So, the next time you're in there, you say -- "hey, you want to get together for coffee or something after work? Or tomorrow?"
Original Post by washywishywasfulness:
What's wrong with being upfront? Maybe you can arrange a few group things and just invite him. That's how I started getting to know my husband.
Original Post by washywishywasfulness:
What's wrong with being upfront? Maybe you can arrange a few group things and just invite him. That's how I started getting to know my husband.
^ This.
I had to be upfront (even chase a bit) to hook up with guys I wanted/liked. The guys that went after me, easy hook ups that I did no effort or even was reluctant in, I didn't want/like and just ended up horrible (cause I end up being too nice and pity dating). Let's just say these days I rather be rejected by guys I am interested in, than pity date a guy for 6 months again (he is thinking kids and marriage, and I am thinking where is the emergency exit) X /
Original Post by chel798:
Okay so, I meet this guy. He works at my favorite fast food restaurant. Every time I go in there we have a short conversations but just small talk. He recently commented on one of my guy friends photos so I know he knows my friends but nOt well enough that we've ran into each other. So what I want to know is, next time I go in how can I get from small talk to exchanging numbers and hanging out?
A girl asking for a date and guy refusing it ! it never happens.. just be cool and calm and everything gonna work out.. Dont forget to give him a smile in daily basis :P
I agree that being upfront will seem ocward or even a little weird but in the long run, you'll look back and be happy that you introduced yourself that way. And while your thinking about that odd moment, you will be sitting on the couch , in front of a warm fire, and you will be all cozy and cuddled in your man's arms. Hope I helped
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I agree that being upfront will seem ocward or even a little weird but in the long run, you'll look back and be happy that you introduced yourself that way. And while your thinking about that odd moment, you will be sitting on the couch , in front of a warm fire, and you will be all cozy and cuddled in your man's arms. Hope I helped :)
Avoid statements like "umm I was just WONDERING if you might want to go to my grandmas house tonight for a game of pinochle and family reunion slides? If you don' want to that's OK.. er I'd understand if you didn't want to go out with someone like me.." Act yourself, be sincere, toss your hair back and flash him your pearly whites like you were Megan Fox. Nuff said!
Haha! :)
Well I understand where you're coming from about being rejected. It's not easy to just simply walk up to him and invite him some where or just exchange numbers. Back then , people could just walk up to someone and say, " Hi! I'm having a party tonight and I thought you would like to come!" Especially without him thinking, "Wow...she's a creep" But you have to push yourself out of your comfort-zone and feel positive! But if you think that you'll be rejected, you sadly will be. But you can't think like that. You have to think about that moment where you and him are sitting on that warm sofa in front of that fire! You know, the thing that most people are afraid of is fear. That's why you have to be BRAVE! So don't give yourself the option to be afraid, or be scared of bad things happening. Don't think about the bad things! Just pretend that nothing bad can happen and only good can come from what you're doing. :) Be yourself, be flirty, and be SEXY ;) So when you walk into that restaurant, be confident and don't think about anyone else in the room and just think about you, and him and then, YOU STRIKE LIKE A COBRA!! But don't be to forward like, " Hey!! Do you want my number babe?" You are on a good start. So start off with small talk and then sink in the POISON! But once again, not TOO much poison. Work your way into the next stage. It's going to take a little while but relationships are ALL about taking different paths and driving down different roads. I'm here supporting you and there's no way back now. So just be that cobra! Let him know how awesome you are and how much of an AWESOME girlfriend you would be for him! Strike girl, STRIKE. But remember, not to fast but not to slow. Best of luck!! :)
I would try a more subtle approach. If you manage to find out what he's into, music/sports whatever, while you small talk. Then do a little research, find some show/event or something that is related. Mention that you and a crew of people are going (making sure of course that you have people that will go with you). If it seems like something he'd be into it, tell him that he should check it out and if he doesn't have anyone to go with he's welcome to join you.
This way you don't have to be so forward, which is hard. Plus you don't have to worry about not seeming confident, because hey it's not like your asking him out *wink wink*. You just happen to know of this sweet event that's going to be a lot of fun and you're just giving him a heads up. Plus its good to have a good group of friends around so that everything goes smoothly, and you can be your normal, natural confident-self without having to feel like your faking it. Then if all goes well it will be easier to initiate one-on-one time with him.
That is SO great!! I told you that the confidence you needed would lead you to something great! Congrats! :) You go girl!! :D
