I have a friend who I spend a lot of time with, she is a great motivator for me because she has lost 160 Lbs. since the beginning of '07. 

One problem I have with her is if my husband and I are having a snack, She'll decline on having one herself, But will ask for a "bite" or a "taste" ... it drives me crazy since I portion it out to be within my calorie range, and then she has a couple bites...

Does anyone have a friend like this...? Am I being stupid...?

As much as I love my friend sadly this isn't the only issue I have with her...

 

My husband does the same thing.  I make these 100 calorie packs for myself, and then he always nibbles a few crackers/chips/grahams while I have it open.  Just reaches in and pulls some out without asking.

I log it the same anyway, though.  I figure he's just saving me a few calories, and it gives me a little more wiggle room at the end of the day.

It fricken kills me when somebody (my friend, my husband, my son etc..) grabs a carrot from the bag of carrots, or a chip from my bag of chips... I just take a deep breath and get over it before it becomes a big deal (they prob wouldn't know why I was freaking out on them anyway! lol)

sometimes i'll tell my husband to stop, or not even to think about it.  I tell him there is more in the kitchen.

I have to admit I do the same thing to my husband and daughter and it used to drive them crazy. They are not watching their calories and don't need to, so I feel if they are going to eat my temptation foods in front of me I just want a taste.. not the entire ice cream cone or bag of french fries - just a taste. They are getting used to it and now they see results with my weight loss they are happy to share. I suggest taking a bite out of your measurements for her. Your saving your calories and your friendship. There is nothing worse than a hungry dieter (lol).

Ps. 160 lbs good for her she sounds like a GREAT motivator.

I think j-snyder's response is the best one. Just log them anyway, consider that she saved you a few calories today. If you really can't do that for some reason, prepare your usual portion "plus a few bites" when she is around, and if she doesn't take them, just throw them out afterward.

This is certainly not worth confronting such a good and inspirational friend over.

Yea... I usually just log the same amount of calories as if I had eaten it all myself...

Like I said, She is a good friend... But I do have issues with her, esp. over weight loss... She motivated me to get going on having a healthy diet and exercising more, But sometimes she is overbearing... now that she has lost the weight she acts like she is queen bee sometimes... Not to say I am not proud of her, But she sometimes acts like she is the only one out there who has done that.

We could all lose weight like that if we were single with no kids and Had a personal trainer we went to FOUR times a week.

Just a little venting here  - Hell I know I am jealous, but I just can't help it...!

 

groupie941, don't compare rates of loss with others - that way lies insanity!! Everyone has their own path to follow, and different lifestyles that will accomodate different levels of change. By living a healthy lifestyle, you will get there too - and it doesn't matter if it takes two years or five years, the health and energy rewards of changing your lifestyle (like the lifestyle itself) are permanent.

If she has been supportive of you (i.e. encouraging you, being sympathetic to little slip-ups, etc), then you owe it to her to swallow any jealousy you may have and be happy for her success. (Honestly, there aren't that many people who have lost 160 lbs on their own and kept it off, compared to people who need to lose that much but never do.)  See her as inspiration, not competition. You are both on the same side - wanting both of you to be healthy and happy!!

If you have other issues with your friendship, work on those too - but be really really sure to separate out any anguish about your own weight that translates into jealous frustration at her. 

ok - I confess.  Before CC I frequently did the same to my husband and 4 children (so that was a lot of "nibbling" - part of the reason I am now on CC - LOL).

 

Original Post by groupie941:

We could all lose weight like that if we were single with no kids and Had a personal trainer we went to FOUR times a week.

Just a little venting here  - Hell I know I am jealous, but I just can't help it...!

 

You have had excellent success so far but that kind of thinking really won't get you anywhere -

I would love to have the freedom to join a gym or space to add a treadmill but I don't so what can I do but do what I can?  One "friend" on the site walks inside when it rains - - - never heard bitterness on her point about it.

One thing I am doing is trying to intentionally rid my self of the "excuses" that contributed to my weight gain or are preventing my weight loss.

Just something else to consider.

sorry guy's i beat you.

My husband drives me crazy i go to the cuboard and i fnd all the low cal stuff GONE !!!! i buy it for me and he eats the lot and eaves all the high cal stuff he knows i won't touch for later ......... he's not even dieting ... GRRRR!!!!

 

isn't the whole point of this to have a more healthy outlook/ perspective on food?  sharing with others is GOOD.  not bad. 

Had to chime in because my husband does the same thing to me.  When I wasn't watching my calories I didn't mind at all.  But now I just tell him that I've measured out my food and I would like to enjoy it all and he's fine with it.  I don't, however, say anything to a friend if it happens, but I have to admit, it doesn't happen too often, my friends all want their own food :) 

Sharing is a good thing, of course, but I do get pretty selfish when I only have 1 cup of cereal to snack on at night, sorry but I want it all!