Planning a wedding has me falling down on the diet JOB. HELP!
Ok girls, I been working my BUNS off for a week now.. I am not getting any where with this.. I had to look at wedding gowns already.. HIS mother can make me one. But i don't think so. I am losing it over here big TIME... I said yes to HELL.. A year of Getting the i do over from the YES I WILL MARRY YOU! Date has been set.. APRIL 28 of 2007 That falls on a saturday..
Now what! WHAT am i to do. I been eating my butt off ---- right back into them 20 jeans i will go if you girls don't check me quick.
Met with the Wedding planner. Looked at 20 dresses.. Still nothing is clicking. The only thing that has been good for the day of hell is the wedding bands. He picked his. I picked mines. I went for diamonds.. He asked me, don't i have enough already.. I told him a girl needs her diamonds and pearls on her wedding day don't you think..
Yeah we got them too.. HE said that will be his something new from him.. Now i know about the something new. SO i told him to take it back. Get me something for mother's day with that money.
I am really losing it over here. Now that we got all of the mess for me on the table.. I was like ok. I got to get to the site and tell the girls about this.. AND what i am doing. I am FREAKING OUT.. HE wants to move the date to October of this year. I want April it gives me time to lose 30 more pounds i said. He is like. I love you the way you are. You are perfect to me. Yeah right! Sell the Bull shit to the woman down the street i tell him.
He said, You are losing your mind on this one. I said no I am gaining my ass on this one. I mean really.. I can't do this now. I mean really.. Did i mess up witht the yes i will marry you or what?
I am binging over here.. I am eating every thing under the sun. If it is not nailed down to the table it is in my fat mouth. Not only that. I have been nothing but mean to him.
He said walk it off.. I said easier said than done.. Then we go car shopping.. We could not agree on a car for me. I said lets get another SUV.. He was like.. No! One of them is enough gas to high. Then he said lets go for a car that saves on gas. I said , you can't save on gas.. We can't save on milk either..
Then he goes and tell me once again. I am losing it.. AM i really losing it. NO! You think. I said yes before i got to my goal weight. I said yes. Now what!--- I yelled at him.. Then he said. Get over yourself you are going to lose your weight and put that pizza down..
Now lets get you a salad.. LOL let the kids have the pizza..
I fussed for over a hour because he told me to put down the pizza. I told him.. What i am fat? Is that what you are calling me. Then he said, you can't pick a fight to get out of this I DO. You said yes and i am holding you to it.
REALLY GIRLS, am i losing my mind.
Stressed out and over eating..
~Lynn the next best thing to a wide load..
Now what! WHAT am i to do. I been eating my butt off ---- right back into them 20 jeans i will go if you girls don't check me quick.
Met with the Wedding planner. Looked at 20 dresses.. Still nothing is clicking. The only thing that has been good for the day of hell is the wedding bands. He picked his. I picked mines. I went for diamonds.. He asked me, don't i have enough already.. I told him a girl needs her diamonds and pearls on her wedding day don't you think..
Yeah we got them too.. HE said that will be his something new from him.. Now i know about the something new. SO i told him to take it back. Get me something for mother's day with that money.
I am really losing it over here. Now that we got all of the mess for me on the table.. I was like ok. I got to get to the site and tell the girls about this.. AND what i am doing. I am FREAKING OUT.. HE wants to move the date to October of this year. I want April it gives me time to lose 30 more pounds i said. He is like. I love you the way you are. You are perfect to me. Yeah right! Sell the Bull shit to the woman down the street i tell him.
He said, You are losing your mind on this one. I said no I am gaining my ass on this one. I mean really.. I can't do this now. I mean really.. Did i mess up witht the yes i will marry you or what?
I am binging over here.. I am eating every thing under the sun. If it is not nailed down to the table it is in my fat mouth. Not only that. I have been nothing but mean to him.
He said walk it off.. I said easier said than done.. Then we go car shopping.. We could not agree on a car for me. I said lets get another SUV.. He was like.. No! One of them is enough gas to high. Then he said lets go for a car that saves on gas. I said , you can't save on gas.. We can't save on milk either..
