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My brother is being deployed to Afghanistan :*(


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I'm not sure how many people are in a military family that has had members deployed, but I think we need to start a group or something.

My brother is going to be deployed to Afghanistan. It didn't really hit me until today when I read about all the deaths that have happened there on msnbc.com.

This isn't going to be affecting my diet or exercise or anything, so I'm not sure if we can even MAKE a group. But I really think that military families should stick together. My grandpas and uncles have been deployed before, but when I was really little (or even before I have been born). My cousin is in Special Ops and has been deployed several times, but this is the first time someone I'm really close to will be going.

I am visiting him as much as I can before he goes because you never know what will happen...and as much as I hate thinking that way, I do.

How do you get through it when a family member is deployed to a dangerous area? How do you get through the day without thinking he (or she) will be hurt or killed?

This is honestly the most terrifying experience of my life...or it will be when he leaves...

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#1 STOP READING AND WATCHING THE NEWS ABOUT AFGHANISTAN

That is the only way you are not going to freak out every day. My boyfriend has been to Afghanistan twice. More than likely he will have access to internet and phones so you should hear from him regularly. I understand how stressful this can be. Keep yourself busy and be proud of him. Write him often and put together some care packages for him. He will definitely appreciate any mail and support he gets from you.

It's tough, and depending on what branch he is in, he could be there for a while. More than likely, he will go there, do his job, and come home. You can add me as a friend if you have more questions or want to chat.

Sarah

No experience whatsoever - my family is full of pacifists.

But I wish your brother, you and your family all the best of luck and hope he comes home safely.

Original Post by sarah6116:

#1 STOP READING AND WATCHING THE NEWS ABOUT AFGHANISTAN

 

Right, because it's better to be ignorant than educated.

I come from a very big military family. My dad has been deployed several times, my cousin was in Iraq last year and is headed to Afghanistan in the fall, my mom/uncles/grandfathers all served as well. 

You need to know what's going on in the world. You will be able to have contact with your brother. My friend was in Afghanistan last year and was on MSN/AIM almost everyday. Unless your brother is Special Forces you'll be able to talk to him more than you're expecting. I wasn't able to talk to my father because he doesn't mix well with computers but I talked to my cousin on MSN a lot when he was in Iraq as well. 

Original Post by alibsam:

You need to know what's going on in the world.

Why? There really is no need to know what is going on elsewhere. You can't do anything about it. If you need to know something, someone will contact you.

Original Post by maryelizabeth81:

How do you get through it when a family member is deployed to a dangerous area? How do you get through the day without thinking he (or she) will be hurt or killed?

My wonderful DH has deployed to Iraq six times, so far. He has a seventh deployment scheduled for later this year.

How do I get through it? Prayer/Faith and the support/encouragement from friends.

How do I get through the day without thinking he will be hurt or killed? Well, frankly, I don't know. So far, when he's been deployed to Iraq, I haven't made it through a day without being concerned for his safety. This just leads me to pray even more.

((( hug )))

Molly

 

 

Original Post by sybil878:

Original Post by alibsam:

You need to know what's going on in the world.

Why? There really is no need to know what is going on elsewhere. You can't do anything about it. If you need to know something, someone will contact you.

That's a disgusting attitude. Apparently you don't understand that the world is connected and things that happen other countries do affect you at home. However, ignorance is not bliss- it's stupidity. 

OP: Sending gratitude for your brother's service and prayers for his swift and safe return home.

And prayers that these wars will end soon.

I have nothing to offer you except lots of hugs.

Just have faith. Faith that he will return home safely. It's not going to be easy... but be strong for yourself, your brother, and your family.

((((hugs)))))

Hey op,

Just wanted to wish your brother and family support and a safe return. Wish he didn't have to go...

Original Post by kathygator:

OP: Sending gratitude for your brother's service and prayers for his swift and safe return home.

And prayers that these wars will end soon.

ditto that

Original Post by alibsam:

Original Post by sarah6116:

#1 STOP READING AND WATCHING THE NEWS ABOUT AFGHANISTAN

 

Right, because it's better to be ignorant than educated.

 No, becuase most of what WE hear in the news is total ****. There's a big difference between understanding why we are there, than being terrified every day about your loved one's safety. Why do you have to attack people that are trying to be helpful. A simple 'I would have to disagree' would have sufficed.

Learn to read. My family IS there. And if you're using the right news sources it's not total "****". 

Do you ever get tired of being a cynical and hateful person?

Those are two things that I'm not, so no, I don't. You can continue to live in your isolated bubble if you want. I'll continue to experience the world and educate myself. 

And continue to trample everyone in your path with your high horse. Get over yourself.

There's nothing to get over nor a high horse to get off. Thanks, again, though.

I literally googled "my brother is being deploed to Afghanistan" and came across this forum. I just don't know how to feel about my brother leaving. I even resent him for being in the military in the first place, I can't help it.

***And I'm sorry some people have turned this forum into an argument. I will pray for you, but I don't know how to help you. ***

I would say don't watch the news, but I'm not sure I willbe able to help it.

All my prayers to you and your family.

I just want to say that my brother made it back perfectly fine. He is in good health physically and (I hope) mentally. It is too early to notice if he is going to freak out but I know he is a stable person mostly, so I'm not concerned...

Here to hope of a safe return for a good young man.

Original Post by sarah6116:
Original Post by alibsam:

Right, because it's better to be ignorant than educated.

 No, becuase most of what WE hear in the news is total ****. There's a big difference between understanding why we are there, than being terrified every day about your loved one's safety. Why do you have to attack people that are trying to be helpful. A simple 'I would have to disagree' would have sufficed.

There's two ways that you can deal with this situation:

- Stop watching news, be completely uninformed (or more likely, informed purely by unsubstantiated emotional responses to word of mouth rumors) and hope that ignorance is bliss... or at least, it's bliss up until it bites you in the ass

- Or find better news sources

You're on the internet. You're not limited to the tragic farce that is american "Newsertainment". Although you guys haven't been exposed to it in quite a while, there still is genuine journalism going on in the rest of the world. It's worth your while to seek it out.

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