I seem to have this bad habit of costantly bombarding my long distance BF with updates on my weight and what I've packed in my lunch and how much exercise I'm going to do every day and where I've failed as far as treats I've given in to. He gets to hear about every tiny detail of my struggles and my triumphs and goal setting.

He's been very supportive listening to my weight loss drama. But I'm afraid that after months of this he's really going to get sick of hearing about it all! Especially since he is not on any kind of weight loss/exercise plan himself. And I am certainly months away from my goal weight... as well as beyond that with the maintaining and healthy eating choices and lifestyle.

Will I ever be able to just DO it and not obsess and plan every decision?

How can I stop bombarding my BF with the nitty gritty details of this battle (and yes making good decisions still seems like a battle even 4 months in)?

When you figure it out, let me know - I do the same thing to my husband.  He just tunes me out when I start tho.

I do that too! lol I find that it really helps me focus that bit more, course he's too busy at work to bother paying much attention to the details, but he always asks me about the key points so is supportive that way :)

You could always try keeping a journal in you profile

You could try focusing on the many other interesting things you have to talk about, like hobbies, work/school, movies, etc. Test yourself: See if you can go an entire convo without mentioning food or weight.

Thanks for the input.

I'm VERY glad to hear I am not the only one who is bombarding their other half with these details.

As for journalling I write something at least once every day when I've got internet access. But for some reason my journal doesn't tell me I've done a good job. I guess I'm a sucker for positive reinforcement...?

To be fair to my BF I do try very hard not to have every conversation focus on my weight loss. Sadly my weekdays don't leave much for conversation topics. Work is boring enough that I don't care to re-live or put anyone else through the boredom of design standards reviews.  My hobbies currently consist of working out at the gym in the evening... Perhaps my bigger issue is I need to find a hobby that doesn't involve exercise/food?

Haha, I do the exact same thing. I think he probably tunes it out. I've expressed my concern that I'm annoying him to him, and he said he doesn't mind because it's me talking to him. Isn't that sweet?? We're long distance, too.

I don't talk to my hubby about those details. I don't feel like I need to. We go for walks a couple of times a week together for exercise, and I let him know if I have reached a mini-goal, but other than that, Those nitty-gritty details are unnecessary. I want to lose weight, but I am not so obsessed with it that I talk about it all the time. Of course, we have discussed that when I get closer to my goal weight, he has permission to let me know if my weight-loss efforts become unhealthy. He also has permission (from me) to take away my scale at any time if I start obsessing about it daily (he'll bring it out once a week for me if that ever happens).

But other than that... I just would say that you should talk about your life to your long-distance BF, I am sure he is attracted to who you are  on the inside just as much as he is attracted the outside you. talk about goals, dreams, desires (not the weight or body-image realted one's) talk about family, friends, what you did for fun, movies you want to see, books you are reading, and make it a point to limit your weightloss related information to 5 minutes or less, and then talk about something else. If you need to set a timer, do it. Also, get him talking more, ask him questions about things you want to know. Long distance relationships are tough, and the last thing you want is for all he knows about you is what you ate, and how much weight you've lost.

Maybe he loves hearing about it. Or maybe he tunes you out but loves that you're doing it. Or maybe he just loves YOU and wants to be supportive! Take the support where you can get it. If you feel like you're saying too much, turn to this web site... write to friends on a forum, write in your journal...

Have you asked him?

As long as you're not dominating EVERY SINGLE CONVERSATION with stuff about your weight loss, I don't see the problem. I've read studies which suggest that couples who talk about the small stuff tend to have the healthiest relationships, because they learn how each other "tick", and GROW TOGETHER. Even if he's not on any sort of weight loss or health plan, why shouldn't you be able to talk about what's important to you? Just be sure to listen when he talks about what's important to him.

Thanks everyone.

My BF and I are 3+ years into the relationship and even though the long distance is a recent development (I've had a job rotation to another city for a year) we are handling it well I think. And we do get to spend pretty much every weekend together still which makes every weekend something to look forward to. (HURRAY IT IS FRIDAY!!!)

Here's some of my reactions to what you have posted:

"Or maybe he tunes you out but loves that you're doing it. Or maybe he just loves YOU and wants to be supportive! Take the support where you can get it."

He definitely wants to be supportive and I think that even though he does tune me out occasionaly when I inform him of my new goals for the week he is very much my cheerleader still. And how can having your own cheerleader be a bad thing right???

"I've expressed my concern that I'm annoying him to him, and he said he doesn't mind because it's me talking to him. Isn't that sweet??"

So sweet!! :) I've expressed this concern to my BF too. I also gave him permission to tell me to change the subject if I start going overboard. Apparently I am not annoying but determined and he's proud of me. YAY! :)

"I've read studies which suggest that couples who talk about the small stuff tend to have the healthiest relationships, because they learn how each other "tick", and GROW TOGETHER. Even if he's not on any sort of weight loss or health plan, why shouldn't you be able to talk about what's important to you? Just be sure to listen when he talks about what's important to him."

I like this study. And you've hit the nail on the head about talking about what is important to both of us. Being healthier is important to me. More so than the weight loss itself (that is just a pleasant side effect).

I'm going to continue to keep him in the loop as my supporter/cheerleader. And now I'm starting to appreciate just how much he has been "on my team" for this. He's going to get such a big bear hug tonight! :)