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I have no ambition to lose weight. All I do is sleep all day and work until 1 am I just graduated college and lose some during school (due to stress) but I still weigh 140 and I am 23. I want to be 120-125 and I can not seem to STILL get on track. I make up one excuse after another. Everyone tells me to lose weight bc it will make me happier and healthier and I know that. I just can't stop eating... Soda is my worse enemy and carbs are the devil for me. I can't exercise much bc of my current work schedule. I am currently looking for a full time day job which I think will help a lot but in the mean time suggestions , stories, and ways of living to fix my eating habits! I am clinically depressed and can barely look in the mirror any more without crying so I need a pick me up or I'm afraid I'll get worse :( HELP!
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this happened to me too :( i was kind of in a slump b/c i worked odd hours (everyday from 7pm to 3am) and would be so tired and hungry i would just go to denny's (a 24hrs diner) for a REALLY late dinner (or is that breakfast? lol) i was so depressed with the way i looked that I just wore sweats all the time and didn't buy any new clothes etc. What really got me to change and jump start myself again was my period (weird, I know). Everytime I got my period I used it as an excuse to binge, but this time, when it ended, I kind of convinced/brainwashed myself into thinking the depression and stress and everything was caused by my menstruation (LOL) and forced myself to feel happy! And it worked! I began to feel happier about myself haha. I also convinced myself the bloat from the binge was caused by my period XD and stopped worrying about it (b/c naturally it'll go away when my period stops right?). It's always easier to not think about losing weight all the time - and just let it happen as a side thing. As for the habit of eating all the time - it really is hard just going cold turkey from your old bad habits. Try changing one small thing at a time - don't overwhelm yourself. It may seem like things go at a snail pace when you do that but it really does add up!

To deal with cravings though, I find a skinny person (my brother haha) and feed him the thing i want to eat and tell him to describe it to me XD. I also have a retainer so I make sure to put that on to deter me from eating.

Good luck! Hope this helps, and I know you can do it ;) Just know that you aren't alone in these struggles and you'll make it ^____^

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I feel the same way.  I'll be 30 in a month, am 5'6" & currently weigh about 170 lbs.  I'd like to get down to 140 in a few months if possible.  Problem is that I work graveyard shifts, so when I get off work in the mornings, the last thing I want to do is exercise.  I also want to change my eating habits, but find it difficult as I am a little bit of a picky eater.  I live alone & hate cooking, especially just for me, so I find it's easier to just drive down the street for some fast food.  I really want to start making a change, both in my eating habits & in exercising because I want to be healthier & feel better about myself, but just can't seem to find the motivation to do it.  I always tell myself that I'll work out later today, then later today I just say I'll do it tomorrow.  Then tomorrow comes & it's the same cycle all over again.  Other times I'll start exercising, or going to the gym 3 or 4 times a week, but I only stick with it for about 2 weeks and then get tired one day and don't go back again for another month or more.  It's really frustrating and it's nice to know I'm not the only one who feels this way.  But still, a change needs to be made & I'm just not sure where to start.  Do I just go all in, or do I take baby steps?

I'm also in my twenty's and I guess I'm stuck in a horrible cycle... 

I know I can loose the weight because I've done it before, but I need a cycle breaker ASAP.

The horrid cycle: So I've gained a few pounds --> I feel fat, my pants don't fit --> I feel unattractive even though people stare at me and tell me I'm beautiful many times, BUT I just don't want to hear it because I'm not comfortable with myself with this extra weight. it makes me sad sometimes that people envy me, but just because of a few pounds I don't have the full confidence to embrace myself --> so from my attitude of self hate I guess I give off a bad vibe, which repels guys --> this makes me feel fatter, so I go home with a renewed frustration --> I vow to eat better tomorrow --> I wake up eat well, but I'm frustrated the whole day and so overdose on carbs... and it continues for the whole winter. I keep telling myself that if I was seeing someone I would be motivated, but I wish I had motivation coming from within.... 

Don't propose exercise I don't have time for that...

