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Advice for Pre-School Potty issue


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I started my daughter in pre-school today.  She's three years and about four months old.  The other kids in her class are slightly older to 4.

She is fully potty trained since 3-  she wears a diaper at night; sometimes wakes up full, sometimes diapers dry.

Moving on....

She is always going to the potty on her own-  but I help her; and at her sitter's house; she gets on the potty by herself-  but we have a Seat on the actual toilet.  You know, like a dora or fairy potty seat.  And she goes, just fine, all normal; wipes and flushes.  However; at her school-  she is so SCARED of the bathroom-  there are smaller potties but no seats that she can sit on-  and she refuses to step on the stool to get up on the potty.  No debating- full out screaming.

She "held it" from 7:30-4ish then had an accident today.  When I picked her up, we went in the bathroom and I was able to happliy get her to put the stool by the sink-  pick it up; climb up; turn the sink on and wash her hands.  But she refused to get near that toilet.

At home I tried to get her to climb on her step stool but she freaked out.  I'm sure it was b/c she was tired etc-  and i know this is her first day in a school setting-  but I"m just worried and was heartbroken at work that I couldn't just swoop her up and take her home.  But; I don't want to do that; that's not helping her problem solve and get over fears.  I don't want to give her pull-ups to wear-  wouldn't that be enabling the problem?

Anyone else ever have this happen?  She isn't a fearful child.  And she's not shy.  Not really a chatter box; but she's sociable.

thanks for any advice.  I was thinking about giving her teacher stickers of stars so she can wear them when she goes-  but she's around other children who would want them and I don't want to single her out.

-sigh-

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Can she tell you what she is afraid of?  My daughter doesn't like the long oval shaped potties and only wants to go on the round ones like at home.  Could it be that they are shaped differently or a different color?  Maybe you could make up a story about the different potties and tell her it is like a throne that is just her size?  It might help to know what the holdup is and focus on that.

My daughter also hates loud flushes.  I'm still trying to work that one out myself, so if that's it, I've got nothin'.  :-)  Any advice on that issue would be appreciated.

OMG.  Loud flushing.  I don't think there is anything you can do about that except putting the seat down so it's muffled?

My little one has had Success!  She went on the potty today and is doing better there.  I'm so proud of her.  I even wrote her a little letter when I found out. 

It is so baffling how these little people become all that you are the minute they arrive.  So proud of my lil best friend.

 

 

Original Post by vanessa1031:

OMG.  Loud flushing.  I don't think there is anything you can do about that except putting the seat down so it's muffled?

My little one has had Success!  She went on the potty today and is doing better there.  I'm so proud of her.  I even wrote her a little letter when I found out. 

It is so baffling how these little people become all that you are the minute they arrive.  So proud of my lil best friend.

 

 

 My daughter won't go to any establisments with an automatic flush, or loud flush, she'll SCREAM. Other than that she's fully potty trained at 2 1/4. She's now 2 3/4. I stopped the diaper at night at 2, and maybe a month? She was dry for weeks so I figured, why not? She's only peed the bed twice since, and her birthday is in December.

For the automatic flush, show her how to put a piece of toilet paper over the sensor before she sits down.  My neice had the same issue when she started kindergarten.  She sat down and it flushed on her and she freaked out (she's quite drama anyway) but refuses to go until the teacher showed her to put a piece of toilet paper over it.  Now she spends about 2 minutes putting like ten pieces over it!  It's quite hilarious!  But it works!

I always carry post-it notes for the automatic flush toilet sensors, just throw 'em in the trash on the way out. ;)

Original Post by skullmanjack:

I always carry post-it notes for the automatic flush toilet sensors, just throw 'em in the trash on the way out. ;)

 Wow.  Us moms really do think of everything.

Give her a couple days to get used to it. Since the whole day is new to her, she may just not be ready to tackle the new toilet yet :)

Have her teachers at least make her go in the bathroom several times a day (on structured potty breaks). No big deal if she stands in there for a minute, but that can start desensitizing her a little on a level that doesn't melt her down.

Start taking her to other toilets, public toilets, friends houses, etc. She's freaking because it's not what she's used to, if she's comfortable using the toilet lots of places that will help, and prevent this problem in the future.

If it's still a problem after a week, I would def. have the teachers use whatever you did while potty training her (stickers, m&ms, whatever). Sure the other kids will want it too, so you can either send enough for everyone, or just realize the other kids will get over it after a couple days (assuming the teachers are ok with it).

 

Original Post by skullmanjack:

I always carry post-it notes for the automatic flush toilet sensors, just throw 'em in the trash on the way out. ;)


OMG... never thought of this.

Original Post by skullmanjack:

I always carry post-it notes for the automatic flush toilet sensors, just throw 'em in the trash on the way out. ;)


OMG... never thought of this.

I need advice for my 3 year old if anyone could help!!

She has #1 down fine, even at night BUT #2, she just will NOT go in the potty. She will go and hide and if I try to put her on the potty, she screams and holds it. At school she has to wear big girl panties and does not have any accidents but won't go #2 at school. Then when we get home, she hides. I have tried everything I can think of. I have tried rewards and time out but nothing works so now I just put a pull up on her when we get home. I know that is not the right answer but I am at a loss, everyone just says she will get it but WHEN. She knows she is suppose to go in the potty but refuses. If anyone has any ideas I would LOVE them!!! Thanks!

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