Is it bad to be in a serious relationship with someone you aren't physically attracted to?
just curious
Assuming this is purely hypothetical, my opinion is that physical attraction isn't the most important component of a relationship by any means, but it is important. I believe that a potential lifemate has to be someone you want a sexual connection with.
It would irk the hell outta me, that's for sure.
The thing is, though, I can find someone marginally or not at all physically attractive at first. Sometimes after getting to know them, the physical attraction starts to kick in.
Bad for which person?
I would think if both parties felt the same way then there would be no problem, it would be like being best, best friends? Though, if one wants to get intimate when the other dosnt, that could certainly cause awkwardness for both of them.
either
If both people are asexual, bad for neither.
If one or both people have libidos, bad for both.
I got in a relationship with a dear friend thinking that since everything else seemed so perfect, the physical attraction would eventually just...click. Why did I think that? Because I've had friendships that started out with no attraction but eventually they became attractive to me. But in this case, it didn't happen and before I knew it, I was in over my head. By the time I realized that I was never going to be physically 'into' this guy, enough time had passed that he thought it was serious. It was a struggle for me to remain faithful even though I had never considered cheating in my life. I just couldn't help feeling like a big something was missing. At that point there's no way out without hurting his feelings and ruining what was otherwise a great friendship.
We did remain friends after I broke up with him, but it was never the same...like a big fat elephant in the room. When I got married, he kinda disappeared, I guess he finally realized that our relationship would never be what he envisioned...
It probably depends on how important physical attraction is for you. If there's a lot of other qualities that you find more attractive and more valuable than physical attraction then it would work. Lets face it, almost none of us are going to find that one person that is the tops for every single quality we're looking for. People still fall in love and are still happy because we're will to settle for someone with varying degrees of those qualities.
YES!!!! Of Course It Is i Know I Wouldnt Be In a relationship with no ugly person
Yes.
I'm confused...just how "serious" can you get with this person...you mean physical? and you aren't attracted to them?? How does that work?
Why would you want to be in a serious relationship with someone you aren't physically attracted to?
Original Post by purespark:
Assuming this is purely hypothetical, my opinion is that physical attraction isn't the most important component of a relationship by any means, but it is important. I believe that a potential lifemate has to be someone you want a sexual connection with.
Pretty much this ^
Original Post by lilsammi23:
Original Post by purespark:
Assuming this is purely hypothetical, my opinion is that physical attraction isn't the most important component of a relationship by any means, but it is important. I believe that a potential lifemate has to be someone you want a sexual connection with.
Pretty much this ^
In the long run both will get frustrated and the relationship will crumble.
Bagga posted a great quote once:
Without passion there can only be acquaintance.
Original Post by lilsammi23:
Original Post by purespark:
Assuming this is purely hypothetical, my opinion is that physical attraction isn't the most important component of a relationship by any means, but it is important. I believe that a potential lifemate has to be someone you want a sexual connection with.
Pretty much this ^
Same.
Original Post by heatherkparks:
Speaking from experience, its a bad idea. The other person is always going to get hurt somehow.
I got in a relationship with a dear friend thinking that since everything else seemed so perfect, the physical attraction would eventually just...click. Why did I think that? Because I've had friendships that started out with no attraction but eventually they became attractive to me. But in this case, it didn't happen and before I knew it, I was in over my head. By the time I realized that I was never going to be physically 'into' this guy, enough time had passed that he thought it was serious. It was a struggle for me to remain faithful even though I had never considered cheating in my life. I just couldn't help feeling like a big something was missing. At that point there's no way out without hurting his feelings and ruining what was otherwise a great friendship.
We did remain friends after I broke up with him, but it was never the same...like a big fat elephant in the room. When I got married, he kinda disappeared, I guess he finally realized that our relationship would never be what he envisioned...
Same situation for me. Cept I got married and we're still friends. It can be awkward sometimes, but I try not to let it get to me. It's my punishment for being an idiot.
Depends on your sexual preference.
I know plenty of asexual couples who have zero sexual interest in either parties, but have been in committed relationships for years. If one bases their relationship on looks as well as common ground, then yes it may be a hinderance to get anything serious.
If you have strong common ground with someone, if you have a spiritual connection or feel it was meant to be- then it was meant to be. Sex isn't everything in a relationship- but again it's all based on preference.
I do believe you need to be attracted to that person, but love them for who they are.
If they gain 30 pounds down the road it wont matter BECAUSE you love them for who they are.
Original Post by rainydaze02:
YES!!!! Of Course It Is i Know I Wouldnt Be In a relationship with no ugly person
And THIS POST says a lot about you, and not in a good way.
If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life,
never make a pretty women your wife.
Go for my personal point of view,
Get an ugly girl to marry you!