Then he goes and tell me once again. I am losing it.. AM i really losing it. NO! You think. I said yes before i got to my goal weight. I said yes. Now what!--- I yelled at him.. Then he said. Get over yourself you are going to lose your weight and put that pizza down..
Now lets get you a salad.. LOL let the kids have the pizza..
I fussed for over a hour because he told me to put down the pizza. I told him.. What i am fat? Is that what you are calling me. Then he said, you can't pick a fight to get out of this I DO. You said yes and i am holding you to it.
REALLY GIRLS, am i losing my mind.
Stressed out and over eating..
~Lynn the next best thing to a wide load..
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Okayyyy.... now, repeat after me:
Breathe in.
Breathe out.
Breathe in.
Breathe out.
April 28, 2007, is almost a year away. What the hell are you doing looking at wedding dresses? You're OK. Relax! you have plenty of time. Do you have a plan yet? There are a bunch of great online tools, just like CC but for weddings. They will give you a timeline and a checklist, so you know what has to be accomplished when. If you are planning on getting married someplace popular, like a public garden or a church, that's the FIRST thing you need to worry about. The NEXT is making sure you have the minister you want, and that all your family can be there. Those are the important things, the rest is gravy. oops, bad word there. the rest is fat-free salad dressing <g>
You have plently of time. Don't even look at dresses until you're closer to your goal weight. That's in August, right? So from August to April is months and months you'll have to get the dress altered. One of my gals at work just got married, but she had to get TWO dresses cause she lost so much weight between getting the first dress and her wedding. So think about that.
And, honey, I gotta be blunt. Don't be so scared of him leaving that you drive him away. Seriously. Right now you're scared... not that things will be bad, but that they will be good. and you're wondering if you deserve it, and you're trying to sabotage yourself any damn way you can. relax. breathe. you are a beautiful, wonderful woman, and your man appreciates that as much as we do. be gentler with yourself, OK?
Breathe in.
Breathe out.
Breathe in.
Breathe out.
April 28, 2007, is almost a year away. What the hell are you doing looking at wedding dresses? You're OK. Relax! you have plenty of time. Do you have a plan yet? There are a bunch of great online tools, just like CC but for weddings. They will give you a timeline and a checklist, so you know what has to be accomplished when. If you are planning on getting married someplace popular, like a public garden or a church, that's the FIRST thing you need to worry about. The NEXT is making sure you have the minister you want, and that all your family can be there. Those are the important things, the rest is gravy. oops, bad word there. the rest is fat-free salad dressing <g>
You have plently of time. Don't even look at dresses until you're closer to your goal weight. That's in August, right? So from August to April is months and months you'll have to get the dress altered. One of my gals at work just got married, but she had to get TWO dresses cause she lost so much weight between getting the first dress and her wedding. So think about that.
And, honey, I gotta be blunt. Don't be so scared of him leaving that you drive him away. Seriously. Right now you're scared... not that things will be bad, but that they will be good. and you're wondering if you deserve it, and you're trying to sabotage yourself any damn way you can. relax. breathe. you are a beautiful, wonderful woman, and your man appreciates that as much as we do. be gentler with yourself, OK?
what saroful said.
*throws myself over your cupboards*
don't do this to yourself. you're sabotaging your happiness with food-do you think that you don't deserve the wonderful guy(from what I'm getting from your posts, he's great), the wonderful wedding, and just general good stuff? you do. you deserve all the wonderful things life chooses to toss your way. take it, embrace it, and tell yourself as many times as required that day that you deserve it.
because you really, really do.
*throws myself over your cupboards*
don't do this to yourself. you're sabotaging your happiness with food-do you think that you don't deserve the wonderful guy(from what I'm getting from your posts, he's great), the wonderful wedding, and just general good stuff? you do. you deserve all the wonderful things life chooses to toss your way. take it, embrace it, and tell yourself as many times as required that day that you deserve it.
because you really, really do.
Holy Moly! Wow! Eeeek!
Yes, please breathe! saroful knows what she's talking about.
Weddings are stressful. No doubt about it. I watched 6 of my girls friends go through it last summer.
Turn to us, not to food! Turn to us, not to food! Yes!
It's going to be crazy, and that's OK. Then, it's going to be over. Please do enjoy the ride, no matter how frazzling it may be.
