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Why dating is impossible in 2012


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Cell phones.

I went to a hotel bar and there were some stray women about so I figured, with the Zebras away from the herd, I might have a shot of snaggin one for dinner if they were properly drunken and their standards and self esteem were low enough.

Well, long story short...they were on their damn cell phones texting CONSTANTLY.  I mean, if you're older, unattractive, and sorta drunk...in a hotel bar...late at night...and a man sits next to you...and he's not hunchbacked or toothless...would it KILL YA to look up from your damn texting conversation for 2 minutes to flirt?  I mean for chrissakes...people older than 35 shouldn't even be allowed to text...it just looks stupid.

What happened to the good ole days where if a person sat next to you....you at least had to be uncomfortable and sort of half smile at them and acknowledge their existence??  The world has gone to hell in a handbasket.  Dating is essentially non-existent.  It has been reduced to online intereactions.  Meet a guy at work?  Nope...if he so much as compliments your hair, he's asking for a sexual harrassment case.  Meet a guy through friends?  Nope...your friends take the good ones for themselves and leave you the ones that were too butt ugly to make the cut.  And the few gals that are single are too busy texting, playing words with friends, checking their facebook page 1200 times a day, or playing angry birds to even look your way.

Screw it.  I'm going to get laid in Mexico.  Not only is it cheaper than dating, but the chicks are too poor to have smartphones and the network sucks anyways.  Problem solved.

Edited Dec 05 2013 11:14 by coach_k
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Got to be a way. You've got enormous potential, and an incredible amount of intellectual energy. And you're young. I say take the hit now and try.

You'd make a good lawyer.

Original Post by kathygator:

Got to be a way. You've got enormous potential, and an incredible amount of intellectual energy. And you're young. I say take the hit now and try.

You'd make a good lawyer.


Well that's the nicest thing anyone has said to me in a long time, thank you.

You know what's cool is that I'm finally beginning to see that I have potential.  I could have gone back to school ages ago, but I don't think I believed it would matter.  I think now that I really believe in at least my intellect, I can go a lot further.

Original Post by kathygator:

Original Post by jules817:

If i'm alone at a bar I tend to fidget with my phone a lot...cause i'm alone. if there's nothing interesting on the tvs what am i gonna do? stare at the wall? stare at my beer?

this, squared.

Although, I do wonder why we feel compelled to look busy. Dudes don't seem to fall prey to this. In fact, they just seem to be able to walk in, sit at the bar, and stare at the TV - and no one assumes they're there to be 'picked up'.

It's good to be a man.

Don't rub it in, Doc. Am starting to get really, really tired of discussing politics with my dog. :P

Original Post by lostpumpkins:

Original Post by kathygator:

Got to be a way. You've got enormous potential, and an incredible amount of intellectual energy. And you're young. I say take the hit now and try.

You'd make a good lawyer.


Well that's the nicest thing anyone has said to me in a long time, thank you.

You know what's cool is that I'm finally beginning to see that I have potential.  I could have gone back to school ages ago, but I don't think I believed it would matter.  I think now that I really believe in at least my intellect, I can go a lot further.

You can go way further. Don't turn 50 regretting you didn't try.

At the least, start writing a blog. You're kind of like that chick that writes Hyperbole and a Half. Quirky, intelligent and funny.

I'm still trying to figure out how attempting to pick up girls in a bar = "dating".

Original Post by kathygator:

Don't rub it in, Doc. Am starting to get really, really tired of discussing politics with my dog. :P


Psst.  Dogs don't talk back.

yet. Dogs don't talk back, yet.

Original Post by lostpumpkins:

Original Post by kathygator:

Got to be a way. You've got enormous potential, and an incredible amount of intellectual energy. And you're young. I say take the hit now and try.

You'd make a good lawyer.


Well that's the nicest thing anyone has said to me in a long time, thank you.

You know what's cool is that I'm finally beginning to see that I have potential.  I could have gone back to school ages ago, but I don't think I believed it would matter.  I think now that I really believe in at least my intellect, I can go a lot further.

Kathy's right. You just have to do it.

I have a friend who is a single mom. She decided to move from Colorado, where her family is, to NYC to attend law school where she knows no one. She's almost finished with her first year and while it's really difficult, she's doing it. You actually remind me of her. Headstrong, fierce and funny (all in good ways).

