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Look too young for my age


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Anyone else have this problem? I am a 29 year old female and get told all the time that I look like a teenager anywhere from 12 to 17 years old. I really hate this and it bothers me terribly. I am very petite and naturally thin which is why I joined here because I want to gain weight but everyone else on the weight gain forum is a teenager and has an ED.

Last night was one of the worst nights for me. I work at a restaurant and a woman asked me if I was old enough to work there. Why do complete strangers say things like this and don't think that it is rude? And I never in my life want to hear one more person that I will be glad when I am 40 I will look 20. What about now? Am I too wish my young years away and can't wait to be 40 to be taken seriously as an adult.

I just needed to rant about this and wondered if anyone else deals with this.

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I know how you feel. Granted, I am still young (turning 19 in November,) I am not all that thin or short, but people still think that I am a 'well-developed 13-year-old'. All my other family members look younger then they are, but it is rediculous being the only one of your friends who doesn't get carded to go see a movie, or treated like a preteen.

and my friends wonder why I feel like I NEED to wear make up to look older.

I have this problem too. I not only look young, but on the phone I sound like I'm 11 years old. Honestly, if I answer the phone at my parents house they frequently think I'm my sister. I've been told that I could pass for 12. (I'm 21, young but not THAT young)


I get tired of it too, but there are ways of doing your makeup and hair that make you look age appropriate. I work in for my local government and at meetings I frequently have to make a good, professional first impression. Take a good look at the way you're wearing your hair- one length, ponytails or bangs tend to look younger. Layering, texture can add years if it's done right. In makeup- anything heavy on the eyeliner or overly done can look young... try for something more subtle. Also, no makeup can make you look young too so try to avoid that.

Anyways, those are my tips, but I can totally sympathize with you. A lot of times I get treated far differently than my peers simply because I look young.

Well I just looked at your pic.  And I can understand why some people might think you are younger then your actual age.  Maybe opt for a more mature hair cut.  I always like the blunt cut look and think it makes younger looking women look older.  Just think of Kaite holmes blunt cut.  Also and Im hoping this comes across well watch out for undergarments and over garments .  They should match in colour. 

I have this problem. I know I'm still young (17). Strangers make comments to me at work or at college, about how I look 12-13. I'll give a specific example. I work at a family-owned pharmacy. To make a long story short, a teenage girl had come in and bought stuff with a check, in which the account had no money in. A few days later we found out that she had multiple warrants for her arrest and so the police came into our work to pick up a copy of the security tapes. When the policemen came in, one of the officers jokingly accused my boss of violating child labor laws. Then he turned to me and asked me how old I was. I told him I was 17, and he just kept making unnecessary comments about how young I looked. It really sucks because I dont even think I look young at all.

It's all about dressing your age. I don't want this to sound rude but wearing a wife beater doesn't exactly scream 29 year old. Like the poster above said, get a new haircut that will make you look older. And just dress more age-appropriately. That'll at least bump you up to your 20s. haha

 

I'm 24 and I always have people here asking if I'm a high school exchange student. They're surprised when they find out I've been out of university for almost 3 years...

Thanks for the replies. It is nice to be able to just discuss this problem with others who have it. I am not interested in changing the way I look. I dress fine for my age and my makeup is minimal. I have changed my hair a million times and the short hair does not work for me. I am very tiny and have a very small face. I end up looking like a pixie or a fairy or even younger with short hair. I like the hair longer. No matter what I do I know I cannot change the way I look and I have to accept that. For work my hair has to be pulled back and I have to wear a work attire. I usually put my hair back in a clip though instead of a ponytail. The ponytail does make me look young. The picture on my profile is a few years old. I don't have many pictures of me by myself and I had to cut my self out of that one to use it. I was with a few friends on a casual day and that is a black tank top under a white one. 

I just can't believe how people just come out and say such rude comments and they think they are complimenting. I understand that people think it is good looking young but to laugh at me and make jokes is uncalled for.  I really hate when I tell one person my age in a public place and they get as many people as possible to tell them and everyone laugh and pick me apart like I am some kind of alien or something. It really hurts me and I go home so many times crying and upset. If I tell someone my age I can understand their shock but they can just get over it and not make such a huge deal out of it.