We are here for you! (keep me posted on the car thing, I gotta get one too, not looking forward to that stressful day!
~amberly
Yes, please breathe! saroful knows what she's talking about.
Weddings are stressful. No doubt about it. I watched 6 of my girls friends go through it last summer.
Turn to us, not to food! Turn to us, not to food! Yes!
It's going to be crazy, and that's OK. Then, it's going to be over. Please do enjoy the ride, no matter how frazzling it may be.
We are here for you! (keep me posted on the car thing, I gotta get one too, not looking forward to that stressful day!
~amberly
Lynn, just remember WHY you said "Yes!"....because YOU love him and HE loves you. Getting caught up in the little itty bitty tidbits that send us into fits is taking away from WHY you said yes!! Realize it, expect it, and have fun with it. :o) AND.....when it DOES get to you (as we know it will!)...do exactly what you did today! Come here and vent to us and let us all JUMP on you to keep you from spontaneously combusting. LOL! Girl, HAVE FUN!!! God is playing with you right now, and giggling like crazy!! :o)
Lordy, girl. Please just stop what you are doing and take a deep breath. Now, back away from that Pizza :)
Your BF sounds wonderful. He obviously cares deeply for YOU!!! He LOVES YOU!!!
Now start thinking about where you want to get married!!! Your wedding date may change depending on where you want to do this. Unless your date has significant meaning then it could go the other way :)
Go to some bridal shows. They have awesome ideas. But ultimately it is YOURS AND YOUR DH DAY, no one elses. So don't let anyone talk you into something you absolutely do not want!!!
Look for another wedding coordinator. You don't need to find a dress right now. You have up until about 3 months before the big day to get a dress. I have been told that 3 months is sufficent time for any alterations that need to be done.
Last but not least, Have fun while you are doing all this planning. It can be very stressful, (Dh and I wanted to elope a month before we got married cause my Mom was upset I wasn't getting married in a church and my future SIL was upset, cause she wasn't in the wedding, It seemed like everything was falling apart) we just put our foot down and said this is how WE want it and we are going to do this for us not anyone else.
One piece of sound advice, don't buy a wedding dress too small thinking you are going to loose the weight to fit into by the wedding. :) I did that and took my dress to be altered. 6 weeks later I show up for my scheduled fitting and they hand my dress to me in a bag in peices telling me they can't do it. YIKES!!!!! I ended up having to go 3 weeks before the wedding and buy another dress. Now that was the most stressful of all. I gained weight instead of lost :( If anything, buy one that is a little bigger and get it altered closer to your wedding date.
((((((((LOTS of HUGS)))))))
Trish
Your BF sounds wonderful. He obviously cares deeply for YOU!!! He LOVES YOU!!!
Now start thinking about where you want to get married!!! Your wedding date may change depending on where you want to do this. Unless your date has significant meaning then it could go the other way :)
Go to some bridal shows. They have awesome ideas. But ultimately it is YOURS AND YOUR DH DAY, no one elses. So don't let anyone talk you into something you absolutely do not want!!!
Look for another wedding coordinator. You don't need to find a dress right now. You have up until about 3 months before the big day to get a dress. I have been told that 3 months is sufficent time for any alterations that need to be done.
Last but not least, Have fun while you are doing all this planning. It can be very stressful, (Dh and I wanted to elope a month before we got married cause my Mom was upset I wasn't getting married in a church and my future SIL was upset, cause she wasn't in the wedding, It seemed like everything was falling apart) we just put our foot down and said this is how WE want it and we are going to do this for us not anyone else.
One piece of sound advice, don't buy a wedding dress too small thinking you are going to loose the weight to fit into by the wedding. :) I did that and took my dress to be altered. 6 weeks later I show up for my scheduled fitting and they hand my dress to me in a bag in peices telling me they can't do it. YIKES!!!!! I ended up having to go 3 weeks before the wedding and buy another dress. Now that was the most stressful of all. I gained weight instead of lost :( If anything, buy one that is a little bigger and get it altered closer to your wedding date.
