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Anybody sick of their boyfriend?


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I am so sick of my boyfriend! But he lives with me so hes hard to get rid of because he has no where else to go. I just decided to do counseling with him and give it one last try but since then my eating has deteriorated. Im trying to stay motivated, but I think I must be eating my feelings and probably some resentment. I want him to go but I dont want to feel guilty about dumping someone when they are in need. Job lay off etc.Plus he makes the stupidest dang decisions I have ever seen! My eating is much too tied to my relationships , but I dont know how to break the tie. Mentally I see a fit body as a prerequisite for finding someone decent, so I know after I get out of this I will have to get back into the dating thing, so that makes me want to work out and diet. But the fact that I have commited to trying again drives me nuts and screws up my eating. Anybody in a similar boat? I would love to hear from you! 



I am so sick of my boyfriend! But he lives with me so hes hard to get rid of because he has no where else to go. I just decided to do counseling with him and give it one last try but since then my eating has deteriorated. Im trying to stay motivated, but I think I must be eating my feelings and probably some resentment. I want him to go but I dont want to feel guilty about dumping someone when they are in need. Job lay off etc.Plus he makes the stupidest dang decisions I have ever seen! My eating is much too tied to my relationships , but I dont know how to break the tie. Mentally I see a fit body as a prerequisite for finding someone decent, so I know after I get out of this I will have to get back into the dating thing, so that makes me want to work out and diet. But the fact that I have commited to trying again drives me nuts and screws up my eating. Anybody in a similar boat? I would love to hear from you! 
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I've been where you are.  The single most important thing is to make yourself happy.  A couple should thrive together, using your strengths to support your relationship and growth.  If all he does is hold you back, regardless if he has no where to go, thats not your problem.  If he is sincerely TRYING, thats one thing, if he doesn't care period, that's where its time to cut him loose.  He'll find a place.  You deserve to be happy and to grow, not to support someone who is still a child the rest of your life.  I'm 26 and have been in relationships where I've outgrown my mate, I'm making good money and well educated, and when I realized my g/f couldn't even balance her checkbook and started gambling and didn't care anymore, I said cya.
give him a deadline and ask him to go.  two months is plenty of notice for him to find a place and get his shit together (and look!  it's the first of the month!  what perfect timing :)) 

him moving out doesn't have to signal the end of the relationship; it just means that living together isn't working.  and--come on--he's an adult.  if you're taking care of him, it's not an equitable relationship, you're his mommy.

you have to look after yourself and your kids.  you've done what you can; it sounds like the chances that this is going to get better are pretty slim.  don't put up with it until you end up hating him.
I'm not in the exact same boat, but i'm in a similar one!!!

I love my boyfriend, and we do live together.  But sometimes I want to be alone!!! I'm kind of a loner as it is, so when he's THERE all the time.. It gets on my nerves.  He's really affectionate, and sometimes I just don't want to deal with it. 

We have been getting along fairly well.. BUT, I attribute that to the fact that he works second shift and I work first, so we hardly see eachother during the week.

However, Memorial day weekend we were together the whole time. Until Monday, I was trying to clean because I was in the mood for it (I must have been sick!!) and he was "trying" as well, but I told him "will you just do me a favor and leave" (in Spanish, though 'cuz he's mexican and we never talk English)... So he left... THen he came home really late and I got super pissed at him (I got the rag that night) and I was irrate, so I told him he was sleeping on the couch!! And he did..

Talyah- You need to do what's best for you.  I struggle with the idea of one day separating from my boyfriend, i'm his first real relationship, and I know he will be devastated.  We broke up once last year, he got physically ill.. It makes me nervous.  But, I've got to do what's best for me and you've got to do what's best for you.

Oh yeah!!! And HE can eat WHATEVER he wants and not gain an ounce--which is what he's trying to do!! GRRRRR!!  If I even look at food and I gain weight.

Sorry for the long post....
Girl...If you are sick of your boyfriend...Then you need to give him the BOOT!!!  Although I was sick of my girlfriend (she lived with me) for months before we had our final falling out.  (and she ended up breaking up with me, and I was Like "nuh uh, I'm breaking up with you!)

You are obviously a caring person because you don't want to make things worse on somebody that sounds to be a bit self-destructive on their own...But you really need to think about yourself and not let him drag you down.

There's my 2 cents...

Hey, my name is dregi I'm 23yr old I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2yrs and it's the things that he do that makes me so sick of him like , drinking out of the jugs in the refrigerator milk, soda, anything and thats not how i was raise so it kinda upsets me i think thats gross but that's one of the small things that he does, any who i guess since i live on my own since i was17yrs old i kinda like my space in the way i do things he does'nt understand that i love him but dont want to live with him anymore he says if we cant live together then we cant be together in i think thats kinda childish but at this point i just want to live on my own in my own space w\b talyah

I won't go into details..but "Here, Here!"

no, i want mind back damit. and yes i know i have issues reguarding it.

OP, you need counseling; way beyond what anyone can offer here. Sealed

Get rid of your boyfriend. Sure he has nowhere to go now, but he can find his own place. Living together is no excuse not to end a going-nowhere, dead-end relationship.

seems we are in the same boat I have been with my bf six yes he won't work I support us on my ssi because he won't get out and find work I am sick of excuses we live off what I bring in ,I go to school I am I'll and I still have a hard time kicking him to the curb because at 46 I keep hoping our situation will change. I am at my grand mom because I'm to pissed over me doing everything and him not giving any effort.I give him money to pay bills which sometimes he will and sometimes he spends it that stresses me out because I have to pull from saving to pay ****.only advice I can give you is just pray and do what's best for you.I am about to end things and move on because I see no future with him and that is depressing in itsvself.

You do counseling with a husband.

If you need counseling with a bf....  you need to break it off.

considering this was posted four years ago, let's assume the OP resolved the issue, hmm?

Original Post by pgeorgian:

considering this was posted four years ago, let's assume the OP resolved the issue, hmm?

LOL!  I usually check that before I post! 

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