I want to break the winter curse: I have never been able to loose weight in the winter, I even gain sometimes around 5-10 pounds, and people say that is normal, but I WANT TO AND WILL LOOSE THIS DAMN WEIGHT. Mark my words: THIS WILL BE THE WINTER I LOOSE WEIGHT!!!!

For me, the most effective way I have lost weight has been counting my carbs: I give myself maximum 180 a day, which is a good amount. Maybe for you it will be less like 140-150 because I'm taller and heavier. I just need the motivation and hardcore will power not to go over 180 by 1 gram. But I will do it this winter.

my weight: 178

height 5' 9.5

Goal: 169 by the last day of February

162 by spring break. Then I'll set a new goal when I reach that hopefully

Join me Ceejay I really need someone to share the struggle with. Maybe this will be my cycle breaker. we can be accountable to each other. I'm starting right now!

"I am clinically depressed and can barely look in the mirror any more without crying"

Have you seen a doctor, and are you on a treatment plan? Before anything else, you need to deal with your depression.

 

You should consider finding a local Overeaters Anonymous meeting and get some face to face contact with others. I have attended only 1 meeting so far, but it has helped already.  I plan on attending 2 per week, I would go more, but that is all that is offered in my area.

Please see a doctor,or someone, because at your age it will be easier to loose the weight when you get in the right mind frame, believe me it gets harder as you get older, I am 64 and 160 lbs at 5'3 this not good,I am trying to stick to 1200 cal a day,which I am mostly managing,but the thing  that is the hardest is exercise, I have arthritis,which really is no excuse,I walk my dog for 1/2 hour and thats about it,I am retired so have no excuse,got a WII and all the keep fit discs,but getting the motivation to do it is another,  I hope you find a job,and have a good life,it WILL get better.good luck.

I have lost 100 lbs with 3 key components nutrition, fitness, and support.  I host challenge groups whereby members following similar programs get support from one another going through the same challenges.  I guide the group on what worked for me along my journey.  This gets results and I would recommend this for you.

Definetely take care of your depression first!!!!! You'll be amazed how much of your difficulties will resolve once you are mentally healthy.

 

If you're like me, maybe long-term benefits are harder to see right now than the immediate benefits of eating better choices.  Take it one meal or snack at a time.

So instead of telling yourself, "If I eat/drink healthier choices for several weeks/months, I will eventually lose weight" try focusing on the right now benefits - 

"If I put down the soda and have water instead, I won't have a sugar crash in a couple of hours" 

"If I eat a balanced meal instead of this carb-filled snack, I'll have so much more energy and won't feel weighed down"

"If I go for a short walk before going in to work, I'll have endorphins that will lift my mood and make me happier throughout my work day" 

I find eating better to have one consistent side effect every time: You start feeling so much better mentally, emotionally, and of course, physically.  And you don't have to wait weeks or months for it to kick in. 

Good luck - you CAN do it!

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Definetely take care of your depression first!!!!! You'll be amazed how much of your difficulties will resolve once you are mentally healthy.

 

Yes! Completely agree to get this taken care of as well (except it doesn't have to be before you start IMHO).

This is for everyone out there that are young and have their whole life ahead of them. First , if you are clinically depressed , are you getting the help you need? Fighting depression is not easy and please don't let them get you started on drugs. Go for therapy and find out the reason and work on that. Drugs make things worse in 90 out of 100 cases. Other than that, please don't find one excuse after another of why you can't have the body you really want. Knock those negative thoughts right out of your head. There is an answer to every excuse you can come up with and you know it. Don't waste your life and wake up at 50 finding that you are still not the person you could have been. It takes hard work to stay healthy and fit. Why is it that we put so much effort into our education, our relationships, etc and when it comes to our own well being we find excuse after excuse as to why we can't change. If you really want something go after it and don't wait until years pass by to do it. Overeating never made anyone happy, it just made them fat.     

I just posted a similar journal entry.

