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So, yesterday, I'm doing my daily scroll through Facebook.  And I come across a post from one of my good friends...basically an "abortion is murder" post.

Um.

Why so heavy?  Never mind the fact that we obviously have different viewpoints on the issue...but it just seems like such a serious statement to make on Facebook.  I know many people use Facebook as a means to voice their political and religious viewpoints but why?  To me, it's a social networking site.  I just post funny stuff or general life updates...I steer way clear of anything serious or heavy.

Another of my friends is constantly posting bragging about her husband on Facebook...when in reality, they fight like cats and dogs (or worse) and generally can't stand each other.  I don't know why it bothers me but I guess it's like, why not just say nothing instead of posting misleading or dishonest things?  I can only assume she wants people to have a more positive impression of her life, but it really gets under my skin to see the two of them posting back and forth to each other things like "Love u babe!  U are the light of my life and the best gift God ever gave me!" on days when he's putting holes in the living room wall or screaming at her in front of the kids.

Also...the guy that keeps inviting me to play internet poker...

Anybody else got any Facebook rants?

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eff facebook , its bull ... full of no life , keyboard huggers ( *lol , at self* ) obsess with the like dislike culture of falsehood, with 99.99% of the people who you don't actually meet because they are not near you ,  you are not their definition of cool , you don't have a real life, purpose less social networking which promises nothing but pure mind numbing kJ'ery of  lol virtual social life ....

atleast pof n such have a base line purpose/set stage of meeting people ...

Addic's are always on it 24/7 who post ever thing about their life just to get like's from random pretenders ... its cocaine ( or what ever the kids use these days ) for virtual validation seeking junkies ...

At the moment I too am a no-lifer but at least i am honest about it , and i still dont like facebook.

The joke of it, do you think they would be talking or behaving any different if you meet them in person?

If you cant tolerate them in real life and you have them on facebook , why even have them on Facebook?

@LP

Do i sense a tinge of antisocialness in you? lol :P

I think maybe I'm an exception...most of my Facebook friends are also my real life friends.  Since I've started back to school and life got nuts, it's been sometimes the only way I know what's going on in their lives and for that I am grateful.

I just don't get why someone would post really radical, extreme stuff on there.  I mean, unless all the people on their friends list belong to the same religion/cult/crazy political party that they do, they're pretty much bound to offend someone with it and why would you want to do that?  I'm perfectly happy living my life, holding my own beliefs to myself and using Facebook to make fun of Miley Cyrus.  I have no desire to set off some big debate on Facebook.


I read this earlier this week...love it.  So true.

Original Post by lostpumpkins:

I think maybe I'm an exception...most of my Facebook friends are also my real life friends.  Since I've started back to school and life got nuts, it's been sometimes the only way I know what's going on in their lives and for that I am grateful.

I just don't get why someone would post really radical, extreme stuff on there.  I mean, unless all the people on their friends list belong to the same religion/cult/crazy political party that they do, they're pretty much bound to offend someone with it and why would you want to do that?  I'm perfectly happy living my life, holding my own beliefs to myself and using Facebook to make fun of Miley Cyrus.  I have no desire to set off some big debate on Facebook.

This is why i love to read your posts, very few people actually have random people on their face book , a majority of the time every one has people who they know in their real life, high school friends , college friends , community friends yada yada yada. the fact that you are on Facebook with them means that you don't actually hang out in person and are trying to keep in touch  through this whole *cough* made up rules of play ... 

but you set of big debates on the lounge :)

my favorite is this girl i went to highschool with who posts things like this:

UGGGH Worst day ever! Y is my lyfe so harddd?!

Then people respond:

Oh no! what happened?

and she says:

I don't wanna talk about it.

Then WHY DID YOU POST IT ON FACEBOOOK!?!?!?!

Original Post by jules817:

my favorite is this girl i went to highschool with who posts things like this:

UGGGH Worst day ever! Y is my lyfe so harddd?!

Then people respond:

Oh no! what happened?

and she says:

I don't wanna talk about it.

Then WHY DID YOU POST IT ON FACEBOOOK!?!?!?!

LMAO, yeah ROFL.

Facebook is an excellent tool to broadcast stuff that you'd normally share with others. Took the kids hiking, I'm at the beach, Go Red Sox etc.

It's a good tool for seeing youth activity schedules (game times, sign up deadlines, meeting places), school things and sometimes arranging car pooling with other parents things like that.

It's never been intended (at least not from my perspective) to be a true reflection of one's life.

Those that paint the rosiest pictures are never that rosy and those that paint the gloom and doom pictures are seldom on the ledge.

Original Post by Adi_:

Original Post by lostpumpkins:

I think maybe I'm an exception...most of my Facebook friends are also my real life friends.  Since I've started back to school and life got nuts, it's been sometimes the only way I know what's going on in their lives and for that I am grateful.

I just don't get why someone would post really radical, extreme stuff on there.  I mean, unless all the people on their friends list belong to the same religion/cult/crazy political party that they do, they're pretty much bound to offend someone with it and why would you want to do that?  I'm perfectly happy living my life, holding my own beliefs to myself and using Facebook to make fun of Miley Cyrus.  I have no desire to set off some big debate on Facebook.

This is why i love to read your posts, very few people actually have random people on their face book , a majority of the time every one has people who they know in their real life, high school friends , college friends , community friends yada yada yada. the fact that you are on Facebook with them means that you don't actually hang out in person and are trying to keep in touch  through this whole *cough* made up rules of play ... 

but you set of big debates on the lounge :)


Facebook is pretty much the joint for random people to hang out with other random people that they don't know.  That's why so many people have 300+ friends on Facebook and 2 in real life.

