Seriously people, whats with all this 'guys dig curves' garbage? Yea right! If guys dig curves, than why is the stick-thin image promoted? And why do guys only date mainly skinny girls whose legs don't even touch when they walk?

Anyone else in high school notice this? Do you think it's just our age?

yeah they want curvy as in, big boobs, tiny waist, big butt.

Original Post by rejoiceitssusan:

yeah they want curvy as in, big boobs, tiny waist, big butt.

 then  shouldn't i be more popular :p? cos at 35/27/37 and with 32D boobs i know i go in and out in the right places buuut the boys i know all prefer stick thin girls. except im quite happy as i am and i figure i just need to meet some real men :D

guys like T&A... aka tits and ass!

i think you are confused about what you are classifying 'stick' thin being promoted as attractive... those too-thin girls are the ones on the runway; the 'coat racks'... those are what most guys do not find attractive... they are merely there to show off CLOTHING and not their bodies...

the 'good' skinny on the other hand; the ones that most males find attractive are the bikini models, the play boy bunnies, the victoria secret girls... i don't mean to put women on display like this... but this is the kind of body most men are drawn to

a healthy body, with full breasts/hips is a sign that the woman is ideal to bear children... it is based on the evolutionary fact that our species wants to reproduce... so naturally the opposite sex is subconciously drawn to the one that appears to be the most capable of doing so (whether they wish to have children or not)

makes sense doesn't it? what we find and dont find attractive is primarly based on what evolution has taught us.

surely you wouldn't choose the pale scrawny sick and dirty looking guy as your first choice as a boyfriend now would you? the same goes for girls

I have NEVER EVER EVER heard one guy say that Nicole Richie or Angelina Jolie or Victoria Beckham looks 'hot' at their lowest weight

trust your instincts.. if someone doesn't look healthy or attractive right off the bat, then they probably arnt... if you have to debate with yourself if that scary skinny girl is attractive then you are probably still confused... trying to put that in the nicest possible way :P

 

 

Kim Kardashian & Jennifer Lopez have curves and guys dig them...

Guys likes curves but only in the right areas...

I have curves but mine are in the WRONG areas lol. 

Slightly off-topic, but what i really dislike is how some people call fat people, actually fat, probably quite overweight (it doesn't extend to obese though) curvy. They are not curvy. They are FAT.

Anyway, yep. guy like girls with big boobs/bum. small waist ideal. skinny legs, arms, neck etc quite necessary.

Ooh, what also gets me is the 'ideal' woman. Its a strange mixture of gay fashion designers and male lust: long, thin legs, no hips, tiny waist, enormous boobs, small shoulders + frame, no arse.

come on. get real.

I agree.  My friends and I like thin girls.  Boobs aren't really that important to us compared to being skinny <100 lbs for a shorter girl, <120 lbs for a girl around 5'9".  I know it is horrible but I am just being honest.

However, there are just as many unhealthy guys as there are unhealthy girls so it all works out in the end.  Plus, guys are guys and tend to settle for the first cute girl that shows interest in them, lol.

But Victoria and Angelina definitely do look hot about 5-7 lbs above their lowest weight.  They're still thin, but I agree with you... anorexia isn't that attractive.

Original Post by garnet18:

because the media isn't trying to impress the guys, it's trying to sell to the girls.

they've successfully created the illusion that guys like it (which some do, but most claim they don't), and the girls believe it.

moreover,

what i see is everybody running around making a fuss about how the media brainwashes everybody; in reality there are more people complaining about the media than there are people who agree with it.

 

my theory, anyway :|

I completely agree with you.  Advertising that feature stick skinny women, or shows that feature them are most often geared toward women and are pedaling products intended to make us all strive to be the 'ideal' woman (and spend money on their products to get that way)

Americans spend more money on wrinkle reducers, cellulite cream, diet pills, and mystery supplements than the whole continent of Africa has to spend on HIV treatment..... interesting were our priorities lie... now of course being extremely overweight is not good but obsession with being super skinny is not good either... in the 1800s women would expose themselves to tuberculosis so that they could become thin, pale and wan because it was in style.... strange what women will do to fit a socially fabricated image of perfection.

