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Hi all,

My name is Sandy. Im a 34 year old stay at home mom from Little Rock, Arkansas. I need to lose atleast 120 pounds...blah! I have been overweight since having my first child at age 18.

I lost around 60 pounds on nutri system and put it all back on mainly due to stress I think. Im a emotional eater.

In the last two years my best friend since childhood Jamie died of cancer in August of 2006. Me and Jamie were friends for over 23 years and I still have trouble adjusting to her being gone.

In May of 2007 I lost my mom to cancer. I was my moms caretaker which was very stressful.

Im still having alot of trouble getting over my mom's death. I have a hard time remembering anything but her illness. It's just hard to picture the healthy mom when all I saw for 15 months was her withering away from cancer.

She was just such a great mom and I so miss having her here to talk to and laugh with. It really sucks when I hear a funny story or something interesting all I want to do is say "Hey mom...." then I remember I can't do that anymore.

I also had my cat Buddy die from liver failure three months after my mom died. I had Buddy for 14 years.

Now my husband found a new job...but we having to move to another state....which I am totally nervous about because I have lived here my whole life. May sound a little odd but I am also feeling guilty about leaving my mom...I know sounds weird but I was her only child and I feel guilty about not being close to enought to visit her grave.

Plus being a stay at home mom I don't have any friends. I love my husband and kids dearly but lets face it we all need a good girlfriend to talk to.

I guess I worry way to much......about everything! Hopefully I can lose this weight and start to feel better about everything.

Wish me luck...im going to need all I can get!

Thanks for listening,

Sandy AKA sassynsouthern73

Dear Sandy - it seems like you have been through an awful period of loss, and while it's tough to think about moving, perhaps it's a good thing for you to get away from the physical place to a new place, where you won't have any losses attached.

Losing your mother is of course one of the most difficult things you can go through, and I understand fully that you miss her and find it difficult to "leave her behind". She's always with you though, no matter where you are physically, as she is a part of you, and you of her.

I hope that you will find pride and comfort in sticking with a plan to lose weight, and I definitely wish you all the best - and good luck...

Thank you for the reply and kind words. I hope everything turns around for me and like you said a move to a new place would probably end up being a good thing. I just hate new things...lol...well not really but I tend to get stuck in my own little rut and its hard for me to change. Thanks again and good luck to you also.

Sandy

Sorry you've had such a rough time hun. *hugs*

I hope your move goes well, sounds like a great opportunity and the perfect excuse to get out meet some girlies :) you never know, there may be som calorie counters there!

xXx

Good luck. Sorry for all of your recent losses. Just take little steps toward your goal. Choose healthy alternatives to the food you currently eat. Read labels and get moving. Exercise if the key I believe. My biggest success has come from exercising every day and cutting out bad fats and fried foods. Butter, mayo, fast food, deep fried anything. Replace with baked foods and healthy condiments like mustard, salsa, hot sauce, etc. Whole grains instead of white. I think a lot of people do not pay attention to what they are putting into their mouth. :) This site helps because if you use it correctly you log everything and it makes you more aware.

Thanks for all the replies...sorry I took so long to reply! We have been getting our house ready for the move..painting ect..blah but it is good exercise lol. So far so good with the diet, I have lost just over 10 pounds in about three weeks! I hope it keeps going that way. Thanks so much.

Just wanted to reply. I've just found this website and was reading you story.  I wanted to wish you a lot of luck on your move and loosing your weight. I lost my mom when I was 32 and boy I can tell you it was tough. I had two boys, 5 and 3. My Mom was my best friend so I lost two people when I lost her. And if it wasn't for my husband and two boys I know I wouldn't have been able to make it. But 23 years later I'm still here. But I still have my weight to get off. I've always been caring extra weight and through the years it just kept adding. I've tried several times to take it off but just couldn't stay on it. I was a stay at home mom too, and now that my boys are grown and gone I'm still at home. But as of 10 days ago I started this diet and I'm doing great! This time I've reached out on the web to see if I can't get some support and someone to talk to. I'm treating my diet this time like it is a JOB! I count calories and my mistakes so I can correct them. I haven't stumbled once, but I've had a few close calls. But so far have been able to keep on track. I am my dad's caretaker now and we live in Oklahoma. Your story just hit home a little with me and I wanted to wish you a lot of luck staying on your eating healthy. Wishing you luck..