What do you call your mother-in-law?

What do you call your mother-in-law?  (and, I mean to her face, not behind her back) :)

I ask this question because my mother-in-law has asked me to call her mom, but I have a really hard time doing that.  I like her, but I can't feel comfortable calling someone else "mom" when I have a mom already.  Note: We've only been married for a year now, so maybe this won't be such an issue as time goes on and I get more used to the idea.  I just want to know what your experiences are with this.

When referencing her in front of other people, always by her first name.

After I had been dating my (now) husband for 2 years, she started introducing us as "her kids", and I didn't mind - she's pretty cool.  At that point I started using the term my husband uses:  "mommer."

When the mood is right, and there's a joking atomosphere (and no kids around), she feels quite proud if someone calls her "bitch."  (She can have quite the dry sense of humor, loves sarcasm, believes you only antagonize people you love, but safely knows her limits). 

I call my mil by her first name I already have a wonderful mom and I feel no one else should be called 'mom' unless they can say that they gave birth to you. I know that you can feel close to a mil but the mom thing just doesnt work for me simply because mom is mom and mil is mil.

hehe LOT'S OF THINGS!

I call her by her name to her face, but I don't even say that much.  There often isn't a lot of reason to actually say a person's name, unless it's lookout ......  the train is coming.  Of course, I probably wouldn't ever use that phrase anyway.  :P

On cards I just write Mom because they're from both of us. 

I tend to have a real problem with anyone who's ever made my life feel like a crazy lifetime movie!  Twisted woman.

Come to think of it, even my ex that i was engaged to years ago mother I called by her name, I think.  We were so closed.  I adored her.  She was one of the kindest, nicest women I've ever met.  That was nice because my own mother, well... let's just say I felt a lot safer & nicer talking to his Mother.  Made the break up harder though.  I needed to break up with him, but I lost a family I really needed in the process.

I call mine by her first name, always have.  I feel it's disrespectful to my own mom to call another woman "mom" who didn't do the hard work of raising me. 

note: I got divorced almost 5 years ago, and I still see my ex-in-laws.  They still love me, and my daughter, and we all say that I divorced one person, not the whole family.  Of course, my ex doesn't come around, so that makes it easier.  If he was still in the picture with his family, I'd just visit them on different days when he wasn't there. 

i call her what translates to aunt...which might sound wierd but it kinda works with the culture we come from.  i agree, i can't call her mom b/c i already have one, and i think my mom would actually be hurt :-/

as an aside, my sil calls my parents "mom" and "dad" and it drive me nutso!

i suppose i'm a little possessive, lol ;)

I call my MIL by her first name, but for different reasons.  My own mother is a freak of nature and I never speak to her, so to me the term "mom" is NOT an endearment.  So it would feel weird calling my MIL "mom" only because it has negative connotations which she doesn't deserve because she's a delightful woman.

My many names for my ex-MIL are unprintable.  Nasty little woman.

My many names for my soon-to-be-MIL are probably similar to claire's list, sadly :/

She doesn't speak to me.. so nothing. She's rude and ignorant and i'm not sure she's mentally capable of speaking to anyone different.. i'm not sure any of my in-laws are actually. They don't speak to me.. i don't speak to them.

lol My mother in law hates Italians & doesn't seem to approve of anyone who's not blond.  lol  I think she hates Catholics too, & she definitely hates Democrats.  Gee, what better mate for her precious 30 year old baby.  lol  She also has a disgustingly unnatural attachment to VERY grown sons.  It felt like competing.  We'd even been living together for a few years already, got engaged at christmas, planned (at first) an October wedding & she wanted us to wait, instead!  That was after she came for a "visit" when we were still dumb enough to have a 2 bedroom apartment with an extra bed & was putting up curtains & installing phone lines in "her room."  *shivers*  There have been so many things.  She's the worst enabler I've ever seen, too.  I can't even tell you the damage she did to our relationship in the first several years.  She also did me no favors raising my husband way she did.  It's made things even rougher.  

I wont say anything bad about my mil on here just cause shes a freak about her weight she is liable to come upon this site and see all the nasty stuff i say haha mil if you find this i love you old gal! Really I do.

lol Hey angie, you've got a little something brown on your face.  :P

Yes I do Robin and I definatly deserved that lol

hee hee

My mother taught me that if I don't have anything nice to say then say nothing at all, so I don't speak to her :0'

Glad to know that I'm not the only one who doesn't feel comfortable calling their mil "mom".  I know my mom was the same way with her mil, but my dad called his mil "mom" all the time.  I've explained my uncomfortableness with my mil and she understands completely.  

LOL!! You guys make me really appreciate my mil. She is a bit obsessive compulsive and more than a little anal retentive but she is always loving to us and our boys. I call her by her first name. "Mom" just would not work for me.

Ya - I don't call mine mom either.  I use her first name, but like someone else said - names don't necessarily get used much anyway.  His grandma is a bit easier cause lots of people call her grandma, but I usually use her first name too.