Calling an overweight person FAT is both foolish and demeaning to a womans character, its one of the reasons why so many girls suffer from ED now-a-days

But Ladies, seriously CURVY is in. If it wasn't then people like Tyra Banks would not be famous. They had a booty, and depending on how much she exersized, she had a gut too.

Also Americas next top model was a plus size Woman...WITH CURVES. So all that nonsence about media portrayal may begin to change.

Curvy is being slightly larger, however its important that you stay in shape. Similar to a stick-thin girl who doesnt exersize, it just doesnt work

No exersize=No Shape

B/c in this day and age, the balloon look of 'obesity' is not attractive, however the 'iron board' look of anorexia is even less attractive.

This is the guys opinion. Keep your curves, keep the booty and you'll get the guys to notice. Confidence is key, regardless of shape. If you know you look good, you will feel good.

It may just be a high school thing, however I when I was in high school the hottest girl was a plus size. So its not an age thing

Speaking from experience, my partner has said multiple times that he likes me with curves (unfortunately, i fell under the 'rake' category for over a year) and I now have -tada- breasts and an arse. I also have a small pouch on my stomach. He's now very attentive to those areas, and I'm taking his word for it, as he owns a modeling agency - so I'm always around models (i'll state the agency has about 50 girls and every one of them differ in size)

It all depends, I mean - if I were him, I wouldn't have wanted to go to bed every night with a bag of bones that our dog could have chewed on, nor would I want to go to bed with something that could crush him in his sleep. (do not slate me for those comments, i'm being sarcastic)

End of the day, really - you're only going to hold onto someone as fa as your personality is concerned. Weight can differ year to year.

Oh, and ftr our bodies are not airbrushed to perfection, so basing anything on the media is just daft in my opinion..

edit - I'll state here i'm not a teenager, but times have not changed that much as to every guy now likes skinny girls.

Don't take this the wrong way, but why are you so sure that having a guy will solve all your problems? It doesn't. It won't. You'll have a boyfriend, not a personality transplant. And as an addendum: assuming that guys really don't find you attractive (which I really and truly doubt), do you think that your (insert body part here) is the ONLY THING that's putting them off?

What about being selfish, or conceited, or vain, or unsympathetic to other people's problems, or two-faced, or inflexible, or attention-craving or constantly irritable? What about constantly feeling self-conscious, and LOOKING and ACTING self-conscious, and never really putting yourself in social situations where you're around boys, and never making the first move in a situation where you find someone attractive? What about never joining in group activities - a lot of which revolve around food - like going out for pizza, or going to see a movie, and spending them alone on your exercise bike or treadmill instead? That ain't going to give you a relationship, hon. It's perfectly normal to want to be wanted, but you're not exactly making it easy for guys to like you if you're constantly dwelling on your issues with your body and your self-confidence and letting that get in the way of actually being around them.

You're a hot chick, but you have to put yourself out there and talk to people - especially people OUTSIDE your normal social circle; outside your comfort zone. That's really important to do, in high school: remember, all the guys are probably going 'why don't girls like me?' right now, and probably don't know how to approach you. I'm not advocating being a slut - that's not what I mean at all. But all relationships have to start from that first conversation - and if you're always waiting for someone to just swoop into your life a la DIsney, well, it's probably not going to happen.

I love curvy women I think its healthy, not that the stick thin thing isnt horrible but it depends on what size you see thin. thin for me is seeing ribs (not anorexia like) hard to explain.

My boyfriend loves my butt (I was not blessed with the boobs, I'm a pear shape for sure) and he loves my waist and even though I have kind of a poochy tummy he's always touching it so I dunno, I guess it depends on the guy. He's got a fantastic body but I've noticed the girls he prefers are not stick thin.

Guys do like curves, but they have to be pleasing curves, like boobs and butt. Blake Lively is a good example.

Original Post by squashmeister:

Don't take this the wrong way, but why are you so sure that having a guy will solve all your problems? It doesn't. It won't. You'll have a boyfriend, not a personality transplant. And as an addendum: assuming that guys really don't find you attractive (which I really and truly doubt), do you think that your (insert body part here) is the ONLY THING that's putting them off?