((((((((LOTS of HUGS)))))))
Trish
Girls, I am just losing my mind over here. Now i am thinking i got to be out of my mind to be doing this right now. LOL.. Ok. Now i can relax.. LOL.. Oh no i can't relax.. I am losing my mind. House shopping car shopping. Got the rings out of the way yeah.. He wants his mom to make my dress.. I am losing it. I saw some of her work. She is good.. But not for making my dress.. I want it to be mines one i picked out. Not one that someone tells me i need to do this and that. I just need a freaking break..
lynn.. you are marrying him so that you can be with him for life.. right? the wedding is just 1 day out of that wonderful life together. i never once stressed over my wedding because to me the date of the wedding is just the first day of the rest of my life. you will be fine.. he sounds like a great man! remember why you said yes and what a wonderful life you guys are going to have! you will be fine!
and i agree with the above.. BREATH! :)
and i agree with the above.. BREATH! :)
chill baby. tell him if he wants you to be happy and not stressed then April 28th it is. Tell his mom you love her and appreciate her wanting to make the dress but you dont want her to have to worry about anything while preparing for the wedding. maybe she could make the bridesmaid dresses or something like that ??? You have plenty of time so just take a deep breath and relax. You have a wedding planner? then let them stress! Let them narrow things down for you and then bring it to you! you are looking for a house...tell a realtor EXACTLY what you want and pick a day to go look at the ones they picked for you. Cars can be looked at and picked out online...once you narrow it down then you go in person to look at them....Dresses are the same way. Go online and search of www.theknot.com or one of those sites, you can enter in the type of dress you want and it will search for you! Heck tell us what type of dress you are thinking of and we will look with you online! this is all for a day of happiness that leads to a life of happiness, dont stress. you have people at your disposal for a reason put them to work!
hey!!!! lsisten, can u recognise maybe ur emotions over the wedding is being taen out on ur food routine???
im here with you on this, but hopefully as it all calms down and sinks in ur proper routine can get back to normal.
with regaurds to the date of the wedding, DONT THINK ABOUT IT!!! becuase
1) yoou cant lose the weigth any faster than ur doing it now. that would do harm to urself.
2) what will be will be......
bac to the posts about the "do's and donts" Listen to ur soon to be hubby. he loves you for YOU! . coz the guy DOES want to be with you hehe.
Weddings are stressfull things i hear, so prepare urself and try look at the situation before eating out of stress.
Im sorry if this is completely useless im good at being usless., but i tried.
sending you hugs
K xxxx
im here with you on this, but hopefully as it all calms down and sinks in ur proper routine can get back to normal.
with regaurds to the date of the wedding, DONT THINK ABOUT IT!!! becuase
1) yoou cant lose the weigth any faster than ur doing it now. that would do harm to urself.
2) what will be will be......
bac to the posts about the "do's and donts" Listen to ur soon to be hubby. he loves you for YOU! . coz the guy DOES want to be with you hehe.
Weddings are stressfull things i hear, so prepare urself and try look at the situation before eating out of stress.
Im sorry if this is completely useless im good at being usless., but i tried.
sending you hugs
K xxxx
First: Congratulation!!
Second: Ugh. Weddings!
Sometimes I think weddings are a test. If your relationship survives and still want to be together after all that planning, it's gotta be true love!
I swear, our engagement was the most difficult time in mine and hubby's relationship. Dating was fabulous. Now is fabulous. But once we had to work out buying a house and where, what kind of a wedding we wanted and where and who - ugh! That was so stressful.
We didn't have a long engagment, either. Engaged in June, married in October. I'm kind of glad it wasn't any longer because it would have just been more stress.
About looking at dresses already - I don't think it's necessarily too soon. With some gown designers, you need at least 6 months. Besides, that's part of the fun. But it might be too soon if Lynn's going to lose more weight before.
Second: Ugh. Weddings!
Sometimes I think weddings are a test. If your relationship survives and still want to be together after all that planning, it's gotta be true love!
I swear, our engagement was the most difficult time in mine and hubby's relationship. Dating was fabulous. Now is fabulous. But once we had to work out buying a house and where, what kind of a wedding we wanted and where and who - ugh! That was so stressful.
We didn't have a long engagment, either. Engaged in June, married in October. I'm kind of glad it wasn't any longer because it would have just been more stress.
