I have to say I don't believe people when they tell me that their 8/10/16/whatever-month old sleeps through the night. My 16 month old still wakes up a few times (however, we are still nursing at night and co-sleeping so I am sure that matters) and it's been fine. He nurses and is back to sleep in just a few minutes. But SOMETIMES lately, as I have been thinking of transitioning him to his own bed and weaning him completely, I have to say I am dreaming of the uninterrupted 8 hours of sleep. I have heard that they don't really start sleeping through the night (I consider that to be at least 8 hours, and at least 5-6 nights per week, not one of two flukey nights) until they're about two.
Thoughts? I am also looking for weaning advice for a night-only nurser who we are going to be transitioning to his own room & bed soon.
Babies and children (and adults!) go through various cycles in the sleep habits. A baby STTN at 5 months might hit a growth spurt, major life changes like moving to a new place, get sick, teeth, or even weather changes at 7 months where they're up every couple of hours again. That's completely normal.
I never could CIO because to me it felt like I was telling my child I was going to ignore the one form of communication they had. And that didn't feel right. Babies who cry are babies who trust their parents to respond to them.
We did cosleep (the official definition of cosleeping is sharing a room- not necessarily sharing a bed- a crib in your room is "cosleeping") and it worked well for us. I didn't have to turn on a light and fully wake up and disrupt my own sleep cycles in order to tend the baby. Since I did most of the nighttime parenting when they were babies, my husband does all the nighttime parenting for them as kids (changing peed-on sheets, cleaning up barf, etc). It's actually a sweet deal!
Sometimes babies aren't waking to feed- maybe yours is cold/warm/had a bad dream/heard a noise/etc. None of that is the fault of whichever feeding method you choose. It's part of being human! If something is working for you (your bedtime routine, nursing, etc.) then ignore other peoples' expectations. Don't create problems where there aren't any because your MIL or friend or an online stranger said that your baby "should" be doing something. It's your relationship, not tgeirs. Every baby is different. Of course, if something isn't working, then go ahead and try something new. And remember that it's only a very short time in hindsight. Years from now it won't even be on your radar. It gets better!