 

That's the thing though... for some reason people feel like they can just walk up to strangers and say whatever they want. Just try to shrug it off... if they're being arses just tell them they look old. haha I dunno... I just ignore it and remind myself that I'm lucky for having great skin.

Well I removed my photo so everyone can stop judging me base on one photo. I was wearing a white tank top and like I said I was with some friends at a casual outdoors place. I live in Florida. It is hot here and tank tops are pretty common to wear here. Thanks but I really don't need anymore fashion advice. After 29 years of my life I know how to dress for my age.

I just wanted to know if anyone else here could relate to looking young for their age and how they deal with it.

i just turned 38 and still have people think i'm younger than i am. never really had any issue with it, always figured that i'll just look better than others my age once we get REALLY old. Laughing

recently came to truly appreciate my youthfulness. saw an old friend (she's actually a few years younger than me) after about a year separation and she has AGED!!! i'm pretty sure it's the smoking, drinking, and bar environment she's always around, but i was at first shocked and then grateful that it's not me.

sorry i missed out on your pic, would have like to see what others thought they were talking about.

good luck!

 

i feel ya.  i'm 14 and i STILL get carded everywhere (i live in quebec, where we can drink at 18).  once, like 2 yrs ago, i was a club price and they have these sorbet samples.  one of the flavours was strawberry daquiri and it had rhum in it.  i was with my boyfriend at the time and they asked him, asif he was my much older brother, if it was ok.  i was like, dude, i'm 22!  they didn't believe me.  for SORBET!!!  it'S so annoying.  now, when they card me (if i've been at one bar and am going to the next) i ask them to tell me how old they think i am, for my own polling purposes.  i think the average is 19.  unfortunately, my mom always looked young, still does, so i think it's genetic.  i just think it sucks that ppl assume i'm such a baby and the comments do get annoying, but i ignore them now.  makes me elss angry.

oh, on another note, my ex-boyfriend (my most recent one) is 37 and he looks like 29, but people looked at us funny sometimes.  because i look so you.  they must have been thinking he was a pedophile or creepy at least.  that really bugged me too.  AND we were an inter-racial couple.  doesn't help...

anyway, those r my stories.  just ignore them, be yourself, and laugh it off.  i find it's the best way to do it.

I still got carded when I was 36. It made me feel great. I still look younger than my age, probably always will. It's much better than looking older than your age.

Original Post by petitechick:

 Thanks but I really don't need anymore fashion advice. After 29 years of my life I know how to dress for my age.

I just wanted to know if anyone else here could relate to looking young for their age and how they deal with it.

I was the only one who suggested dressing your age and I only mentioned it once so don't get your panties in a bunch. 

And I believe everyone is answering your question. 

 

People here are so temperamental. 

It does suck.  People are unbelievably rude - no filters.  I also got a lot of the "you'll appreciate it later", and while I am now getting to the age where I appreciate it (I'm 37), it always was as annoying as hell.  And I agree with you - why should I have to dress more frumpish because some people are morons?

I'm in senior management and in addition to looking young, I'm the only woman.  People are often shocked when they meet me (or, if I haven't been introduced yet, they assume I'm a secretary and ask for coffee - kid you not).

Mostly, at work, I try and have first contact with people through phone or in writing.  That way, when they meet me, their filters might be working better.  I also suck it up and stick with the conservative wear at work.  Personal life, I do what I want.

Good luck!

resipsa--- Dressing your age does not mean dressing frumpy. You can dress your age and look sophisticated and put together. If you look young and dress too young, then of course, people are going to comment if they're surprised by your age. 

People think I'm younger than I am. I just have better things to worry about than people thinking I'm in high school... let alone to complain about it on a forum.

I'm 23 and people still ask me what grade I am. I can't help but look at them weird and wish to say something rude back. I know how hard it is and it does hurt. Also changing my looks is not something I want to do either. I'm comfortable with the hair I have and don't want anything complicated to take care of. Also it's not always easy to find clothes when you're average height but thin.

