Never in my wildest dreams did I think I'd lose weight like this. I haven't been this weight literally since 1989. My motivation is within myself to reach and hit my goals. I've always been self motivated, but never for weight loss, so I just never really tried.
At my highest, I was 359 lbs weighing in at the doctors office about three years ago. I hadn't been under 300 lbs since around 1999. Now I'm at 257 lbs and still losing.
It's funny how life affects you in ways you couldn't even realize. Last year in May, I lost my wife (38 yrs old) to cancer... the picture of perfect health, she was a nutritionist, seldom ate meat and was avid with exercise. We were together exactly 5 years to month she passed and had just had our second child in Jan 2010. Four months later, she was diagnosed with stage iv metastatic melanoma and passed away a year later.
She was a beautiful blond, blue eyed gal that lit every room she'd be in. She literally had made an impact in many lives with her generousity, kindness and compassion. Her memorial was standing room in the church with people outside still waiting to get in to pay her last respects.
Anyway, for whatever reason, she loved me... this slightly older (5 yrs) balding very overweight man for my passion and love. I was a size 44 waist, she wore a 6-8. Like the king of queens couple. She's beautful and while I wouldn't say I'm bad, just average but again she could have choosen dozens with her looks, but I was the lucky one. She wasn't superficial and obviously my heart was what she was after.
Anyway, sorry to ramble, but obvisously last year was very difficult. I hadn't really gained any weight after her passing, but still hadn't lost any either. I was and had been right at 300 to 305 lbs during her illness. On January 2 of this year, something popped into my mind about losing weight and motivated me to find a few websites to keep track of my progress. I found this and one other that both had food diaries, forums etc... and then I prayed. I prayed to God for help to better my health for our two children now ages 2 and 3 as I'm a widower raising them alone. Health, while a months ago didn't matter to me as I was grieving so much, has now become my drive in life. To want to be around for my little ones. They've been through so much, they can't lose daddy too. So, then I asked Angie (my wife who passed) to guide and help me through this journey. The only thing I asked of her is to bring joy back into my life and NEVER let me feel hungry. I'll eat when I feel I need to, but I just don't want to feel it's a diet. It's a lifestyle change.
I set out to lose 1-2 lbs a week and drop to 240 by December. To my surprise, I started on January 3 right at 300 lbs and started exercising daily doing something... whether it's the stationary bike, kettlebell or just playing hard with the kids.
I'm now down to 257 lbs and feeling great, lots of energy and I continue to monitor my food intake at about 1500 calories daily give or take.
The biggest factor in my loss is probably the lack of fast food and sodium in my diet. I drink water frequently and in addition, after my discussion with her, I literally have NEVER felt hunger once on this journey. In just these two short months, I continue my loss, friends and family have really started noticing the loss and I feel great. I've gone from a 2xlt to 3xlt Ralph Lauren shirts to xl to xxl. I've lost more than 7 inches around my stomach and chest and my jeans are too baggy to wear.
They all ask what diet I'm on and I tell them I'm not on a diet, I just eat differently. Actually, I eat the way my wife used to eat.
I know she's still a guiding force behind me, motivating me and making my children prouder of me.
In addition, I lurk on these forums and continually pick up on others and how they've achieved their success. We all have our own roads to take, but watching and listening to others can change our paths and lives. One little tidbit of information or motivation can change the way we do things, and mostly for the better.
I'm proud of many people on this forum and just wanted to thank everyone and know that posters on this board and others do make a difference in others lives.
Congrats man! I'm proud of you. You are doing even better than I am and I'm down 39 lbs since jan 3rd. I was at my heighest weight of 282 and now weigh 243. I plan to get down to 212 then re-evaluate with the thoughts of going for 194 (30% loss). The charts think I should be 174 but I'd look sick at that weight.
Keep it up. Everyone is proud of you for your accomplishments and sorry for your loss.
I know this word is over-used... but, awesome; just awesome. Right on man! :)
Your post made me smile through tears...I can feel the love for your wife and I am truly truly sorry for your loss...I believe she *is* spurring you on, watching over you and your beautiful children together...big big BIG kudos to you, wow, what an accomplishment! xoxo
Your wife sounds lovely, and I am so, so sorry for your loss.
Tamji said it all - what a motivational story! Well done, you can do it!
What a beautiful, sad, inspirational story. God Bless You.
Lol but seriously, congrats!! That's an amazing accomplishment and I'm really happy for you!! :D
Thank you for sharing your sad but inspiring story. Keep up the awesome work. I know you can do it and I know your wife is by your side helping you along. Best of luck to you.
I don't usually leave comments. I'm fairly new around here, and pretty shy, but your story really touched me. I lost my sister last year and am now raising her son - mine are all grown already - so it's a new challenge. I promised my sister (who was of very ill health) that if anything happened to her, I would take care of her boy. I have to keep that promise, so I need to get healthy, not just for him, but myself as well. You gave me a kick of motivation that I needed, so I thank you for sharing your story. I'm so sorry for your loss. God bless you and your little ones, and congratulations on your weight loss!
your story touched me as well. I am so glad you are taking this time in your life to focus on the wonderful example your wife was and enriching your life and the life of your children. I knoe this is easy for me to say because i have never experienced a loss such as you have but thank you for turning this into a positive situation and not blaming God for your loss. this is an inspiration for for so many and I am blessed to have read it. I have so many health problems on my mom's and dad's side and this has helped to encourage me to get serious and try to avoid their pitfalls so I can be around a long time (Lord willing) my two daughters and my husband. May God continue to aid and bless you. Keep us posted on your progress!!
Congratulations. What a motivational post.
Condolences on your losing your wife, and congratulations on losing your pounds. But I would just caution against the rate of loss, since it's widely accepted that the safe average weight loss is around 1-2 lbs. per week. But I guess since you were so heavy to begin with, your average of around 5 lbs. per week is probably proportionate. The important thing is to monitor how you feel, and it's encouraging that you never felt hungry. Lethargy is one of the signs of too drastic weight loss, so if you're feeling your energy levels actually picking up instead, that's a good sign that you're losing weight at a rate that's right for you.
You are an inspiration
Oh wow...your story is such motivation. It brought tears to my eyes to see your strength. I've tried every diet there is, but something hit me over the weekend that made me want to do lifestyle change not diet. So my motto I'm following is proper nutrition and exercise of any form. I'm hoping to have a success story similar to your in a few months :). Keep it up and congrats. I'm sure your wife would be proud!!
What an amazing testimony. Thank you for sharing it with us.
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