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The pull out method


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I've read that this is one of the worst forms of contraceptives there are, but I don't fully understand why it has such a bad rap. From what I've gleaned from various google searches, if it's used reliably, chances of pregnancy are as low as if you'd used a condom. And that pre-ejaculate doesn't contain any mobile sperm unless the guy has ejaculated beforehand and still has some left over or something, and that's not even an issue if he's gone to the bathroom before another love session.

So is the only reason why the pull out method has such a high failure rate because some guys don't pull out in time, or is there something else that I'm missing?

The reason I ask is because we sometimes use this method, and my boyfriend told me that sometimes guys spurt a little bit before the grand finale (I'm trying to word this so it's not pornographic or anything lol ). And I kind of know what he means, because sometimes before I finish, I'll have a little spasm that's not the real thing.. if I'm making any sense? So is that possible? Can a guy unknowingly spurt some of the real stuff (not pre-ejaculate) before the actual finish a few minutes later?

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This link has some good information.  1 in 4 people using this method get pregnant.  That failure rate gets higher in teens and young adults.  Besides the whole baby thing, there are STD's to worry about.

How is there not a better method of contraceptive available?  Almost every drug or grocery store sells condoms.

 

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I didn't ask this question to get bashed for not using a condom! I was just curious about the technicallities of why so many women say that the pull-out method failed them. We are not just a couple of teenagers with raging hormones, we are both college graduates, have been living together for 2 years, and have decided to use the pull out method as a "if it happens, great, but if not, that's okay too" kind of thing.

I really was just curious.

If you're willing to playing the odds, you might as well go for it.  If you're ready to have kids, you might as well enjoy the finale.  All it takes is one time for it not to work perfectly and you to be in a fertile period, of course, even using the method perfectly there's still higher chances than using a condom.  It is better as far as pregnancy risk goes, but not anywhere near as good as people tend to think.

Original Post by salmander23:

I've read that this is one of the worst forms of contraceptives there are, but I don't fully understand why it has such a bad rap. From what I've gleaned from various google searches, if it's used reliably, chances of pregnancy are as low as if you'd used a condom. And that pre-ejaculate doesn't contain any mobile sperm unless the guy has ejaculated beforehand and still has some left over or something, and that's not even an issue if he's gone to the bathroom before another love session.

I believe pre-ejaculate does contain live sperm, that's why the method is so unreliable.

Okay, so I found some information for you, which is posted below:

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topic s/birth-control/withdrawal-pull-out-method-42 18.htm

 

I am not saying this is a safe way to have sex (STD and Pregnancy wise) but my husband and I use and have used this method for the last 11 years. I have not gotten pregnant at all. Before we were "together" we both got tested for STD's though. With that said, I DO NOT think this is necessarily the way to go. I do believe, as merylwhite stated, there are live sperm in the pre-ejaculation. Also, you have to be very disciplined for this method to work or you could have an "oopsie baby" Surprised. During the most fertile times (ovulation) we always use other forms of protection though.

 

To Jackattack: I am not sure why you are so condescending and like to attack people with your responses. This is not the first time you have been so rude to other members on here. What is the problem? People come on this site to ask questions we are normally afraid to ask in front of real people. People should not have to fear being criticized by someone who is perpetually PMS'ing. If you have nothing valid to add to the conversation then please don't write anything.

Original Post by just_me_here2009:

Okay, so I found some information for you, which is posted below:

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topic s/birth-control/withdrawal-pull-out-method-42 18.htm

 

I am not saying this is a safe way to have sex (STD and Pregnancy wise) but my husband and I use and have used this method for the last 11 years. I have not gotten pregnant at all. Before we were "together" we both got tested for STD's though. With that said, I DO NOT think this is necessarily the way to go. I do believe, as merylwhite stated, there are live sperm in the pre-ejaculation. Also, you have to be very disciplined for this method to work or you could have an "oopsie baby" Surprised. During the most fertile times (ovulation) we always use other forms of protection though.

 

To Jackattack: I am not sure why you are so condescending and like to attack people with your responses. This is not the first time you have been so rude to other members on here. What is the problem? People come on this site to ask questions we are normally afraid to ask in front of real people. People should not have to fear being criticized by someone who is perpetually PMS'ing. If you have nothing valid to add to the conversation then please don't write anything.

 

The pull out method alone has a high failure rate and many young girls think it's enough so they don't use birth control. What happens then is the guy gets into it and gives one last thrust and doesn't get out in time. Frankly I'm paranoid enough that I use my birth control (the ring)and make him pull out. So far I've been lucky. Basically you need to know this: if you want to have sex please take control of the situation yourself. Find a birth control method that works for you and use it. Keep a back-up like Plan B in your nightstand and unless you are totally committed and receiving regular check-ups, make him wear a condom too. You can never be too careful.

