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I'm the girl. You're the boy. You text me first or we don't talk today.


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Why? D:

It's annoying to always have to gauge how infrequently to text her to let her know that I'm not too eager/clingy, yet frequently enough so she knows I'm interested.
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Thats exactly how she feels too, and why she is leaving it up to you!

It's a Facebook group, right?

Yeah, it's stupid.  Don't have much advice, I just don't understand why girls do this.

i'm sorry i don't know why either. I guess some girls always wait for the guy to make a move first . It depends on the girl as well, some like their bfs to text them frequently,some don't.This is what i gathered from my girlfriends. I'm a girl,but i don't get girls sometimes. They think too much and read too much into a situation.

So..good luck guessing !

I like a text/e-mail from a friend 2-3 times a week max to check in...a love interest....I probably prefer a phone call...mainly to hear the implications in ones tone of voice...

In general don't play games...it's silly and she either likes you or not...intrigue rarely works on sober girls ;-)

As someone who doesn't consider texting to be talking, I think I'm officially too old to answer this question.  Smile

Because some girls don't want to make it too obvious that she's into the guy, in fear of rejection from him, thus leaving it up to the guy to text first, to confirm her doubts. Not going to lie, i have been one to do this before...lol

Original Post by jtaaa:

Because some girls don't want to make it too obvious that she's into the guy, in fear of rejection from him, thus leaving it up to the guy to text first, to confirm her doubts. Not going to lie, i have been one to do this before...lol


Exactly ! Because what if you really like him, and text him, and he doesn't text you back?! D:

Original Post by stinkypillow:They think too much and read too much into a situation.

So..good luck guessing !

This is so me... and I know it's maddening but I can't get a  hold  on it.

I think that how often the girl wants you to text her is a good gauge of how into the relationship she is.  If i'm in love- they can text all they want.   Interested- text once a day unless we're conversing or there's actually something to say /a point to it.  Not interested - once every 2 days or I'll start getting annoyed.

how many texts exactly are we talking about? but yeah texting as a means for primary communication sounds a bit 'funny' to me unless you want to do some messing in class instead of paying attention to the teacher.

i've never waited around for a guy to do anything, always seemed silly to me to wait. but i did expect some sort of equal reciprocation.

Text if you feel like it, if not,  don't. If a text message is supposed to be a gauge of affection, I weep for the youngsters.

Dating is all about finding a proper mate.  If your text frequency doesn't match her expectations, or vice versa, then you are not a proper match and it is time to move on.  Don't waste your time trying to conform to the expectations of an improper match, move on and sooner or later you will find the right person.  If you stay with the wrong person you are condemning yourself to a lifetime of misery.

i met my boyfriend on a friday night. the next day he texted me to tell me he'd had a good time and we should go out soon. that monday, i hadn't heard from him again, but i got handed a set of celtics tickets and decided i wanted to take him with me. so i texted and invited him.

we've been together 7 months, and he still tells me how pumped he was that i did that!

basically, don't go overboard, but if you like this girl and want to talk to her, text her. if she's really into you, she'll be excited, and if she isn't, then it shouldn't be too hard for you to tell. believe me, if it's gonna work out, frequency of texting isn't going to make or break it, unless you text her like 100 times a day after you just met.

Yes. What he said, and much more eloquently than I.

Original Post by kathygator:

Text if you feel like it, if not,  don't. If a text message is supposed to be a gauge of affection, I weep for the youngsters.

No kidding.

The title misleads a bit. I was ready for a 'if you want equality, then you have to accept everything that goes with it' discussion. ;)

Original Post by kathygator:

The title misleads a bit. I was ready for a 'if you want equality, then you have to accept everything that goes with it' discussion. ;)

Me too, and I was all set to point out how ridiculous it is for women to expect men to make all the moves and take all the rejection risks. Put your big-girl panties on and show your interest, fergodssake. If he likes you, showing interest will be very much appreciated (see jules' story above). If he doesn't like you, at least you'll find out early and not waste time trying to "snare" someone who isn't gonna bite.

Precisely. :)

Hmm no explanation as to why-

but if you like someone tell them. And i knew that if someone liked me i would actually prefer the often text or call

Wow. My wonderful DH and I have .... never ...... (gasp) .... texted each other!!!!!

Surprised

Many years ago, when we had cell phones, my hubby and I texted several times a day, just to say we were thinking of each other.

I think it really depends on the situation and the person.  If you are constantly making her check her phone when she is busy (ie, at work), it might not be appreciated.  I would start with once a day with a new relationship.

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