Health & Support

My husband wants a divorce.

I feel so lost, empty, and numb.

He said he can't do it anymore - can't deal with my illness, with me, etc. 

i'm so very sorry to hear that! have you tried any kind of counseling?

Are you sure this is for real?  I mean, sometimes people say things because they are angry or hurt, but then change their minds once they've calmed down.  Are you really breaking up or is there a chance he might just be upset and venting his feelings?  If it's for real, I am so very sorry.  As someone whose long term relationship has suffered because of my experiences with anorexia, I understand somewhat how hard it must be.

Been there, have the divorce papers alas to prove it.

I'm here for you if you want to vent, need to cry, just want to know you are not the only one. Feel free to PM me.

Please don't let this derail your decision to go IP. Your life depends on it.

I have no doubt this is a very painful time for you. All I can say is you are doing the right thing by reaching out to others so they can support you. I hope you continue to do so.

Hey sweetie im sorry about your troubles im 19 and have been suffering from anorexia since i was 15. I completely understand everything you are saying.

You sound like a beautiful person, your husband loves you but probably cannot take your struggles (i know my mum cannot sometimes) and i stay away from men becaus im scared of showing them who and what i am.

& If you were thinking of going to ip do it you are great.

Email i will support you if you need to talk x

there are some challenges in life we need to face on our own, or at least with the support of others who have been through the same ordeal. if your husband cannot partner with you through recovery, then you are both in a better place to seek peace & stability in life if you don't try to make the journey together. breaking up will be painful, empty and difficult, but you will survive and emerge a stronger person if you have faith in yourself that you can do it & that there will be brighter days to come.

so always remind yourself : there will be brighter days to come.

I am so sorry!  Is there anything you can do to try and work it out?  Any kind of couples counseling or anything?  If he is willing, I would give it a shot.

Something similar happened to me, not with a husband, but a boyfriend.  I was hospitalized for depression and he came to visit me once.  Then he stopped calling me and refused to take my phone calls.  He basically just never spoke to me again because he couldn't handle having a sick girlfriend.

Please remember that YOU DESERVE TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO LOVES YOU ENOUGH TO GO THROUGH HELL AND BACK WITH YOU. 

I don't why I am having a feeling that that was a moment of anger and that everything will be fine soon. you just need to discuss it with him and be strong. My advice to you is to " FIGHT FOR YOUR MARRIAGE". don't give up yet.

The same thing happened to my boyfriend and I of 3 years. He realized that he just couldn't do it anymore. He was struggling trying to help me at my worst and it was ruining his life. You need to do this for you and no one else, but you should also think about the turmoil that ED can cause. We eventually ended up working it out and getting back together but only because I vowed to make a change. Go out on a limb....not only for yourself but for your marriage. I am sure if he sees you really changing then he will come around.

Thank you for all your support and kind words.

I'm tired of being his yo-yo, to bounce around.

When I get well, he doesn't get to have me back because it will be for me, not him! 

everything happens for a reason, despite your religion, i hope you can recognize everything is part of a greater plan or at least has to do with cause and effect....this will open new doors for you, a new chapter of your life in fact - a healthy chapter.

 good luck and best wishes, my prayers will be with you! 

My mom says the exact same thing (((oink420)))!!!!!

I'm so terribly sorry about all this.

Maybe you could suggest couseling with him. Tell him how much he means to you and how much his support means. Chances are u might be able to reconcil thru conuseling...

Best of luck

I went through the exact same thing - seven years ago.  I can promise you - things will get better, there are happy days ahead and you will survive!  I look back now with all I went through and I am stronger, independent, and so very proud of myself.  I know it doesn't feel like it now, but it will get better....