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Im 36-he is 25:)Is there any future?


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Hello....so basically Ive met someone whos (as you probably noticed) significantly younger than me.Nothing is really happening yet,but its clear that we fancy each other madly:)))Im not a spring chicken and Ive been in all kinds of situations in my life...:)But here we go -another dilema:))))
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If you're as insecure as you're coming off, probably not :(

I think if you go out on a date together, there's at least that much future.

:)

(If you haven't yet been out on a date with him, then it seems a bit premature to wonder whether there's a long term future, don't you think?)

i'm 25 and he's 40. We're having a kid and planning a wedding. 

 

It can work, regardless of age. Just let it roll, be true to what you want and need from him. If he wants the same things, you'll do fine. 

Depends on how wealthy you are.

asking strangers on the internet if you have a future with someone, based solely on your ages, is probably a bit of a red flag. heh.

personally, i think that age is about as important as whether you like cold or room temperature water.

Original Post by tblover900:

i'm 25 and he's 40. We're having a kid and planning a wedding

 

It can work, regardless of age. Just let it roll, be true to what you want and need from him. If he wants the same things, you'll do fine. 

Sweet!! That is on my list.  My fantasy would be a ship wedding..

I am 53 and he will be turning 70.. :)  The funny thing is I don't think of him as old.  I don't see the grey hair or the bald spot.. I see the man I love..I guess it must be like beer goggles. 

 

I'm 27, hubby is about to turn 36.

When it comes down to it, age isn't the MOST important factor in a relationship.

Well yes ladies,older men are not a problem.My ex husband has been older than myself:)))What im worried about is more ,well simple things really -little differences in music,culture...he hasnt got kids,and im already blessed with two:)

I'm 32, my husband is 27.  I am endowed with a f*** it attitude, though.  The OP might want to cultivate one of those.

Dear amwick - how sweet of you....Wish you the very best!
Dear kotov_syndrome-you were a bit rude,but doesnt matter:)I dont see anything wrong if people share their opinions is it?!

Don't see why not. I have a friend who's 'girlfriend' is 12 years his senior. They met at 30 and 42, and are still together 23 years on, so... I don't think age matters at ALL. (Within reason!) My husband is 10 years older than me - I dated older guys befoer, and felt it wasn't right, but when you meet 'The' person for you, age is SSOO not an issue !!

There is often a power difference with an age difference. There doesn't have to be, but it is often present. I have witnessed more power difference when the man is much older, and that is probably because I have seen more couples where the man is much older.

It isn't the age of the person that needs to be called into question, so much as background, baggage they bring, eperiences, expectations, etc. Frequently the older person is more set in his/her ways and this could lead to conflict. Sometimes the younger partner is more insecure, looking for maturity. Sometimes the older partner is insecure in totally different ways and looks for younger mates because it is easier to be controlling with someone who has less experience.

Is he mature enough? Would he want to interact with your kids (and would you want him around them?) Key questions. If he's 25 and a party boy I would say skip it. You're a mom and you don't want to bring men in and out of your kids' lives so unless he's interested in the package deal, chuck him now rather than later.

My husband is 8 yrs. younger then me.  Ages we met 28/36, same situation he didn't have children and I had 3.   Very happily together for more then 12 yrs. now.  Laughing

 

Don't sweat the little stuff if the big stuff fits.  Laughing

 

Feel free to pm me with any questions, comments, or concerns.

My dad is 80 and my mom is 70. It's become a problem because she still wants to do a lot of things and he just wants to sit at home.

- just to throw out an opinion that isn't one of those overly idealistic 'age doesn't matter' ones.

 Who cares about music, just get a pair of headphones each of you. Does he want kids? If yes, are you willing to have another?

Without knowing a thing about either of you other than what you posted here I would imagine that the answer to the question is roughly, how long does he want to be with you?

Original Post by giedresvajone:

Well yes ladies,older men are not a problem.My ex husband has been older than myself:)))What im worried about is more ,well simple things really -little differences in music,culture...he hasnt got kids,and im already blessed with two:)

so - you're 25 and have already divorced one older man? what went wrong there?

She's 36. her current bf is 25.

oh - check! still - i'm interested (well, not really, but i need something to do while my breakfast is cooking).

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