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Bad to ask a coworker to be a reference for you to find a new job?


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I'm having a rough time in my job and have to look for a better situation.

There's a guy at work that I really respect and believe he respects me.

Would it be bad to ask him to be a reference?

I only know him through work and it's a small company.

I don't want to put him in a bad spot. I intend to look around and see what's available and tell my bosses that I'm looking only when I get an interview that I'll need time off for. I'll of course give them a 2 week but I don't intend to stir the pot before necessary.

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Even if he was 100% trustworthy and your best friend I would not ask for a reccomendation until you are ready for the bosses to find out.  It will put him in a bad situation regardless of his loyalty to you/the company.

Maybe if you can test the waters at all to see how he would feel about a reccomendation before you actually ask him. 

I don't have any solid advice, but if you do ask, be prepared to be confronted by your boss.

Sorry for not addressing the actual question in your OP, but I wanted to say that I wouldn't tell your work that you were looking even if you land an interview.

All you need to tell them is that you need time for "an appointment."

Also, I worked as a title clerk/bookkeeper for a Toyota dealership for four years.  It's a very stressful position, isn't it?  I am so much happier now that I'm not in the car biz.

Nope, I wouldn't ask anyone from your current workplace to give you an employment reference.  First of all, this individual would have to be part of the management team to be taken seriously as a reference by any potential employer.

Secondly, you are putting him in a very bad situation, especially if your position is critical to the operations of the business. 

If I were you I would go back to past employers and obtain my references that way.  No need to let the current employer know you are actively searching.  But be sure not to burn your bridges as you will need other employment references in the future.

Original Post by purespark:

Sorry for not addressing the actual question in your OP, but I wanted to say that I wouldn't tell your work that you were looking even if you land an interview.

All you need to tell them is that you need time for "an appointment."

 

I second this! because not all new employers actually contact  referees many are just looking to see if you can provide them.

The last job I had it was part of my job to sort out applicants and in 5yrs I think i contacted 4 and that was because they were unemployed at the time of interview.

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