Men who like too thin
Thanks for the responses
I have the same reaction when I see the models on the runway. They are so skinny they look sickly.
Just tell him they look sick.
Original Post by keys1987:
I babysit for one of my husband's friends, who has 3 children. He's a nice guy I guess, but he annoys the crap out of me!!
Anyone got any ideas on how I can tell him I'm uncomfortable looking at (and between) other women's rib cages?
You're guessing wrong.
And just tell him outright you don't want to hear his stories. ('XYZ, would you mind, I really don't want to hear the hospital stories of your numerous girlfriends. Let's talk about something else. Did you *enter random topic*')
It's not your business what he's turned on by and why but you certainly can demand not having to listen to it.
Original Post by cajunrider:
I have the same reaction when I see the models on the runway. They are so skinny they look sickly.
Just tell him they look sick.
Why should she look at the damn pics in the first place??? I mean, Jesus! Does the guy have no personal boundaries?? They are his chicks, not hers. I can't remember any of my friends ever showing me pics of their boyfriends without specifically asking me if I want to see them. And if I don't I'll just say 'Later, let's have another pint/cuppa'.
Meh, it's late and I'm too grumpy today, sorry for ranting
*fills up wine glass with a nice Zinfandel*
I'm more worried about his kids and what they are learning from him.
It's gross. I had a few sickos like that approach me at my lowest weights. I wasn't interested anyway, but still. My mother and a couple of nurses all told me categorically, on separate occasions, that any man attracted (sexually) to someone of my size was sick in the head and probably a pedophile. It's just not natural.
The fact that he is going on about their hospital admissions as if they were contestants in Miss Universe or something particularly disturbs me. Who is his number 1? The girl so emaciated that she's being fed through a nasal gastric tube? Oh yeah, so sexy.
I'm quite amazed that you're so... Cool with it all. I would have seriously told him to get **** long ago, whether he was my SO's friend or otherwise.
I guess at least he's donating plasma.
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please get new friends. No, he is not a nice guy.
Original Post by ninafish:
It's gross. I had a few sickos like that approach me at my lowest weights. I wasn't interested anyway, but still. My mother and a couple of nurses all told me categorically, on separate occasions, that any man attracted (sexually) to someone of my size was sick in the head and probably a pedophile. It's just not natural.
The fact that he is going on about their hospital admissions as if they were contestants in Miss Universe or something particularly disturbs me. Who is his number 1? The girl so emaciated that she's being fed through a nasal gastric tube? Oh yeah, so sexy.
I'm quite amazed that you're so... Cool with it all. I would have seriously told him to get **** long ago, whether he was my SO's friend or otherwise.
I guess at least he's donating plasma.
Same here. When I was at a BMI of 13, I had quite a few men (at least 24 years or older) approach me and tell me how beautiful I was. It really broke my heart to think that someone could only love me at such a miserable weight. It made me feel like I had to stay at that weight to be attractive.
I'm sure this guy is just feeding his girlfriends' eating disorders. He is sick. I agree with a-girl, I really worry about how he is influencing his children.
Yes, first of all, why are you hanging around with him? It's not him you need to worry about. It's the fact that you subject yourself to someone like that. You, and every other woman, deserves better. People should be loved because they are a gift from God, not because they fulfill someone else's ego trip and you are playing yourself into that.
First of all, stop babysitting for him. Second, don't donate plasma every week, it's bad for you to do that so often. You'll not be around him so often. Third, it might be helpful for you to talk to someone, perhaps clergy or a professional, about why you would listen to someone like that and not just through his comments out instead of comparing yourself to the unrealistic ideals he has of women and how he demeans them. If you believed that women should not hurt themselves for the sake of acceptance from a man, then you would dismiss him and his words as ridiculous. That may have something to do with why you are donating plasma weekly. Maybe you feel a need for acceptance. You, who you are, are worthy of love and acceptance. You don't need to resort to this. Find this within yourself and you will be a much healthier, happier person.
Well, it actually sounds like he's trying to strike a chord with you, and it seems as if it's working. I don't know why he feels that (understatement) these unhealthily skinny girls are something to be proud about and needs to express this. I'm guessing that he wants to try and make you feel bad. In some weird, obscure way he wants to make you jealous (though we know you nor anyone would be!) and make you sit up and pay attention to him. I agree with the poster who said it may reveal peadophilic/homosexual tendencies about him if he subconsciously is not attracted to normal womanly characteristics, or he may be a victim of the media constantly bombarding him with the message that being a stick with silicone implants are irresistibly sexy. Personally, I am always amazed at how ugly models and pornstars are (although both are aimed at different audiences).