I suffer from dysthmia - a general low level of depression that is year round, persisiting for more than 2 years (i've been suffering with it since about 13). I have major depressive episodes as well. i totally understand the feelings of low motivation, hoplessness, and helplessness.

i guess my first suggestion is: go seek therapy and/or medication. i've been off meds for about 2 years, but i'm getting back on.  i go on/off therapy as needed.  When i feel like i can't handle stuff anymore, that's when i head back to my therapist. i just started going back to her again because i'm really wanting to change my life but my depressive symptoms are through the roof. a lot of what you are experiencing sounds like more of the depression than anything. So perhaps dealing with those symptoms (over sleeping, excessive crying/sadness, lack of motivation/procrastination) first will help.

The other thing (which i'm trying to work on too!) is to stop beating myself up so much for my weight. All of us with depression internalize our emotions, so the stress, anger, annoyance that we may feel about external people and issues in our lives gets turned inward.  i am trying to work on positive affirmations to relieve myself of some of the pressure. i KNOW i will be happier once i lose weight, the problem is, i will never be happy (or get there) if i keep belittling myself for not being able to eat healthy enough, work out hard enough, lose the weight fast enough, etc.

i dunno if you have a good support system (i don't :( ), but if you do, FORCE yourself to call people, get out with friends, family, guys, whatever.  The more active/social you are, the happier and more connected you feel, the less food becomes an issue. i've been trying this and i know that i've lost at least 10lbs just giving myself more of a purpose.  it's hard because sometimes i hate myself so much that i can't bear for anyone to even look at me, but getting out and having a good time sometimes can help.  Basically, food is replacing something else you want. Figure that out. Treat the depression. And if you make "mistakes" try not to kick yourself for it! Just know, lots of us are going through it with you!

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Our situations are totally opposite.  You're young and female.  I'm 63 and male.  Depression I can relate to in the form of PTSD that's been with me for 40 years.  I'm only chiming in because I just went through and extended period of unemployment for 19 months.  A combination of a lay off and prostate cancer surgery for a tumor that was found right after the layoff.

Talk about depressing times..  I found a solution though.  I started walking every where I went.  If I wanted to go out to eat, I walked.  Exercise, I walked.  Go shopping, I walked.  Go visiting I walked.  I put under 1000 miles on the car last year, and it was worth every minute of it.  I volunteered to walk peoples dogs, just to have another excuse to walk.  The endorphins released while walking, and exercising in general, are a natural high. 

Now I've been back at work in a job that I love for 5 months and the main thing I miss is all the walking.  I still walk a mile or two to lunch a couple of days a week and I walk on weekends, but I was averaging between 3 and 7 miles a day while unemployed.  It made the whole thing bearable.

My suggestion to you would be to try it.  If you feel depressed or hungry go for a walk instead.  It may sound corny, but I always feel closer to God when I'm out in nature.  Going for a walk in a park or the woods brings me closer and with faith we can accomplish anything.

Good luck with your struggles.  There is a better life out there..

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I am/have been in your shoes.  I work full time at Indiana University, I run a horse boarding facility at my farm (so I am up at 5am to feed and as soon as I get home I feed the horses and clean stalls).  I am married but no help from my husband what so ever (which is my own fault).  He does not help me with the horses nor does he help me with the daily house chores so it is up to me to cook, clean, laundry pay bills and so on.  I am 48 years old and I WILL loose 60 lbs.  I know it is hard, you believe you have no time for yourself.  It is a very hard adjustment for me, but I AM MAKING time for ME!!! this is something that you have to do.  I have always catered to everyone else and let myself go.  DONT DO THIS, HARD ROAD TO RECOVER FROM!  I am like you, I cannot seem to live with my Diet coke and bread.  But I am limiting myself to 1 diet coke in the morning then drinking water, green tea.  Instead of buying white bread, I am buying Eziekel Sprouted bread which I find simple dilicious.  I have already dropped 6 lbs since I started over a week ago.  Eating lots more veggies and fruit.  Believe/trust me, this is something you can do.  Instead of talking, I need to, say "I WILL DO".  This is another thing I had to over come is my phrasing of my words to myself.  I thought it was kind of silly but it does make a difference.  I wish you the best with this endeaver and with your life.  Keep positive. 

