sounds really stupid but i actually am having trouble accepting that i wont see immediate results, well not that i wont accept it but more that as soon as i do some excercise, if a week later i look exactly the same then i will get disheartened and generally slack! Comfort food!

I would love to be toned and slender, im not fat now as it is but im not how i want to look! I am chubby round the middle and on my arms and legs, i hate my big chicken arms! :-)!

I have been told about ways of motivating yourself such as setting goals and going with friends etc but they dont help me in times of looking at food thinking you'll make me happy! Even when i think 'you wont make me happy' i still just cant kick the urge to eat it! Help!! x

eventually you will just have to accept the fact that dieting is the opposite of instant gratification...or not (meaning you won't lose). but a few things might help in the short term. sometimes I will write notes to myself after I've eaten something i "shouldn't have eaten". I will write down the fact that I am not actually any happier or more satisfied after eating the treat, just disappointed that I used up calories for the day. then later on if I feel like cheating I can go back and look at this note and decide whether I really want the junk food or not. Remembering the fact that it really didn't make me feel any better, and having solid PROOF in my hands really can influence my actions.

I also tried to think of things that i could do that actually WOULD make me feel better. meditation and a long round of stretching, maybe with soft music in the background. also warm showers. a cup of warm tea and a nap.

You're not seeing the bigger picture, that's all.   At the moment this is all about looks... weight-loss for cosmetic reasons.  Your doctor won't frown at you in 20 years time for having big chicken arms, but he will if your cholesterol levels are sky high or he's writing out a scrip for blood pressure tablets.  A thick waist, for example, (more than 32") is turning out to be an accurate predictor of future health problems.

Think 'healthy lifestyle'... be consistent about adopting a healthy diet and doing some regular exercise, not simply as a means to an end but because it's a smart, fun thing to do.

Original Post by gi-jane:

You're not seeing the bigger picture, that's all.   At the moment this is all about looks... weight-loss for cosmetic reasons.  Your doctor won't frown at you in 20 years time for having big chicken arms, but he will if your cholesterol levels are sky high or he's writing out a scrip for blood pressure tablets.  A thick waist, for example, (more than 32") is turning out to be an accurate predictor of future health problems.

Think 'healthy lifestyle'... be consistent about adopting a healthy diet and doing some regular exercise, not simply as a means to an end but because it's a smart, fun thing to do.

Your right! I get really consumed in how i look mainly because i get a lot of 'bullying' if you like for it even though im not big! its ridiculous but it does push me to lose weight. Instead im going to lose weight for health reasons! i don't want to be struggling to breath when im 30 odd! Thank you!!