I need help to motivate myself :/ I'm a failure!
Soly
I keep motivation through my daughter, she's 4yrs old. I want to be able to keep up with her and I want her to learn the importance of a healthy lifestyle. For everyone it's different. Try taking a picture of yourself now and when you feel like breaking your plan take a look at it and remember why you want to stick to it. Keep yourself in a good mood. Blast music and dance, remind yourself of the good qualities you have instead of only focusing on the bad. A good attitude will help you achieve your goals.
I think you will find that many of us have felt the same way. I certainly have. You are not a failure, and that kind of thinking is self-defeating. The problem, for me, was that negative self-talk became something of a mantra (unfortunately), and my resulting behavior was a self-fulfilling prophecy. As long as I thought I was a failure I was destined to play the role.
I have lost about 50 pounds since coming to CC. I log calories daily, and I work out regularly. I still intend to lose another 35 pounds. Sometimes I grow impatient, but most of the time I am enjoying the more energetic, slimmer version of myself. To sustain myself on this journey I have had to find my rewards in places other than the scale: At the end of the day I congratulated myself for sticking with the plan, for adopting healthier habits, for going the distance in the gym. As I have lost weight I have delighted in buying new clothes or adding another challenge to my workouts. If I had relied on pounds lost to propel me I suspect that I would have grown frustrated--and gone on yet another eating binge.
I'm not on a diet. "Diet" suggests something temporary to me. I am changing my lifestyle. You may have heard the axiom "move a muscle, change a thought," and as I've made these changes I have changed how I look at things. It was helpful to me to join up with various challenges here on CC. I read lots of posts, and I've learned so much. Believe me, people here know how it is, and they are willing to support you.
Its not an issue of willpower. Willpower gets the ball rolling, habit is what maintains momentum. Focus on forming healthier habits, one at a time. A good one to start with is to only drink water, tea is fine, but you get the idea (i.e. cut out all sugary liquids). Then you can increase vegetables, decrease processed foods, start/increase exercise (start out small, ex. 30 minute walks, and as you progress you will be more comfortable with higher intensity/longer duration), learn to cook healthier good tasting meals (again, baby steps, slowly replacing your meals with healthy options as you learn new recipes), etc.
You shouldn't dread doing this. For example, learning how to cook good tasting food is important so you don't have to choose between healthy bad tasting food and unhealthy good tasting food. The choice becomes do I choose healthy good tasting food and unhealthy good tasting food and its obvious which one is preferable. Same with exercise, find something that you enjoy doing.
If you try to start all of these at the same time, it can be overwhelming and you are simply setting yourself up to fail. You should be nearly certain that you can achieve the task you have set for yourself. Lifestyle means its part of your habits, something you don't have to think twice about, or something you enjoy doing.
I'm so glad I read this today. I diet, diet, diet then get scared about something and eat, eat, eat. I can't even picture myself at my goal weight. It really isn't about a diet, iit is about changing my life.
I want to be healthy and around for my kids. It really needs to be a lifestyle change and focus on fitness and health. Not just a diet to lose weight. Make small changes that add up over time. You are more likely to stick to it if it's not so overwhelming. Find a physical activity that you enjoy doing. Also, I get a lot of support from this site. That helps me keep up my good habits as well. You are not a failure until you quit trying! Be kind to yourself and nurture your body. It does a lot for you every day :)
Original Post by solyneedshelp:
I did it twice and lost the weight with strict diets just to gained all back plus some.. But yes, it does make sense to start off slow since I always try everything at the same time.
Strict diets are too hard to maintain and lead to weight regain, as you have found out. Better to take longer and make it permanent! You can do it :)
hi ladies ,
I had to open another account because I couldnt remember my password and had problems with the one name solyneedshelp...
this is my new one!