I'm sorry you feel so bad.  You look so happy in your picture.  I'm no therapist but speaking as someone much older than you (who'd love to be your age) who has dealt with depression on and off I know some things that have worked for me (none of which are easy). 

1.  get outside...you need sunlight.  Have you heard of SAD (seasonal affective disorder)?  Does your depression get worse in winter?  Mine does and even if you only spend 15 minutes outside in the sun it'll make a differnence.  This wasn't easy for me because I hate being cold but I make it a point to go out and take a walk in the sun whenever it's shining. 

2.  exercise...I know it's easy to say but when you're depressed hard to do.  If you are really bad I'm talking about anything...leg lifts in bed :)  It will release feel good hormones.  Aim for a minute of exercise and go from there...baby steps. 

3.  I tend to crave carbs late in the day (at night) so I save my carbs for at night...I don't know if that's the healthy thing to do but that keeps me in check calorie wise when I'm having a bad time of things (emotional eating).

I feel so bad reading your post and wish there were something i could do to help you.

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"get outside...you need sunlight.  Have you heard of SAD (seasonal affective disorder)?"

This was what I was thinking as well. If you don't have much sunlight in your area, (as much as I hate to say it) you might want to try a tanning bed for a few minutes every other day and see if that helps. Also, increase the amount of natural vitamin D and B you get in your system (don't just take a multi-vitamin). This could just be a vitamin deficiency that started the whole cycle. 

What seems to help me when I get into a rut is to make myself busy. And I do NOT mean with work. I mean, get involved with something you LOVE to do. For me it was helping my mother and grandmother with their gardens on the weekends and planning them in the winter. I also design quilts and paint. I would get so wrapped up in what I was doing that I would lose track of time and (miraculously) forget to eat my snack! Mind you, if you can hold a slice of pizza or stomach a diet coke while you are doing it, try to find another hobby:) 

Also, with your diet, you can take baby steps. I started out by giving up things that I didn't really like anyways and rarely ate. This made me able to get started rather easily! I don't really like cokes or red meat, so the first month, I gave them up! I never really realized how much crap I ate that I didn't like! I actually lost weight on that first month! Plus, I felt much better, and got an emotional boost because I wasn't tempted to give in (because I never really liked them anyways!) Then I slowly started "fasting" from other, more problematic areas (for me poultry, cookies and candy bars, and cheeses). It takes about a month for your body to adjust to each craving. Granted, you will still have cravings, but they will no longer be so intolerable. Actually now, I get sick when I try to eat hard candy. I can't stomach too many sweets and cheese anymore either because my body is so used to whole foods! I worked long shifts for a while and needed an extra boost to get through the day. Since I had been caffeine-fasting for so long, when I did have caffeine and sugar, they worked like speed lol.

I went from borderline obese to within my normal weight range by following these suggestions. As a bonus, I also feel better and am much more patient with my husband and other relatives and friends now as well because I'm not so centered on myself and my stress anymore. I hope some of these suggestions can work for you as well. Just remember, it's not about losing weight, it's about becoming a healthy person, inside and out. You really can't have one without the other.

The first think to do is give yourself a break, you're only 15 lbs over your target weight! That's not a bad problem to have. Boy I'd love to only have 15lbs to go!

Getting outside is great even when it's cold, a quick walk and you'll be amazed how it can lift your spirits for some time!

On this site's blog are some tips for exercise at work, can you incorporate any of them. Some are as simple as walking to see a colleague intead of using the phone. Standing up to have a conversation when you do use the phone.

To break the soda habit, make sure you have something else available to drink! How about getting some club soda (soda water if you're a Brit like me) and adding a squeeze of lemon. A few days later after trying this you'll love the clean refreshing taste. The taste of sweet drinks will no longer be sought!

I went on a course many years ago to do with business. The presenter was very knowledgeable about the human condition. One of his recommendations was to stand up especially when facing difficult problems. Your brain works differently when you stand up. It always worked for me and even now when I'm retired I do it when facing any difficulty. Have a go!

