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It's the company christmas dinner tonight and i have to go.

but I'm really scared- i'm not coping too well latey (it's why i joined CC a few days ago).

I'm really scared that I'll be forced to eat something totally unhealthy and then I'll have to go and throw it all up again.

I've been so good and it's been six months since I've purged... my bmi is good too- and I'm really happy with that. But I hate it too.

Can anyone help me? What should I do?

It's just all too much....

 

No one will force you to eat something totally unhealthy. Just politely say 'no thanks' to any unhealthy food offers and find yourself something low-calorie and slightly healthier to eat. Even if you do eat a brownie or something 'bad', forgive yourself. It's Christmas after all, the season of treats and merriment :)

I know what you are going through, i have my xmas dinner in a few hours and it's 3 courses of delicious calorie laiden food.

Im going to think about it like this, i have worked hard for my company they are rewarding me with lovely food. Im NOT going to feel guilty about it because it is one meal, one day. Tomorrow i can eat healthy and exercise.

I have had this disorder for 9 years and im only just realising how it ruins your life. Im always anxious when im out eating with anyone and i cant relax. Not to mention the damage you do to your body every time you do it.

One dinner isn't going to make you fat, and you deserve to eat nice things and enjoy your life. You are doing amazingly well, you havnt purged for so long, you CAN do this.

One tip is to try and leave a little bit on your plate and eat really slowly so you can gage when you are full. I leave a little bit on my plate because if i do i feel like im not greedy. That probably sounds crazy, but just by leaving a little bit i can prove to myself i have a tiny bit of self discipline!

I know it's hard, you are doing alot better then me, im down from everyday to once a week.

You can beat this, just beleive in yourself. You must have been doing something right for six months.

Best of luck, and feel free to message me anytime.

 

Thankyou so much.

Sunkissedbliss: you are right- it is Christmas- I'm allowed a little treat. I will try and remember that.

Jessica080582: Thank you for describing exactly what I am going through. I love your tips- I'll use them tonight. I really like the idea of that little bit left on my plate.

I've suffered for ten years as well. I really want to make it this time.
The past few weeks have been hard for me- I am fighting hard.

Thanks for being there- I feel like I can go tonight now. I even bought a nice new dress to wear two weeks ago... it would be a shame not to wear it

Sorry I didn't see this sooner!

How did the dinner go?

It went ok.

It was a buffet- so I had  some lettuce and carrot salad. a baked potato and some spinach (the only veggie:-/) some corn on the cob and a little piece of chicken (I left most of the chicken, because it had this wierd tasting marinade on it- which tasted like chemicals) . I skipped the dessert.

I ate slowly and enjoyed a dollop of sour cream on my potato.  Taking my time - really helped. THose around me asked whether I was feeling ok because I was taking my time. But I was able to guage when I'd had enough. And that made me feel a lot calmer.

I had two esspresso (I don't usually drink coffee- but I like esspresso... but they are probably why I didn't sleep well). No wine. This morning I felt really proud of myself- I can go out to eat!!!!

I ended up just relaxing and enjoying the evening. Hearing from you guys before made me secure inmyself that I could get through it and that I am alowed to enjoy myself.

 

Thanks so much!

b

 

Congratulations on maintaining control! I know how hard it can be, those buffets are the devil! But you did great, and now I bet you feel great too! Remember, it's okay to indulge in dessert or wine now and then, especially if you were "good" in other areas, but if you feel better abstaining, that's awesome too. It's all about eating and drinking the right things at the right time in the right amount, and you seem to have found that balance exactly. You're an inspiration to all of us, and I know I for one am going to  try to follow your example. Keep truckin! 

Really proud of you sweetie you did a great job !

x

I'm so glad it went well!

See, you have the strength to get through!