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Child of the times!


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Would you want to be a child of the times?

I am glad that I'm not, I personally think that people of my age group had much more freedom than the kids of today.

We were never ever bored, outside all the time, and had enough imagination to keep ourselves amused.

OK, the kids today have all mod cons, and funky gadgets, but I think they have contributed to their inability to be Kids!

There was much less pressure on us to grow up, we were allowed to be what we were, children.

There were no restrictions on us being outside, I spent as much time as possible, being outside, only going home to eat, and sleep...if fact, at least every other day I was being looked for, because the time had come and gone, but me and my pals were having so much fun, that we had lost track of time.

Yeah...kids today seem to have way too many restrictions, and stresses on them... 'Back in the Good Old days' ;D we had freedom!

 

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Amen to this... I remember playing outside and roaming all over, with my twin.  We were 4 or 5.   Mom practically pushed us out the door... My husband's 8 year old grandson is not allowed to walk two houses up the block to catch his school bus..He and his mom freaked when he pulled up a porn site on his IPod thing..

 

heh.

My mom would lock us out.  Evidently we needed our fresh air even if it was freezing outside.

In summer we would only show up at home for some food and then be gone until the street lights came on.

We would go, by bus to the CNE by ourselves (my two brothers and my sister)  We were aged 7 - 9yrs.

My only issue with how things appear to happen today is that it seems fewer and fewer children are allowed to just play in a group with other children in their neighborhood.  It's like parents don't remember that there's safety in numbers, even when it's a bunch of kids.

Please take off the nostalgia glasses. Some things were better before, some are better now. And most is, as ever, just the same. Every generation has this idea that their lives were so much better in their youth. And that the youth of today is lamer.

Maybe it's because I am closer to my teens than other people, but I distinctly remember plenty of pressure to grow up. There was a bell curve to people getting a first boyfriend and a first kiss, and if you were an outlier you were ostracized. There were plenty of restrictions to go outside, I had to study and get good grades, I was signed up for afterschool sports, and played an instrument, which required hours of practice. Homework takes a helluva lot longer without google and wikipedia, but also eons shorter without lolcats and rage comics. 

 

 

I'm glad my children didn't experience my youth. I would have worried myself to death if they did.

Original Post by cajunrider:

I'm glad my children didn't experience my youth. I would have worried myself to death if they did.

^ This.  While I certainly didn't have the experience cajun did, I pretty much had free range access to my entire neighborhood, and had a fondness for playing around in housing construction sites.

However, I did grow up in a community where access to local activities (park, playground, library) was a lot easier than where I live now.  I could pretty much get anywhere on a bike going through residential areas, but now I live in an enclosed subdivision located in such a way that my kids would have to ride their bikes on a major thoroughfare to get anywhere.

Of course, I do make sure they get out, but unless they're content to stay in the subdivision, transportation has to be planned. 

Original Post by santonacci:

Original Post by cajunrider:

I'm glad my children didn't experience my youth. I would have worried myself to death if they did.

^ This.  While I certainly didn't have the experience cajun did, I pretty much had free range access to my entire neighborhood, and had a fondness for playing around in housing construction sites.

However, I did grow up in a community where access to local activities (park, playground, library) was a lot easier than where I live now.  I could pretty much get anywhere on a bike going through residential areas, but now I live in an enclosed subdivision located in such a way that my kids would have to ride their bikes on a major thoroughfare to get anywhere.

Of course, I do make sure they get out, but unless they're content to stay in the subdivision, transportation has to be planned. 

Yup. Fishing with grenades, playing with mortars, diving for bones are among the many things I wanted my children to NOT experience.

Original Post by suzushii:

Please take off the nostalgia glasses. Some things were better before, some are better now. And most is, as ever, just the same. Every generation has this idea that their lives were so much better in their youth. And that the youth of today is lamer.

 

I don't think anyone is implying that the youth of today are lame, the point was/is that so much more pressure is put on the youth now.

I liked the era I grew up in and also the way my kids were raised.  They had lots of computer/TV games sure, but we always urged them to be outdoors and often played with them.  Somewhere in our basement lies a bin of roller blades, one pair for each of us, from days gone by when we'd go as a family.  They all still like to hike and to be outdoors.

A couple of my neighbors get annoyed at the kids in our cul de sac neighborhood riding bikes in the road or running all over, screaming and playing.  My side yard is often used to run down into the woods/creek behind our homes.

This annoys me not.  I'm glad to see them outside like this.  The technology is great, but outside time is important too.  I think we are meant to connect with nature.

 ETA:  We all kind of look out for each others kids and/or lots of the parents are out there sitting on porches watching.  It's sad, but that's also a sign of the times.  I don't think most parents today would feel good about giving kids the freedom we had to just run all day on our own.

Original Post by dnrothx:

My only issue with how things appear to happen today is that it seems fewer and fewer children are allowed to just play in a group with other children in their neighborhood.  It's like parents don't remember that there's safety in numbers, even when it's a bunch of kids.

This is right on the money.