Do it :)

Original Post by kathygator:

Original Post by lostpumpkins:

Original Post by kathygator:

Got to be a way. You've got enormous potential, and an incredible amount of intellectual energy. And you're young. I say take the hit now and try.

You'd make a good lawyer.


Well that's the nicest thing anyone has said to me in a long time, thank you.

You know what's cool is that I'm finally beginning to see that I have potential.  I could have gone back to school ages ago, but I don't think I believed it would matter.  I think now that I really believe in at least my intellect, I can go a lot further.

You can go way further. Don't turn 50 regretting you didn't try.

At the least, start writing a blog. You're kind of like that chick that writes Hyperbole and a Half. Quirky, intelligent and funny.


I've really been considering a blog recently!  That's really funny that you'd mention that.  I'd want to have a really clear idea of what I wanted to write about and what direction I wanted it to go.  It's a little scary if you look out at the wasteland of failed blogs.  I think I'd be pretty sad if I tried it and it flopped.

 

Original Post by trh:

I'm still trying to figure out how attempting to pick up girls in a bar = "dating".

Yeah.  And also, can you call it 'dating' if you're already married?

Apparently, there are complications of which we are unaware in that regard, Nomo.

Original Post by lostpumpkins:


I've really been considering a blog recently!  That's really funny that you'd mention that.  I'd want to have a really clear idea of what I wanted to write about and what direction I wanted it to go.  It's a little scary if you look out at the wasteland of failed blogs.  I think I'd be pretty sad if I tried it and it flopped.

That's an odd way to look at it.  I would think the opposite - it would be a great way to try something and if it failed, big whoop.

You've got no money invested in it if you use one of the free blogware thingies.  It would be a learning experience no matter what.  And it might work out perfectly.  You could even get ad revenue if you wanted.

I can't really see any downside at all.  You'd be crazy not to do it if school is not a possibility right now.

Original Post by kathygator:

Apparently, there are complications of which we are unaware in that regard, Nomo.

oh, thanks.

I will remain unaware and also mum.  Embarassed

I vote 'no' for mum Nomo.

Vocal Nomo is my preference.

Original Post by lostpumpkins:

Original Post by kathygator:

Original Post by lostpumpkins:

Original Post by kathygator:

Got to be a way. You've got enormous potential, and an incredible amount of intellectual energy. And you're young. I say take the hit now and try.

You'd make a good lawyer.


Well that's the nicest thing anyone has said to me in a long time, thank you.

You know what's cool is that I'm finally beginning to see that I have potential.  I could have gone back to school ages ago, but I don't think I believed it would matter.  I think now that I really believe in at least my intellect, I can go a lot further.

You can go way further. Don't turn 50 regretting you didn't try.

At the least, start writing a blog. You're kind of like that chick that writes Hyperbole and a Half. Quirky, intelligent and funny.


I've really been considering a blog recently!  That's really funny that you'd mention that.  I'd want to have a really clear idea of what I wanted to write about and what direction I wanted it to go.  It's a little scary if you look out at the wasteland of failed blogs.  I think I'd be pretty sad if I tried it and it flopped.

Define "flopped". Anything worth doing is worth doing badly for long enough that you get good at it - the best way to learn how to be a writer is to write a lot, and be aware that what you're writing right now is the worst your writing will ever be. Since you're already pretty decent improving on your baseline can only be a good thing, and while you probably won't produce a "simple dog" right out the gate you also aren't locked into one style or topic so you're free to explore topics and styles.

 Start with a blogspot or wordpress.org blog, then get a blog on your own domain when you know what you actually want to write about.

Original Post by lostpumpkins:

I'll be honest...I definitely have used my cell phone to avoid talking to someone or to keep them from approaching me in the first place.  It's obviously not the only reason I'm ever on it, but it works.


oh, so have i. 

if i was sitting at a bar by myself, i'd be awkwardly on my cell phone too...even if i wasn't trying to avoid anyone.

eta - unless there's hockey or football on.  then i'd be watching the game.  :P

Original Post by starlitocean:

if i was sitting at a bar by myself, i'd be awkwardly on my cell phone too...even if i wasn't trying to avoid anyone.

What's really awkward is when your cell phone doesn't have anything (not even a text plan) on it with which to fiddle. Just gotta keep re-reading the same month-old text messages from the person who forgot that I don't text.

Just get a prostitute and be done with it.  I hear the Secret Service has some good tips for you. 

heh. Good rule of thumb: Never stiff a hooker with reporters in the building.

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