Funny thing, when I was wide, people still thought I was just a kid. So putting on weight doesn't always help on changing those looks. You said your face is small and you're short. Weight gain may not help, in return, might end up making you look even younger if your face rounds up a bit. I haven't seen your picture, so I can't tell for sure.

Telling people your real age when they AssUMe, could be the best attack you got back on them to hit them back in their tracks with their own emberassment over their wrong accusations.

When people ask me what grade I am in, I tell them I graduated from college last spring (which is true). It's funny seeing how long it takes them to take in what I just said since they weren't expecting that answer.

Did you ever have a hard time getting a kid to beleive you are older than him/her? Now that was something. It's frustrating at times when people look down at you, but other times, I find it funny when they can't tell I been an adult for quite a while.

In the mean time, might as well take adventage of people's assumptions and use it to get free stuff or free candy during halloween. Hey, I may be an adult, but I still enjoy some kids events. We got to enjoy things while we still can.

I too look young for my age - not a skinny petite thing, but just have young features and good skin.  Turning 36 this year, now just look in my mid 20's.  It is annoying, and frustrating, and at times, RUDE, RUDE, RUDE.  I sound young too - I answered my phone at my home one day and had the dum-bass on the other end say "can I speak to your mommy?"...WHATEVER.  You do have to take some ownership of the fact that people see you as young.  I did change my hair, and my clothes, and it significantly reduced the number of comments in just a couple of months.  I did that because in the field of work I am I need to be taken serious occassionally and have a technically difficult job (accountant).  If you are waiting tables, then go for it.  Dress how ever you want, and have fun.  But also know that if you move out of that world into a corporate america, you will need to dress in probably different ways then you do now.  One of the other things is that when I am out with my friends and when I am working, my clothes are different, my makeup is different, and my hair is different.   

One of the best ways I respond when people say things is I smile, tilt my head, and say you should see my mom - we got the good genes!  Just remember to not be defensive about it - most people I know are just a touch envious.  Make it a positive and it will work better for you.   

UHH! i get this allll the time.  I am 25 and work with a non profit organization but I'm currently looking for a new job and I feel like everyone is discriminating against me because i LOOK YOUNG.  I have my college degree, have had it for over 2 YEARS.  This makes me furious!! I agree about the dressing, I think it's crap that people say "you dress like you're 17" ...That's even more insulting!  I swear to god if I put these clothes on my coworker of 40, she'd still look 40 and not 17.  I hate it.  I've tried other hair cuts and getting more professional outfits, and I talk professionally...but it's my face and the fact that I'm very short.  I am SO frustrated with this...people do the same to me, one kept asking what I'd major in when I go to college, she wouldn't even listen when I said I have my degree, I've HAD my degree for 2 years.  I keep wondering what's wrong with this situation...is there something in the water keeping people from looking their age these days?  I totally understand and empathize (especially about the clothes).

i get this all the time as well...i am only 25 but i get taken for a highschooler more often than not and at time it's aggravating but my mom says to take it as a compliment...which is true, she is 52 and only looks as if she's in her early 40s

Original Post by jamminatorr:

I have this problem too. I not only look young, but on the phone I sound like I'm 11 years old. Honestly, if I answer the phone at my parents house they frequently think I'm my sister. I've been told that I could pass for 12. (I'm 21, young but not THAT young)


I get tired of it too, but there are ways of doing your makeup and hair that make you look age appropriate. I work in for my local government and at meetings I frequently have to make a good, professional first impression. Take a good look at the way you're wearing your hair- one length, ponytails or bangs tend to look younger. Layering, texture can add years if it's done right. In makeup- anything heavy on the eyeliner or overly done can look young... try for something more subtle. Also, no makeup can make you look young too so try to avoid that.

Anyways, those are my tips, but I can totally sympathize with you. A lot of times I get treated far differently than my peers simply because I look young.

 This is my problem right here, Im without makeup more times than less so that is probably why I get asked how old i am all the time

Yeah, I am only 22 but forever have looked much younger.  Some people think I'm 14-17.  When I was 18 working at a card store people would ask me why I wasnt in school and that I wasn't old enough to work.

 

Edit:  I sound really young on the phone too, I swear you'd think I'm 7 on the phone.

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