The neighborhood I grew up in was bordered by 2 ponds. Every year we would wait patiently for the ponds the freeze and become safe for skating. We'd have bonfires, hockey games, sled down the hills onto the ponds etc. I drive by there nearly every day now and I can't remember the last time I saw someone skating on it.

I don't know if I want to be a child of these times but I'm happy I was a child of my times.

I blame nintendo.

Original Post by amd_66:

Original Post by suzushii:

Please take off the nostalgia glasses. Some things were better before, some are better now. And most is, as ever, just the same. Every generation has this idea that their lives were so much better in their youth. And that the youth of today is lamer.

 

I don't think anyone is implying that the youth of today are lame, the point was/is that so much more pressure is put on the youth now.

Sorry Ann, I'll say it. Kids today are lamer. They eat worse, get less physical activity and understand less about teamwork and community.

I'm happy with the childhood I had and the freedom to roam that I experienced. 

I would not want to be a child now with the parental fears of abduction and the need to schedule Play Dates for every interaction with another kid. 

I have three high school / college age kids and I feel so sorry for them.  In my area, people are so litigious, you have to be careful about everything.  Every get together with more than about 7 kids tends to have police show up....heaven forbid if one random kid happens to have any drugs because they all get arrested.  I tell my son to run out the back door anytime the police show up at a party because he has no idea who is doing what that can affect him.

I happen to live on 6 acres with a lake but am surrounded by subdivisions....my kids used to swim in the lake, fish, ride their horses, hunt for frogs and snake in the lake until the county decided that the dam at the end of the lake  (that had been there for 25 years) was too dangerous for the one house downstream in the event it would rupture.  My lake was unceremoniously drained, fish left to rot in the sun, by the county.   I was even told by animal control that I had to have my two dogs on a leash at all times even anywhere on my land....so much for even them getting their exercise.  So....it is "safer" for my kids to sit like lumps on a log playing video games than to leave their house.  They get their exercise at the gym every day.....so sad!

i think teens/young adults are way more together than my generation was. (tree planting? yes! travelling abroad and having experiences? heck yes! writing the best novel ever written? very likely!!! doing a masters in post-foucaldian views on body modification? excellent idea. pension planning? whaaaa?)

don't envy the world the young uns face now, though.

Original Post by kevinatthebrook:

The neighborhood I grew up in was bordered by 2 ponds. Every year we would wait patiently for the ponds the freeze and become safe for skating. We'd have bonfires, hockey games, sled down the hills onto the ponds etc. I drive by there nearly every day now and I can't remember the last time I saw someone skating on it.

I don't know if I want to be a child of these times but I'm happy I was a child of my times.

I blame nintendo.

You nailed it..I remember playing hockey and snap the whip.. and in the summer frog hunting..

Husbands grandson brought his  nintendo to my dinner table.(during dinner) . I waited a minute for the kids parents to say something.. when they didn't I just said that if he wanted to play to go into the other room.  Their 3 year old had his own nintendo, but  he wasn't toilet trained..

I want to go back in time and be adopted into one of you guys' families.

Oh, don't blame the games. Blame the parents. Games don't force you to play them.

I don't know- I'm sixteen, and I rather like being a techno baby ;p suddenly Young people (with capitals, soon we'll have our own little country and everything ;)) can connect all over the world; this site helps me by giving me access to other girls with the same worries and problems as me, to whom I can pour my heart out while never risking the emotional safety that comes with online anonymity, and i support/am supported by girls that, without the Internet and gadgets, i would never otherwise have met- I'm growing up in a world where i can be safe from the potential shame society put on homosexuality or eds or oppression, where we can speak about things that previously people were forced to keep locked behind their doors, because their only other option was to talk about it to those geographically near to them. Look at the lounge! There are women here talking about orgasms and the menopause and men and problems at work and home- it's such a relief being able to learn about this stuff if you dont come from the kind of family that will talk to you about this- or even of you're jut too ashamed personally. I used the Internet when I had my first period and thought I was dying of something medieval and no doubt something Henry VIII died of etc. we're growing up in a world where we can be heard as a voice free of our parents censorship and our own physical or financial restraints- look at the young people's use of social networks in the Arab spring! Happy to be a cyber baby, definitely :3

I watched my little nieces and nephews learn to dance from the Kinect games, learn more about the world through Google in a day than I could from the little library in a week. They are getting information in fire-hose mode and are learning very fast. Their outdoor activities are a little more constrained than when I was a kid, but with the effort from their parents, they are getting sufficient activities.

They are not quite adept at surviving in the outdoor as I was but they are far better equipped than I was at surviving in the information age. As parents we just have to prepare our kids the best way we think we should. The rest is up to them to find out as they grow.

I can imagine parents in the bronze age complaining that their kids no longer knew how to chip rock to make stone axes any more.

The time keeps rolling, and the parents will always be reminiscing and complaining; some thing never changes.

Original Post by cajunrider:

 I can imagine parents in the bronze age complaining that their kids no longer knew how to chip rock to make stone axes any more.

The time keeps rolling, and the parents will always be reminiscing and complaining; some thing never changes.

QFT

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