jeeze man. anyone else notice this crap lately?

its typically " ohmygod i just ate 20 calories, i feel fat, and i only eat half a peanut a day, so do i have an eating disorder will you please tell me?

AGH. okay, im all for sympathizing for those who have ED's, believe me I am, but when you KNOW you have one and just continue to ask if you do, then its fricken annoying

i hate how its become more of a trend then a disease.

 

You were pretty nasty to that girl in the other thread. I don't like those pointless threads either, but some are legit.

u cn just ignore the forum if u wan to. u dun hv to POST another forum about it. it aint a trend girl, just wanted some assurance.. u knw, at least can get help or stg.

i didn't mean to come off as nasty feanor

its just it strikes a nerve, and it bothers me that even though i can change myself about ED's I can't change everyone else.

BTW I'm not the only one who starts threads just venting, if you arent going to comment on the thread itself of just come on here to tell me im a "B" then please dont bother

agh! vanilla yours came just as i was posting

im sorry i came off as rude, and i did, i'll admit, i just hate seeing people get sucked into ED's. its a problem area with me :/

i apologize

It's not uncommon for people to get frustrated with the eating disorder-related posts, and that's why there's the weight gain forum for those in recovery and trying to recover.  For those who're uncertain of having an eating disorder, take a minute and think of yourself posting that thread.  You've got nobody else to talk to because a bunch of random screen names on a forum.  You're scared and don't really know what to do, if you should talk to parents or a counselor. 

It's a difficult thing to deal with time and time again, but at best we all need to grin and bear it.  If those particular threads bother you, scroll over them.  Lord knows plenty of us have threads we've had to learn to scroll over, even though it's still tempting to click on them, read them, and get ourselves upset.

I completely agree with you and unfortunately youll get flamed all to hell (I can think of a few posters especially that will freak out...Im already rolling my eyes)

I think its pretty sad that these girls having nothing better to do than seek attention....I find it to be the equivalent of "do these pants make my ass look fat" types of questions...as in all you really want is a no answer, whether its the true or not...THEN they get all pissed when you give a yes answer...

THANK YOU DAVE

 :]

just letting you know you arent the only one :D:D actually ive posted a vent thread myself awhile back along the same lines...nobody seemed to like it very much....

dude i just ignore em its nothing to get yourself worked up about

 or you could always assure them that yes they are fat * jk

I'm not so much bothered by these types of posts as I am the culture here.  You can't say anything that might offend or trigger someone with an ED, but when those thin people make comments that kill the motivation or self confidence of someone who actually does need to lose weight, that's okay!  Being overweight is just as much of a problem as being underweight!!

I know I don't fit in either of those categories, but it still bothers me!

Well said Josie!  Could not agree more!

To the venters who are sick of people's ED posts:

I can appreciate both sides of this argument.  I do not have an ED and am just on here to lose weight.  It is depressing and sometimes irritating to see the same people in denial about their very serious conditions all of the time.

I think what we all need to remember at these times is that people come to these forums for HELP.  I come here for help too.  The people you are complaining about aren't just asking for help, they are crying for it.  Yes it is sad, but it is not pathetic.  It is simply a symptom of their DISEASE.

In my opinion, if you happen to come across a post that strikes you, you should only post a reply if you have something productive to say.  Being rude to these girls is not going to help them, and it'll probably just get you even more worked up.  That's not really helping anyone, is it?

I think what we all need to remember at these times is that people come to these forums for HELP.

And there is a section for ED recovery.

I've had my ED for three years (it developed when I was 12).

And as you probably know, us ED-ers feel very alone.

Sometimes I guess it just helps us to have someone else talk about our disorders, rather than having to listen to our own thoughts... It's just a break from the isolated feeling.

Although personally I would never try and have some random posters on the Internet try and diagnose me/reassure me that I have an eating disorder, because frankly, it really can cause people problems with triggering... I was trying to recover, and was successful for about two weeks, then I got triggered. And now I've got all the same old issues, plus I'm even unhappier because of recovery weight.

But anyway... I don't think we should be so harsh to girls who think they might have an eating disorder, even though they're probably just trying to get attention. But for all we know, they could be genuinely concerned for their own health... and just want a little advice.

Original Post by russia_100:

But anyway... I don't think we should be so harsh to girls who think they might have an eating disorder, even though they're probably just trying to get attention. But for all we know, they could be genuinely concerned for their own health... and just want a little advice.

 Trying to "get attention" because they are doing just that, this is their way of asking for help.

I my experience, when I'm in the middle of an eating disorder relapse, I don't care about  health.

For an anorexic, gaining weight can be a lot scarier than dying.

And I hate how it's a trend, too. Girls try to develope them just to lose weight faster. But once you have one, it's with you for life, even if you are recovering.

This post really ticked me off. I understand your hate for attnetion whores, I mean who doesn't hate those kind of people but do you think all anorexics know they're anorexic? Know that they're eating unhealthily? Sure there are extreme cases, a girl eating two apples a day must know she has a problem. But a girl who restricts to six hundred calories a day? Maybe she isn't so sure. Media shiws us anorexics starve themselves, and if six hundred calorie a day girl is still eating, is she an anorexic?

Suzy:

I'm sorry that my opinions ticked you off but i'm entitled to them. I've been dealing with anorexia for over a year, so yeah i know how it is. I believe the "girl" your talking about is yourself. I've read your blogs, and you say you eat roughly 600 calories a day

Hun, thats just not safe, but I won't preach to ya.

Yes, she is anorexic, women shouldnt get any less then 1200 a day, and teenagers more. You won't lose weight that way(just being honest), and it'll be easier to gain it all back and then some

I am one of those posters who will usually flame a person for starting a thread just to attack a group of people, I understand your frustration. What I don't understand Is the need to make a thread about it. If you see a post that is offensive or promotes eating disorder report it to our moderator if you don't like it. I think we should be creating an online enviroment where people can feel safe to talk about the problems they face losing weight, gaining weight, cooming to terms with their own body and it is especially important in this forum where a lot of us are fragile, and easily upset.

Question how would you feel, and this is to everyone, if i started this thread

"Omg I just ate 3000cals in one go! I feel so fat."

Would you start another thread sayin I'm sick of all these fat girls goin on about their binges they have no self control...Think about it who are we to judge? Either help them, and you are in a position where you can help them. Or ignore them. I know you didn't wanna offend anyone and I don't wanna be preachy to you, we all lose it with people an get frustrated in threads and wanna tell people to grow up. What I don't like is makin a thread about it. If you wanna tell them off do it in their thread.  

I just posted a vent similar to this in MY JOURNAL and still got flamed.  Josielynn (yes i know her post is old)..i said darn near the same thing in my vent...double standard much?