Weight Loss

I mean, is it wrong to shoot for such a low weight?  I am 125lbs and want I want to be 109lbs.  But I'm short (5 feet) and petite, with small breasts.  Maybe there is a petite group I don't know about?  All I see are groups for people shooting for 130-120 and higher.  I just feel bad because a lot of people here are shooting for higher weights and that make me feel like I am letting society influence me and carve the definition of beauty for me.  That just isn't the case.  I don't want to be thin just because Hollywood says so.  Honestly, I'm doing it for the clothes.  Not for the guys or the jobs or anything else.  There are just some clothes I want to wear that only look good on small people.  So perhaps someone can direct me to a group for petite, short people who are looking to weigh a lot less.  Perhaps individuals can help me?

I am now 120 and I am also petite , only being 5' and having small breast .I  am also looking to reach a goal weight of about 110 lbs. I wouldn't feel to out of place everyone here is looking for the same thing which is support and help in losing weight

Right.  But when I tell people my goal, I get messages saying "You want to be THAT skinny?  Oh honey that's not right.  You are healthy right where you are and shouldn't be trying so hard to be a stick figure."  So I don't get much help anywhere.  I've only been on this site a few hours so maybe things will be different.  Still.  It would be nice to find people who won't judge how much I want to weight and just help me get there.

Who do you go to?

I am 5' 3 1/2" and 110. No one ever gives me a hard time about my weight, probably because I have a lot of muscle and appear to be very healthy and fit. I've been small my whole life.

Society has not influenced my current weight. I weigh what I do because I have a small frame and 110 looks good on me. I'm an hourglass at 110. I have a 23" in waist, 32" hips, and wear a C cup. I still have my bottom, too. I'm not uberthin by any means.

But because I work out a lot, I appear thinner than others my height might at my weight. And still no one says I am too thin. So 109 for 5' tall is not unrealistic at all—if you have the right frame for it, and your body feels it is realistic. Some people's bodies just aren't meant to go that low.

I'd rather you left me alone petite_powerhouse.

Thanks mintberrykin for the good luck.  I'm going to need it.  Has anyone out there(who is petite and short) actually Lost like 40 pounds and gotten to the single triple digits (100-109) here?  Perhaps some assistance?

Original Post by practicallypeach:

I'd rather you left me alone petite_powerhouse.

 

Not a problem: I'll stay out of this thread. I'm sorry I struck a nerve in the other post: I really am. But while you are free to disagree, you can't expect people to say nothing just because they don't agree with you—especially when you post your thoughts as if they were fact and not opinion. And I stand by what I said about what I think prompted you to post that thread: that is absolutely the way it read to me.

I do hope you reach whatever goals you have for your body, and that you do so in a healthy fashion. I also hope you come to really appreciate the body that you have. The best to you.

Thanks Beena.

Oh my god, you have no idea how nice it was to read this thread.

I've gotten a lot of preeching at me for the goal weight I wanted, and though I have resisted giving full disclosure as to why I NEEDED to be the weight I was striving for, people felt free to shoot "advice" my way.

Seriously, thank you. Good luck with your goal. 

Wanting to get skinny just to wear cute clothes is a red flag for an unhealthy relationship with food and with your body image. 

I hope you work on being healthy in the future.

Just a thought, but I bet if you put on a bit of muscle you wouldn't need to hit that number.

Personally, I lose for my health and until I FEEL right. The clothes are definitely a great thing, too, but they're not the primary.

That being said, I love my body even as it is. I love my big belly, my chubby thighs, and my flabby arms. My belly is a soft spot for my cats to lay, my thighs are cushy enough that my husband can sit on my lap, and my flabby arms will let me fly awaaaaaaaay. hahahaha, just kidding. But seriously, I don't need clothes or people to dictate how I feel.

I don't think you're crazy actually. I'm between 5' 4" and 5' 5", and I'd like to weigh 110lbs ideally. I used to weight around 112, but now I am 124 lbs. I really want to lose weight though, because I think I look much better at 110 lbs. My proportions are somewhat like yours-- very small chest and all my fat goes straight to my stomach and bloats up. If I had a larger chest, i wouldn't mind gaining weight as much, but unfortunately, I don't, so I feel like I'll need to lose some weight to look more proportional. My bones are also very small. I can tell, because of the way I can wrap my fingers around them. I think that for my frame I am overweight.

