Hi everyone - I am 5-10" and 225, I know I have 50 lbs to lose but it is hard when people say things like 'oh you don't look that heavy' or 'you carry it well'. I think it makes me fool myself into thinking it's not that important to lose the weight. So each week I start again, and by Thursday I've blown it. I hate to look in the mirror because that's when I don't see tall, I see fat. Anyone else feel this way? Want to join ranks and try to do this together? I need accountability - that's the one thing that WW does that I'm missing here. HELP!!!!

I'm not as tall, 5'8, but I can carry extra weight well, too. I have a lot of muscle, for one thing. But about a month ago, I suddenly realized that it really IS there-50+ lbs of fat-under my skin and alllllll over my body. I don't know how I managed to avoid that realization for so long, but I did. I guess I just didn't care enough to let it penetrate.

Anyway, I remind myself how much easier life would be if I didn't have that extra 50 lbs--especially running and playing soccer, which I love (even though I'm 49 and just learned about 3 years ago!) I want to be able to do the things I love as long as possible, and weight loss will extend that time by years. Sooner or later, too, my weight will have other negative impacts on my health, making it even harder-although more urgent--to lose, I suspect. So the time is NOW.

It's nice that we don't feel horrible about the way we look (or at least don't feel that way most of the time). But there are other, better reasons to lose. What is yours? If isn't really about the way you look (yes, we all want to look better, but we are obviously not the ones obsessing about that or we'd have done something about it sooner!!) What is your reason, the one that matters most to you? Do you have kids and want to be healthy so you are around longer for them? Maybe you want to have kids someday. Or something totally different. Once you find out why it matters, that will really help your motivation.

I'd be happy to join your group if I'm "tall enough." I'll add you as a friend. Tell me what you name the group so I know how to follow the relevant threads!

Ah. This post is so true! I am 6 feet tall and carry weight very well. Or so people always told me! I think what makes it hard is that for me to lose ten pounds is the visual equivalent to someone else losing 5, so the amount of effort involved does not have the same immediate visual impact. But also, I have lost about 25 pounds since starting this site, and once you start to see it go, it's so encouraging, and you can suddenly see where all the weight was lying (sneaky places like wrists and cheeks and shoulders). Try and hold true to the plan, and once you see that you were actually not holding the weight as well as people said....it will motivate you to prove them wrong.

I would also like to join your group if I meet the height criteria as I'm only 5'8" 1/2. lol. But I absolutley understand how you feel and what you're saying. It really gets me when people tell me I look "fine" or that I carry weight well.

And Im the same way, Ill start a new diet each week and blow it by Wednesday because somehow I have fooled myself into believe others when they tell me that there is no weight on me to lose, thats until I look in the mirror naked and actually see my flaws.

So anyway, if you do start a group. I would like to join. Let me know. Ill check back

-santana

Yep, me too!  I'm only 5'8", but I feel SO much bigger than other women.  I feel like our skinny doesn't equal their skinny because I am always bigger than my other girlfriends.  I also agree that when we (tall girls) lose 5 pounds, it goes virtually unnoticed.  Drives me nuts! 

I guess it's good to be able to "carry our weight well", but I'd rather not be carrying around the extra weight.  Glad to see I'm not alone .

I feel the same.  I'm 5'10 and 241 and I agree I carry my weight well, but I hate the feeling when I'm already taller then everyone walking down the street, to add that I'm 70 pounds overweight makes it even worse.  I feel like a giant.  I'm having a really difficult time losing weight though, I keep getting sick and the past week i've had PMS and am super nauseus and have a huge headache basically everyday.  I'm so tired of it.  I've started in April and lost maybe 10 pounds which is ridiculous.  The days I dont exercise I try to not eat over 1400 cals...if anyone has any advice i'd really appreciate it...this is making me depressed.

Okay, I'm not a tall girl, so I guess I can't join this little group. But can I be a fan? Tall girls are awesome.

