi I'm Abby!

So here's what's going on with me and my progress. I have *finally* figured it out... for me, anyway. Last August I topped in at 278, and I'm proud to say that I am now down to 234 as of this morning. That's 44lbs, most of which has been lost since February. 

My "secret" is eating less and eating healthier. I know, big secret. However, as I cannot control what I put into my mouth (ice cream, in particular) I just eat less of it. I consume little meat, and stick to whole foods for the most part. This is the only thing that has worked for me b/c I'm too lazy and unorganized to keep track of every little thing I eat or to exercise regularly.

Exercising, however, is on my list of goals. I really want to get a bike but I want to lose a little more weight before I invest that kind of cash as I'm afraid it will just collect dust otherwise.

Anyway, I really missed you guys and I'm glad to be back on here!

galax:  I wouldn't admire my positive attitude TOO much...it comes and goes. ;-)

Not working out today (but have been up and down stairs a billion times at work today!)  Had a fiber bar, a subway sandwich, a banana, a sugar-free jello pudding, a granola bar...and for dinner, I think I'll be stopping on the way to the hair-place.  So I'm thinking a Jimmy John's lettuce wrap.  Without the mayo.  Meaning just lettuce, turkey, sprouts and mustard--for like 100 calories.  Sweet.  1500 calorie day.  Probably a 1300-1400 calorie burn. 

Check in more later, ladiesssss!

iwill: It's so past time. :) And YOU are doing awesome. So close to the 190's. I'll bet you're super excited. 

dutchess: I look amazing... Amazingly fat. *lol* It's okay. Like I said, it's not like I didn't "know". I was just... Ignoring it or something. No more. Now I'm working of "fixing" it. OMG! Congrats on the news! I hope it's good news for you guys!! Keep us posted. 

elf: So horrible to really "see" yourself when you're not doing well. But... I'm grateful, because it was a wake-up call. And apparently I needed (another) one. :) You should be so proud of you. You're doing amazing. :) I'm totally hoping that my exercise mojo will be like yours, someday. The real stupidity is that I mostly LIKE exercise. I just don't always make time for it like I should do. 

timid: I dropped the ball on my cleaning. And Wed. is my normal cleaning day but we've been busy for weeks and I'm getting so behind, again. Not that I was ever actually catching up, but you know... At least I was spending multiple hours TRYING to get caught up. I need to get back into my FlyLady routine. Yeah. I'm one of those people who needs "help" keeping house. It's not so much that I'm a slob or even that I'm lazy... I think it's mostly poor time management, to tell the truth. I am hoping as David gets older it will be easier to get things done. We'll see. I'm so sorry about your mom. That must be super frustrating. I hope that as you get closer and closer to goal she'll finally "see" it and maybe want to do things the right way. I have some sympathy for your mum, though. This is HARD. Everyone would like to have the "miracle cure". It just doesn't exist. That's just a hard realization to come to. But I hope she makes it. It feels so much better (physically and mentally) when we're doing right by our bodies. Doesn't make it easy, but it is an awesome feeling.

(I'd like your recipe for tofu wings, too, hon, if you get time.)

galax: Grats on your losses so far! Hey, slow and steady is GOOD with this process. It makes us more likely to be able to maintain a healthy weight in the long run. I haven't lost much, yet, and I know it's going to be a long while before I can see any differences. But it's def. frustrating, nonetheless. Wow. Your doc said it was "okay" to eat so few calories?? That's a bit scary. I might have missed something in your intro. Why so low? Good luck on your challenges, hon! And hope you can avoid temptation at the folks while you're house-sitting. 

shapie: It's day two and I'm still feeling awesome! *lol* Seriously, though... If I can make it through this week it will truly make next week that much "easier". Seems like if I can just keep the ball rolling in the right direction for multiple days the momentum helps keep me going for awhile. *Touch Wood* Anyway, yeah, no way I can give up dairy "forever" but interested in the August challenge. And it's just nice to know that I'll be shaving 100+ cals off most of my meals. I eat cheese on EVERYTHING. Seriously. There's currently at least 7 different cheeses in my fridge. It's a bit ridiculous, really, but... Whatever. :) Thank God for Babybell Light!! Hope you're back to 100% ASAP. 

muppers: Good luck on the interview and screw the people in your apartment. I would have told the lady who "confronted" you off. Period. You don't have to put up with that ****. 

ally: I've got to mention some stuff on (our) local smoking ban, but it's going to have to wait 'til after work. Hold that thought. *lol* In the meantime *hugs*

mum: I lurve swimming. Even if I do have to parade around in a suit to do it. It's worth it. And really, I think you'll be amazed when you get to the pool... I don't think anyone really "notices" anyone else. Esp. when you're there with the kiddos. 

must catch up on the rest this eve!

Off to do some major cleaning and sling some beer down the pub. *Hugs* to all.  

abby Sup lady! Did you get your dress yet?! :P You know I'M DYING to see it!

akela I'm just in it to see what happens! I'm sure it'll be hard to not have cheese on everything (I also typically have it with lunch and dinner), but I think I can make it through...