I'm just curious, why do you choose to use the pull-out method? I think it would be annoying to have to always pull out just before you're going to get off, wouldn't it be more pleasurable to finish inside?

I'm not criticizing just also genuinely curious.

Original Post by ashtray_fitzcigface:

I'm just curious, why do you choose to use the pull-out method? I think it would be annoying to have to always pull out just before you're going to get off, wouldn't it be more pleasurable to finish inside?

I'm not criticizing just also genuinely curious.

Well the condom is used for that & I ain't taking birth control ever again! But I've been with the same guy for over a decade. So kids, don't try this at home (or where ever you do it Innocent)

Ah, bad experiences with the BC pill? I'm on Alesse right now and it works great for me. But one time I tried the generic brand of Alesse and I wanted to kill everything and everyone including myself. It's so weird how basically the same thing can make that big of a difference.

I've used the pull out method before and luckily it worked for me (most of the time, there was once it didn't), but I think I prefer just the pill since it's working for me and I despise condoms.

Oh honey, please, no.

I share your hatred of hormonal birth control pills for the most part, however, I will say that after trying multiple kinds I found one that I could tolerate pretty well.

If you are that against the pill or various forms thereof look into an IUD or the implant.

The pull-out method is a lot like playing Russian Roulette with reproduction.

Unreliable. Trust me. (29.5 weeks).

Luckily I have a long term bf (basically husband) so it's not really unwelcome...just very... unplanned.

I found out I was preg about 3 days before my Dr appointment to talk about IUDs. I wasn't good with bc pill--tried several different times but would get LOTS of migraines and one made me just plain psycho. 

Not trying to bash you at all but seriously??

Probably the reason why it gets a bad rap is because it gets women pregnant.  I am the perfect example!  BUT...I was on birth control too.  Just remember, that you should really use a back up no matter what your method is.  Nothing is ever 100%.  And I am pretty sure the "pre" stuff has live sperm...so you might check your resource on that one.

My back up is to threaten my husband to take away sex FOREVER if he gets me pregnant again.  I promise I wouldn't really do it but we don't have to tell him that.

Original Post by just_me_here2009:
To Jackattack: I am not sure why you are so condescending and like to attack people with your responses. This is not the first time you have been so rude to other members on here. What is the problem? People come on this site to ask questions we are normally afraid to ask in front of real people. People should not have to fear being criticized by someone who is perpetually PMS'ing. If you have nothing valid to add to the conversation then please don't write anything.

Thanks for sticking up for me :)

And thanks everyone for your replies, they were very helpful.

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My five month old son is proof that the pull out method doesn't work forever!! :)

 

I would recommend getting an IUD.  The one I have is non-hormonal, it is a physical barrier against implantation.  So no side effects, no nothing.  I have heard that they can make the first few periods you have with it in a little more crampy than usual, but I'm still breastfeeding & haven't had a period yet so I can't say for sure.  I'm really happy with it though, no pills to forget, no weight gain.

No problem...Wink

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Original Post by ashtray_fitzcigface:

Ah, bad experiences with the BC pill? I'm on Alesse right now and it works great for me. But one time I tried the generic brand of Alesse and I wanted to kill everything and everyone including myself. It's so weird how basically the same thing can make that big of a difference.

I've used the pull out method before and luckily it worked for me (most of the time, there was once it didn't), but I think I prefer just the pill since it's working for me and I despise condoms.

 "I wanted to kill everything and everyone including myself" LFMAO~ just cracking me up...  :D cant stop laughing...actually feeling pain in my stomach since i worked out yesterday...haha... btw, i never had any problem with bc but if i dont take them i feel extremely aggressive ;)

Original Post by supan0va:

btw, i never had any problem with bc but if i dont take them i feel extremely aggressive ;)

Clearly you haven't been taking them lately - what is with all the random attacks?

Hi, just wanted to put my 2c worth in.  My husband and i have been using this method - together with natural family planning - for the last 12 years.  We have 2 beautiful children and a 3rd on the way, all of which were 100% planned and I fell pregnant first try with each of them.  There is alot to be said for knowing your body and when your most fertile time is.  We simply used the pull out method whenever we had sex in the 3 days leading up to my fertile time and then abstained for 6 days (or if we couldn't wait, then he was very careful to pull out well in advance of the 'grand finale' then for the rest of the month which eqates to about 21 days, it was on for young and old so to speak!  Works great for us, but you really have to know your body and he really has to be disciplined and know his body too.  I would recommend charting for a couple of months to get to know your body and it's fertility signs and reading as much as you can about natural family planning, because when done correctly it is highly reliable.  Good luck! 

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