That is all.

i am 5'11/6' (i've been meaning to measure all week and i keep forgetting) and i currently weigh 168. i get the 'you carry it well' comment too. i appreciate it, and i think that i really do look ok, not super stick, but not too soft, but sometimes i wonder if i too am a little delusional. i'm within a healthy bmi, but a bit to the higher side and i'd like to be closer to the lower side. and i have this crazy idea that if i lose 20lbs, and then my husband and i have a child, if i only gain say, thirty pounds, then i won't look too bad because i've been almost that weight.

anyway, i'm with you. i'm tall and sometimes question just how fit i look.

kist6084- I have the same crazy idea!  That's the biggest reason why I am trying to lose 8 pounds...I'm hoping that I will only be as big as I was after our first baby comes...and I can live with that weight :).  I started a post about it.  I got some good responses, so you might want to go to my page and check it out.  I hope it works for both of us!

O O O, Me too!!

Im 5'9 and currently 232lbs.

I just started restricting calories ( again) yesterday.

I totally agree that our "skinny" doesnt equal their skinny!! LOl My husband keeps reminding me that I have a very large frame also, so I wont ever be as small as some.

We should keep this thread going.

How many calories are you ladies currently eating?

Im eating 1700 Plus exercising everyday.

You should calculate your body fat %, and just aim for a healthy one! If your body fat % is good, and you carry the weight that you are well, then right on!

If your body fat % is high, and your blessed with being able to carry extra weight well, get yourself to a healthy body fat% and don't worry so much about weight.

When you feel good its more about being healthy than being a certain "size" or a certain "number."

I dont know if that came out right lol

nsamiee

You should see your doctor. I had the same kind of issues with losing weight (only I let it go on for two years). It turns out there are medical reasons that I was having trouble losing or even maintaining my weight regardless of diet and excercise. So if you're keeping your calories at a resonable number on the days that you exercise as well and truely counting everything you consume throughout the day...i would see someone about it. just a thought.

At 5' 9-1/2" and 195# I've had several people question my desire to lose some weight. I've actually stopped mentioning it, so I don't have to have those conversations. I know I carry the weight well, but that doesn't mean I'm healthy!

I am the same height as you! I get the 'I don't know where you put it' and 'you're not overweight so why are you watching what you eat' comments quite a bit so I don't tend to mention it much. If confronted with cakes or treats at work I usually make some excuse like I pigged out earlier. I want to lose weight because I can't fit in my favourite jeans any more and it's getting me down and I feel too big, being taller than almost everyone else around here doesn't help either.

I'm another tall girl. I'm 5'11". I started out on this weight loss journey in January at a weight of 276. After 6 and a half months, I'm down 77 pounds. I've hit my first goal. which was 200, but I still have 19 to go to hit my next goal. I'm a little frustrated this week because my weight loss has slowed down to about a pound a week. I know I should expect his, but my biggest motivator so far has just been the weight loss itself. Whenever I would lose some, I would be motivated to keep going. Also, I am now off my blood pressure medication and metformin (to control my blood sugar). I need a new motivator. It's kind of hard because my husband's hours at work have been cut in half this summer, so money is tight. Most of the motivators cost money (i.e. a pedicure, new clothes, a night out). I've tried mixing up my exercise routine, but so far it's not worked.

I also agree with what everyone is saying here. Not only am I tall, but I have long arms and wide shoulders. I may be wrong, and if anyone out there disagrees, please let me know, but I've always felt that girls that are shorter (like 5'4" to 5'7") can be a little heavier and still look cute. Whenever I'm heavy, I feel sort of manly, or like a huge tree. I know that if I was shorter, and the weight I am now, I definitely wouldn't look the same because I am able to spread out my weight some. But I've always hated being tall!  Now that I've lost the weight, I feel a little better about it.  But I still have a long way to go.

 

 

 

Thanks for all the responses everyone! I totally feel like a GIANT all the time, especially with so many friends of mine being like 5'2! And I HATE hugging people and feeling like all they feel is back fat!!@!@ So if I can figure out how to start a group, we could call it "You don't look overweight"! LOL! I love how reading your answers made me feel not alone. I really need someone to be accountable too, and sometimes a kick in the butt when I feel like giving up. So I think checking in with each other could really help. What do you think?????

haha oh i understand the feeling....i am 6'0 and i don't have a friend over 5'3, i just don't think they live in my town! I have to say i was exactly where you were some of you ladies were for a while however i just kept convincing myself that i am doing this for me and my health...and although it might be a struggle sometimes and you might keep on making excuses "it can wait, i will start it again next week, or tomorrow", ....once you get committed and find whatever it is that works for you, you will feel awesome about yourself....i have already lost 28 lbs already and still have about 10 to go and have never felt better...good luck!