I think in the U.S. people think that 110 lbs is bordering on too thin, but in East Asia (China, Japan, Korea, Taiwan) 110 lbs is a very normal weight. Most teenage girls weigh somewhere between 100 to 110 lbs, but then again, they tend to be shorter, like 5' to 5' 3" on average.

I don't have a problem with your goal. i am the same weight and hieght as you and am looking to loose weight for health reasons..I'm doing it safely and over a decent amount of time and being smart about it. so your question seems normal to me.

You worded your initial post as if you were worried about what people might think when writing it..which i can totally understand when it comes to forums..

I'm thinking you might not want to post on forums considering your comments to people who are actually not saying anything mean at all to you. Forums are not for agreeing with you they are for perspectives and to find people who are in the same boat and or simuliar situations.. just ignore posts you don't get anything from and respond to the ones that suite you..don't say "leave me  alone" now thats not being nice..

there is nothing wrong with people saying  "your beautiful the way you are"

That said, good luck I hope you meet your goals... We are all supporting you, not sure why you think what anyone says is not supportive?

if what i said upset you ..then i'm sure this is not about the clothes ..

But if it didn't then great..we're all here to lend an ear and help however we can.

for your height 109 is in a healthy weight range, you have just as much of the right to be here as people wanting to drop 50+ lbs

Original Post by 10bysummer:

Oh my god, you have no idea how nice it was to read this thread.

I've gotten a lot of preeching at me for the goal weight I wanted, and though I have resisted giving full disclosure as to why I NEEDED to be the weight I was striving for, people felt free to shoot "advice" my way.

Seriously, thank you. Good luck with your goal.  

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practicallypeach: do a forum search for shorties or 5' or petite and see what turns up.  There are several people on this site who are not so tall and either do aim for the lower end of their BMI or have achieved it already.  If you're posting to a thread and giving a weight, you might also want to mention your height so that people can see that your goals are not underweight.

If you do not want to hear both ends of a story, dont post. Simple as that. Criticism helps too, maybe to show you that maybe your goals are a little unrealistic in a healthy way.

If reaching your goal weight, which is 110, makes you happier with yourself, so be it. But when I weighed 110 or less, (I'm 5"2')my bones protruded, I was tired, my hair fell out, my stomach hurt constantly and I was never hungry. That is not healthy, and if you have to stop eating to reach your goal weight, That is definitely not healthy.

I am suffering from the repercussions of starvation mode, I have gained the weight back, and then some. I am trying to relearn how to eat right and it is hard.

So, my point is, if you have to drastically take measures to be that thin, for your clothes to fit, it isnt worth it.

Stop taking everything so personally. People are going to support you and people are going to look at your stats and wonder why? Just take it all in and make a decision for yourself.

I'm 5 foot 1 and aiming for a goal weight of around 105, I also have a small breast size and a very small frame, I'm hoping that my goal weight will be realistic for me, I have a very similar shape to my mother who used to weigh around 105 before she had children etc.

You're goal is perfectly healthy in terms of the BMI scale, but try not to get too fixed on that number, I used to be but I realized it made me feel like a failure thinking about how far I was away from it. Right now I'm taking it 5lbs at a time, when I get down to 110 I'll see how I feel, maybe you should do the same if you're unsure about your goal and stop when you feel happy enough to wear the clothes you want.

Original Post by practicallypeach:

LadyFire I definately did not need that. I'm here for support from people who agree with me. Not comments from people who don't. So keep it to yourself.

You're not going to make many friends if you go and scorn those who are TRYING TO SUPPORT YOU. I was just trying to say don't go for a number, go for what FEELS right. The number on the scale doesn't tell you how much fat is on your body, nor does it tell you how much muscle is there. I was trying to encourage you to concentrate on what FEELS right as opposed to some arbitrary number.

But I'll tell you one thing for sure, I will not keep it to myself. I'm allowed to comment on whatever I want, especially since I was being nice about it! Try being a little open-minded. It works wonders.

Good luck.