Another exercise you can do anywhere is a squat, here's a way to do it at home or in a sedentary job. Stand up off your chair, go to sit down, but stop just before your bum hits the chair, and then stand up. Works the biggest muscles you have, which will burn calories and make your bum look good. How good is that?

I can fall into very black moods myself, so I know where you're coming from. I'm lucky I have a lot of friends for love, support and encouragement! Perhaps there are folk rooting for you too that you could give a call to?

Finally I expect you're one of the couple in your photo. Some folk on here do have avatars of others. Well boy it's a photo of an aesthetic couple! So if you're the chap, I'm sure you'll look great now and better when you've reached your target. I suspect you're the lady as ten stone would be mighty light for a chap! Believe me you're beautiful, go and grab that mojo back!

Regards

Ian

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I've been where you are!  All of the suggestions are good ones.  The main thing I would say is deal with the clinical depression first. See your doctor, find a therapist, and find the right combination for you.  It will take some time but you will start to feel better.  Once the clouds lift, you'll be better equipped to make a plan for getting physically healthy as well.  I went through something similar a few years ago, and with the support of my husband and wonderful therapist, I was able to get better mentally.  After that, things started to fall into place because I had increased energy and felt like exercising more and making better food choices.  I still have my days where I eat stuff that isn't great for me, but everything in moderation!  Exercise helps alot with the endorphins, even if you just start with walking around your block for 10 minutes.  It will get easier.  Take care and good luck!!! 

Thank you so much everyone. So as far as depression I have been on medicines for about 2 years and saw therapist that kind of just make it worse. So when I posted this I went off my medicine on my own bc I felt it was doing nothing but bad things. I feel better now off of it and getting back into a groove. I am eating better and exercising again slowly. I think the medicine was worse and I felt like I was in a slum in life. Nothing was progressing and I was gettin more depressed. Recently I have gone on some interviews with great prospects and me and my boyfriend bought a house. So all my thoughts go into shopping and decorating( which is awful for our bank accounts but great for my mood and health) this gets me out walking and keeps my mind of food.

For awhile I was on a fast food kick and soda. I unfortunately have not stopped drinking soda but I have stopped fried food and fast foods. I am eating more natural foods and less of snacks. I still have another about 200 cal to cut back but I'm certainly getting there. I have been walking my pup and trying to get in a better all around mood so I am hoping pounds will drop naturally. I've lost about 1.5 if it counts lol but I was happy to see numbers dropping finally.

One thing is.. How does everyone deal with eating out because I love to eat out! Like subway and like wawas and muscle maker grill! I'm not sure if everyone had heard of them but I love eating out? Any suggestions?

Again, thank you I appreciate everyone sharing stories and taking your time to help. Means a a lot! Happy groundhog day and have a good day! :)
Thank you so much everyone. So as far as depression I have been on medicines for about 2 years and saw therapist that kind of just make it worse. So when I posted this I went off my medicine on my own bc I felt it was doing nothing but bad things. I feel better now off of it and getting back into a groove. I am eating better and exercising again slowly. I think the medicine was worse and I felt like I was in a slum in life. Nothing was progressing and I was gettin more depressed. Recently I have gone on some interviews with great prospects and me and my boyfriend bought a house. So all my thoughts go into shopping and decorating( which is awful for our bank accounts but great for my mood and health) this gets me out walking and keeps my mind of food.

For awhile I was on a fast food kick and soda. I unfortunately have not stopped drinking soda but I have stopped fried food and fast foods. I am eating more natural foods and less of snacks. I still have another about 200 cal to cut back but I'm certainly getting there. I have been walking my pup and trying to get in a better all around mood so I am hoping pounds will drop naturally. I've lost about 1.5 if it counts lol but I was happy to see numbers dropping finally.

One thing is.. How does everyone deal with eating out because I love to eat out! Like subway and like wawas and muscle maker grill! I'm not sure if everyone had heard of them but I love eating out? Any suggestions?

Again, thank you I appreciate everyone sharing stories and taking your time to help. Means a a lot! Happy groundhog day and have a good day! :)
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