What about being selfish, or conceited, or vain, or unsympathetic to other people's problems, or two-faced, or inflexible, or attention-craving or constantly irritable? What about constantly feeling self-conscious, and LOOKING and ACTING self-conscious, and never really putting yourself in social situations where you're around boys, and never making the first move in a situation where you find someone attractive? What about never joining in group activities - a lot of which revolve around food - like going out for pizza, or going to see a movie, and spending them alone on your exercise bike or treadmill instead? That ain't going to give you a relationship, hon. It's perfectly normal to want to be wanted, but you're not exactly making it easy for guys to like you if you're constantly dwelling on your issues with your body and your self-confidence and letting that get in the way of actually being around them.

You're a hot chick, but you have to put yourself out there and talk to people - especially people OUTSIDE your normal social circle; outside your comfort zone. That's really important to do, in high school: remember, all the guys are probably going 'why don't girls like me?' right now, and probably don't know how to approach you. I'm not advocating being a slut - that's not what I mean at all. But all relationships have to start from that first conversation - and if you're always waiting for someone to just swoop into your life a la DIsney, well, it's probably not going to happen.

 i heart you. =)

well i must say that when i lived in cali curvy girls were the ones guys dated. but i was to young then, im pretty sure that if i moved back i would be crawled over because im the type of girl those guys date + more. lol. Also in Arizona the same would happen.....but I live in hawaii and people dont know the difference between very small bones and medium bones so im called "fat" when really im underweight for my bone size. (5'6.5" 126lb) Plus a lot of people here like skinny no curve girls....But i guess i do get looked at some times... So i guess i would have to say it depends where u are and the age. Because ive had high schoolers and college people look at me...im in middle school btw....

Original Post by cypherous:

Calling an overweight person FAT is both foolish and demeaning to a womans character, its one of the reasons why so many girls suffer from ED now-a-days

But Ladies, seriously CURVY is in. If it wasn't then people like Tyra Banks would not be famous. They had a booty, and depending on how much she exersized, she had a gut too.

Also Americas next top model was a plus size Woman...WITH CURVES. So all that nonsence about media portrayal may begin to change.

Curvy is being slightly larger, however its important that you stay in shape. Similar to a stick-thin girl who doesnt exersize, it just doesnt work

No exersize=No Shape

B/c in this day and age, the balloon look of 'obesity' is not attractive, however the 'iron board' look of anorexia is even less attractive.

This is the guys opinion. Keep your curves, keep the booty and you'll get the guys to notice. Confidence is key, regardless of shape. If you know you look good, you will feel good.

It may just be a high school thing, however I when I was in high school the hottest girl was a plus size. So its not an age thing

I agree that healthy curves are lovely, and that skeletons are not. However, why should being called fat be demeaning? Last I checked, 'fat' was the word for 'fat', not 'somewhat overweight' or 'slightly unfit' or 'a bit plump'. If you are fat, you are fat, and there's nothing people can say which will change that unless you try and change that truth and work towards a healthier body.

Original Post by garnet18:

because the media isn't trying to impress the guys, it's trying to sell to the girls.

they've successfully created the illusion that guys like it (which some do, but most claim they don't), and the girls believe it.

Yep. I've realised that when women walk into a room, we're not checking out the men, we're checking out the other women to see where we rank. THEN we check out the men. I've come to the conclusion that a lot of this is based on impressing other women. I mean, which man is going to notice if I'm wearing the wrong style of heels for this season, or if I've put on 5lbs? It's the women that'll make nasty comments. The man will notice if I'm healthy, dress to accentuate my good parts and carry myself with confidence. And if he doesn't? So what. Someone else will, and I will.

 <100 lbs for a shorter girl, <120 lbs for a girl around 5'9".  I know it is horrible but I am just being honest.

YOU may be being honest, but whoever told you their weight sure wasn't. Most of my friends are at a healthy BMI, and let me tell you, I don't know a single person who weighs under 100. Not even the short, skinny Chinese girls I know do. Not even my sister, who is officially underweight does. The person with the best figure I've ever met was my housemate last year. She was tallish (about 5'6 I think), beautiful and a dancer - and she weighed about 135.

Original Post by sugarsweet:

36.5, 25, 38. (raging pear)

 You're most definitely not a raging pear. I'm 34, 29, 44. I would believe that what you would consider a raging pear. lol It seems to me that you are more of an hourglass shape.