Almost all of my Facebook friends are my real life friends that I see on a regular basis...as regular as I see anyone.  I don't have any ex's on there...maybe 1 high school friend that I haven't seen since high school.  My Facebook people are my people people.

Original Post by jules817:

my favorite is this girl i went to highschool with who posts things like this:

UGGGH Worst day ever! Y is my lyfe so harddd?!

Then people respond:

Oh no! what happened?

and she says:

I don't wanna talk about it.

Then WHY DID YOU POST IT ON FACEBOOOK!?!?!?!


Well and furthermore, am I supposed to like this status?  Is that rude?  I'm not motivated to comment on it...but I feel like you need to be acknowledged...quite a quandry.

Original Post by lostpumpkins: Facebook is pretty much the joint for random people to hang out with other random people that they don't know.  That's why so many people have 300+ friends on Facebook and 2 in real life.

Almost all of my Facebook friends are my real life friends that I see on a regular basis...as regular as I see anyone.  I don't have any ex's on there...maybe 1 high school friend that I haven't seen since high school.  My Facebook people are my people people.


I don't have any random friends on facebook, but i have a lot of friends and a lot of them aren't people i actually hang out with ever. but all of my friends are either people i have met in real life, or people i know somehow. i have never once accepted a random friend request on facebook. so creepy.

Original Post by lostpumpkins:

I think maybe I'm an exception...most of my Facebook friends are also my real life friends.? Since I've started back to school and life got nuts, it's been sometimes the only way I know what's going on in their lives and for that I am grateful.

I just don't get why someone would post really radical, extreme stuff on there.? I mean, unless all the people on their friends list belong to the same religion/cult/crazy political party that they do, they're pretty much bound to offend someone with it and why would you want to do that?? I'm perfectly happy living my life, holding my own beliefs to myself and using Facebook to make fun of Miley Cyrus.? I have no desire to set off some big debate on Facebook.


Well not everyone cares to talk about funny pictures or food or how many miles they ran or Miley Cyrus or the weird guy on the bus. Some people want to talk about their beliefs/values and they don't care about keeping things light or who they offend. It's just.. A fact of life.

They probably think you're annoying for wanting an all fluffy facebook.
Original Post by jules817:

my favorite is this girl i went to highschool with who posts things like this:

UGGGH Worst day ever!?Y is my lyfe so harddd?!

Then people respond:

Oh no! what happened?

and she says:

I don't wanna talk about it.

Then WHY DID YOU POST IT ON FACEBOOOK!?!?!?!


so you know my cousin-in-law-in-law?

If someone is posting stuff which is too strong for my liking, I block their posts.

I would do this if it was racist, homophobic etc ....

I decide what is OK to be on my feed.

Other than that, I dribble. Smile

i have a handful of people from CC on facebook whom i've not (yet) met in real life; everybody else is an actual-life friend.

i find it really helpful to sus out who people are, where their priorities lie, when i haven't seen them in a long time. it doesn't take long, when i add somebody i knew in years ago in high school or undergrad, to figure out whether i want to bother meeting them for real.

i post a lot of political/environmental stuff as well as equality stuff. then sit back and see who responds in ways that show we're aligned.

if somebody consistently posts annoying things (especially passive-aggressive stuff or just straight-up whingeing), i either unfriend or unsubscribe.

Well, I finally brokedown and got on Facebook, but for the sole reason to make it easier to keep in contact with my best friend from high school.  However, as it turns out, it's also a good way to keep up with what's going on with the Cards.

I only have three Facebook friends, and I hardly get anything from anyone other than my best friend, so that keeps the  nonsense down to a minimum.

Most irritating thing about Facebook - that my bestie got me liking Cityville.  I've been able to keep it in check, though.

I have on rare occasion accepted a friend request from someone I don't actually know but I only when we have a large number of mutual friendsI have also accepted friend requests from people I do know but don't really like much.  I usually end up hiding their posts from view.

I find Facebook very useful in many ways.  It's how I now what's going on at my child's school.  It's how I know what's going on with different clubs organizations I belong to.  It's how I keep in touch with friends and relatives the live far away from me. Etc.  But I also ignore 80% of what passes through my newsfeed.

Original Post by lostpumpkins: maybe 1 high school friend that I haven't seen since high school.  My Facebook people are my people people.

see, this is the difference between people who went to high school before the internet versus after. i graduated high school in 1986 and didn't have the internet at home until 1999. after high school, the only way we had to keep in touch was through letters and phone calls; during that time i moved 15 times, not counting the year i spent traveling. i lost track of literally everyone i went to high school with.

since i joined facebook in 2006, i've reconnected with roughly half my class. of those, about half are people i've either seen again or would go out of my way to see.

if you'd asked me when i was ten years out of high school, i'd probably have told you i didn't care if i ever saw any of them again ;)

I don't FB as often as I did when I wasn't working- now I just follow some blogs, most I admit are political, activism and then of course George Takei and other lighter material for laughs.  

There are many of my facebook friends that I don't know super well, maybe met them once at an event - like 2 new FB friends of mine I've met at pride events over the last couple years.  One used to be the President of Phoenix Pride, the other is a retired Chiropractor - such a sweet lady.  Last weekend we had dinner together and now connected on FB.  

I have my avatar here on CC on FB - I think it pretty much says my views on abortion and gay rights ;-)

I've blocked a lot of people I know in real life after I decided I don't agree with their beliefs.  I'm sure I've been blocked by some as well.  That's fine.  

I pretty much keep in touch with my distant family through FB.  I admire my brother the most - he has 18 FB friends and I think 15 of them are relatives.

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