We know that we can't blame this on one thing alone, but more and more men are losing perception on what a "normal, healthy, and therefore sexually attractive woman" looks like because we are always exposed to what the media thinks is sexy, the big companies who control everything. These women also sound like they are victim to their EDs e.g. turning to drugs to kill their appetites. But you know what, I think that as soon as he realises how boring, self-absorbed, monotonous and mentally screwed women are doing for him plus being the POTENTIAL financial bill payer of all their health problems he'll scarper. These poor women don't need people like him egging them on into killing themselves painfully. I know he's your friend, and he is obviously quite caring to be a platelet donor and be a good dad to his kids, but you need to sit down and have a talk with him when the time is right that you no longer want to hear about these sick women. It's tragic and upsetting. How would one feel if I went around bragging that I had cancer and it's "going to make me nice and skinny" tell him that, because it's not far off from what he's doing.
For what you described it seems to me that he's less sexually attracted to so many "too thin" women than he is to women with disordered thinking (there are plenty of slim women who are psychologically healthy), thereby giving him a great deal of influence and dominance over them. That in itself is akin to pedophilia. The fact that he keeps telling you how sexy they are and showing you their pictures (wtf!) could be an attempt to make you feel less atrractive, shake your confidence and ultimately gain some influence over you as well.
Just because he's a plasma donor and apparently a good dad doesn't make him a nice guy; just that he's making an concerted effort to appear to be one. Continuing to date a heroin addict and supporting her habit rather than trying help her get better definitely does not make him a "nice guy".
Original Post by carlajhart:
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First of all, stop babysitting for him. Second, don't donate plasma every week, it's bad for you to do that so often. You'll not be around him so often. Third, it might be helpful for you to talk to someone, perhaps clergy or a professional, about why you would listen to someone like that and not just through his comments out instead of comparing yourself to the unrealistic ideals he has of women and how he demeans them. If you believed that women should not hurt themselves for the sake of acceptance from a man, then you would dismiss him and his words as ridiculous. That may have something to do with why you are donating plasma weekly. Maybe you feel a need for acceptance. You, who you are, are worthy of love and acceptance. You don't need to resort to this. Find this within yourself and you will be a much healthier, happier person.
There are no medical reason why someone cannot donate plasma up to TWICE per week -- the body regenerates the plasma lost in 24 hours.
Perhaps she donates plasma because she wants to HELP those who need it. I know when I was still eligible to donate blood, I was donating every 56 days or so. Not for anyone's acceptance, but because sick people needed my blood. The only reason I no longer do that is because I spent considerable time in England and the US Red Cross basically puts a forever ban on people who spent more than 6 mos there since 1980.
She asked a question about the man -- focus on her question instead of focusing on your opinions about her.
That guy is weird and I don't like it
He's a wussy bully who can only beat up sickly women.
Original Post by muttlover:
Original Post by ninafish:
It's gross. I had a few sickos like that approach me at my lowest weights. I wasn't interested anyway, but still. My mother and a couple of nurses all told me categorically, on separate occasions, that any man attracted (sexually) to someone of my size was sick in the head and probably a pedophile. It's just not natural.
The fact that he is going on about their hospital admissions as if they were contestants in Miss Universe or something particularly disturbs me. Who is his number 1? The girl so emaciated that she's being fed through a nasal gastric tube? Oh yeah, so sexy.
I'm quite amazed that you're so... Cool with it all. I would have seriously told him to get **** long ago, whether he was my SO's friend or otherwise.
I guess at least he's donating plasma.
Same here. When I was at a BMI of 13, I had quite a few men (at least 24 years or older) approach me and tell me how beautiful I was. It really broke my heart to think that someone could only love me at such a miserable weight. It made me feel like I had to stay at that weight to be attractive.
I'm sure this guy is just feeding his girlfriends' eating disorders. He is sick. I agree with a-girl, I really worry about how he is influencing his children.
I think a lot of them are fetishists, mutt. Just like someone who is sexually attracted to the morbidly obese. They go for extremes. I'm not saying here that people who are severely anorexic or morbidly obese are unworthy of love - I'm not saying that at all. But I am saying that it's not a natural/healthy thing, generally speaking, to find either of those extremes physically attractive (on first appearances). I'm not speaking for the husband/wife who has been in love with his/her spouse for years and then he/she sudden falls into one of these categories.
I agree with nina.
I also think he may be a closet-pedo or an a$$hat who likes girls with mental problems.
I'm picky when it comes to men. :| I'M SORRY.
But I prefer a little meat on the bones and muscle, please. I don't like overly thin guys. And model skinny, is all right, as long as bones don't stick out in places where they're not supposed to.
Regarding men liking too thin. I've actually experienced this. They're crazy. They break up with you because you're too 'big'.
This was my thought too. I hope he doesn't have daughters.