About looking at dresses already - I don't think it's necessarily too soon. With some gown designers, you need at least 6 months. Besides, that's part of the fun. But it might be too soon if Lynn's going to lose more weight before.
Well, in a few months we will be signing on a house, Blazer is the car. It is in SC so i have to drive with him to go and get it. That is going to be a little to much for me.
But that is a gift from his grand father. So i have to go with him and get it. I don't want the drive. I don't even want the trip. But we are going. GREAT. While i am there i am going to see the ex husband too. Taken the kids with me to see there father. That would be a good plan.. LOL.. ALL i can think about is.. The house and the wedding.
HE said, to me today. Lets just run off. Will that be easy for you. I am all for it. Less stress.. LOL. But i am relaxed. AND i do feel much better now. LOL
I am giving my diet time to regroup it's self. Due to the stress, i have not gain much weight. Just 3 pounds. I can handle that. Tummy still small. ALL the other parts are still the same measurements. So i am now relaxed. I just got to get back into the swing of things.
thanks girls for all your help.
But that is a gift from his grand father. So i have to go with him and get it. I don't want the drive. I don't even want the trip. But we are going. GREAT. While i am there i am going to see the ex husband too. Taken the kids with me to see there father. That would be a good plan.. LOL.. ALL i can think about is.. The house and the wedding.
HE said, to me today. Lets just run off. Will that be easy for you. I am all for it. Less stress.. LOL. But i am relaxed. AND i do feel much better now. LOL
I am giving my diet time to regroup it's self. Due to the stress, i have not gain much weight. Just 3 pounds. I can handle that. Tummy still small. ALL the other parts are still the same measurements. So i am now relaxed. I just got to get back into the swing of things.
thanks girls for all your help.
aw, kid, you sound exhausted. Hang in there! Trips are never as bad as getting ready for them is. OK, that's a lie, i cna think of some EPICALLY bad trips, but I'm trying to cheer you up, here. Don't make me mail you my dog to kiss your face. You're getting your flexibility back, it sounds like. relax. It won't all take care of itself, but it WILL all get taken care of. Anythign that doesn't? small stuff.
Yeah, i am snapping back. After a long day of looking for the right house. We put are bid in. I think we did a good job of it. I hope we get it. IF not we have a few more lined up. I am stick of the running around. I feel like my feet are on fire, and the tummy keeps yelling at me.. Feed me.
I had a doctors appointment today.. He told me that i am doing great, and i will see the rest of the weight come off when i cut down on the new found stress. I have to just level out he said. The meals and crap.
Now he wants me to make my 1200 calories a day in to 6 small meals. He said that will help me out some. I am going to give it a try. WISH ME LUCK PLEASE :>)
I feel like a woman who is on nothing but the run.. LOL
I had a doctors appointment today.. He told me that i am doing great, and i will see the rest of the weight come off when i cut down on the new found stress. I have to just level out he said. The meals and crap.
Now he wants me to make my 1200 calories a day in to 6 small meals. He said that will help me out some. I am going to give it a try. WISH ME LUCK PLEASE :>)
I feel like a woman who is on nothing but the run.. LOL
I got you in my prayers Lynn. You are a strong woman and this too will past.
sooo.... when will you know if you got the house? and when are ya gonna tell us all about it?
<snif> lynn's too busy for me....
<snif> lynn's too busy for me....
I will know if no one beat our bid for the house. I am keeping every thing crossed. I want that house. The right size and the right amount of space for a in home gym..
I have been busy a lot for the past few weeks. I am so on the run. My diet is running away from me, and the pounds that i lost are trying to jump back on one by one. yelling hell guys get on. she is eating the wrong stuff.. Give them hips a new pounds for us please.. ok don't for get the tummy. Lots of room around the gut..
I am going to have to roll my ass out of the bed and go for a run every morning to get back on track again.
I have been busy a lot for the past few weeks. I am so on the run. My diet is running away from me, and the pounds that i lost are trying to jump back on one by one. yelling hell guys get on. she is eating the wrong stuff.. Give them hips a new pounds for us please.. ok don't for get the tummy. Lots of room around the gut..
I am going to have to roll my ass out of the bed and go for a run every morning to get back on track again.
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