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So here it goes. My rant.

 

how absolutely annoying is it to have a guy whistle at you like your a dog? like you are supposed to come when called? Do men think that woman can be trained to perfection? its only a tad (sarcasm here.) arg-ful to have boys and creatures of the like to treat me (and any other woman they like) like i am an item and to be possessed. ugh! *frustration Face*

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Did you see the 127 guys that same day that walked by and didn't even so much as look at you for more than a split second?

Original Post by tboonpickenz:

Did you see the 127 guys that same day that walked by and didn't even so much as look at you for more than a split second?

Given that she's a woman...she probably hated them even more for NOT whistling at her.  Damned if ya do, damned if ya don't.

It really depends on how attractive the guy is.  If Brad Pitt walks by and doesn't look at her...he's arrogant and rude.  If Danny Devito walks by and doesn't give her the time of day...THANK GAWD.  But if Danny Devito whistles...Ewww, Creepy!  But if Brad Pitt whistles...looks like someone's diary is going to get a bunch of heart entries!!

And that doesn't even factor in whether they are PMSing or not...it can get quite complicated.

I was on a run with a friend the other day and construction workers cat called (probably my friend) but it was at that point in a 5 mile run we were sick of talking to each other so I was deep in thought... so they startled me... and I tripped over a rock and almost fell on my ass.

Do you like my story? Good story. *pats self on head*

My point is either cat calling may cause serious injury or death... or I need to start wearing helmets when I run. Or walk.
I don't care who or how attractive the guy is. I don't like em whistling at me like I am a dog.
Original Post by trh:

Original Post by lostpumpkins:

Original Post by wannabewhinry:

I thought men just whistled at you when they think you're hot? I don't know one guy who's whistled at my to come over to them. Is that seriously a thing? 


I had a customer whistle and click at me trying to get my attention.  Like, that quick whistle and two clicks people use with horses?

I hate that customer.

As long as he doesn't use the riding crop or spurs on you you're ok.

Skulks back to the tack room, pulls off boots and spurs, pops crop back into cupboard. Whistles to self whilst thinking what migh've been!

Original Post by lostpumpkins:

Original Post by wannabewhinry:

I thought men just whistled at you when they think you're hot? I don't know one guy who's whistled at my to come over to them. Is that seriously a thing? 


I had a customer whistle and click at me trying to get my attention.  Like, that quick whistle and two clicks people use with horses?

I hate that customer.


Horsekick him in the sac.

 

Original Post by insanespace:

I don't care who or how attractive the guy is. I don't like em whistling at me like I am a dog.


I don't even whistle at my dogs. I speak to them. "So and so, come here please!"

So, yeah..whistling is putting you at the level of like..a taxi cab.

 

I don't want to be a taxi cab! :P
I talk to my dogs like they are family. Cuz well they are.
Original Post by jules817:

Original Post by lostpumpkins:

Original Post by wannabewhinry:

I thought men just whistled at you when they think you're hot? I don't know one guy who's whistled at my to come over to them. Is that seriously a thing? 


I had a customer whistle and click at me trying to get my attention.  Like, that quick whistle and two clicks people use with horses?

I hate that customer.

you should have whinnied loudly and made exaggerated CLOP CLOP CLOP CLOP noises as you went over to him. then went right back to being serious and said "can i help you?"

Bahahahaha, just saw this comment.  I totally should have.

Instead, I ignored him until he made an actual attempt to address me as a human being (Brittany?  Stephanie?  Hey, you?).  And then I said, "Oh, I'm sorry, I didn't realize you were whistling at me."

I had a little...confrontation with a man yesterday.

I'm standing in line at the little convenience store (referred to as the "Mafia Mart" for reasons I do not know) around the corner, minding my own business.  This guy comes in, looks at me, and makes an appreciative mmm-mmm sound (yuck).  And then proceeds to stare.

Then he starts asking me a bunch of questions.  Where you work at, girl?  Where you goin' after this?  Where you live at?  What's yo name?  How you doin'?  Where yo man at?

I was not sending him friendly signals.  Finally, he says, "You aren't very friendly."  I said, "I actually really don't want to talk to you."

 

Yeah yeah, maybe rude, but after the first seventeen questions to which he got one word answers, he should have gotten the hint.  I don't have to be friendly to make you feel better about yourself.  And if being friendly involves telling you where I live?  Uh, no.

Original Post by lostpumpkins:

I had a little...confrontation with a man yesterday.

I'm standing in line at the little convenience store (referred to as the "Mafia Mart" for reasons I do not know) around the corner, minding my own business.  This guy comes in, looks at me, and makes an appreciative mmm-mmm sound (yuck).  And then proceeds to stare.

Then he starts asking me a bunch of questions.  Where you work at, girl?  Where you goin' after this?  Where you live at?  What's yo name?  How you doin'?  Where yo man at?

I was not sending him friendly signals.  Finally, he says, "You aren't very friendly."  I said, "I actually really don't want to talk to you."

 

Yeah yeah, maybe rude, but after the first seventeen questions to which he got one word answers, he should have gotten the hint.  I don't have to be friendly to make you feel better about yourself.  And if being friendly involves telling you where I live?  Uh, no.

Creepy and gross.

In a nice drugstore one night, I was picking up some asthma crap for my ex, and a man started talking at me. I'd say talking *to* me, but that's not what he did. It was a lot like what you describe above.

There was a glass display case near the register where they sold fancy looking pill cases, some rings..you know..probably in the 10-100 dollar range depending which thing you wanted.

After telling him I was just picking up meds for my boyfriend, he offers to buy me one of those rings.

"Is this the part where I get all excited over that forty dollar sparkly thing and have sex with you in the parking lot?" (it was late, I was bitchy)

The clerk stared, the guy kinda went silent with his mouth hanging, then he walked away.

Sorry, but it was wholly inappropriate! You don't buy cheap jewelry for strange women!

 

Original Post by caloricat:

Original Post by tboonpickenz:

Did you see the 127 guys that same day that walked by and didn't even so much as look at you for more than a split second?

Given that she's a woman...she probably hated them even more for NOT whistling at her.  Damned if ya do, damned if ya don't.

It really depends on how attractive the guy is.  If Brad Pitt walks by and doesn't look at her...he's arrogant and rude.  If Danny Devito walks by and doesn't give her the time of day...THANK GAWD.  But if Danny Devito whistles...Ewww, Creepy!  But if Brad Pitt whistles...looks like someone's diary is going to get a bunch of heart entries!!

And that doesn't even factor in whether they are PMSing or not...it can get quite complicated.

Not for me. A whistling guy is creepy, or a total Himbo who probably has Herpes, so I don't care what he looks like.

It's rude, weird and just embarrassing.

Much better if he just smiles, says hi, and maybe strikes up a conversation.

But, since I'm in a relationship..I'm not super interested in random men noticing my existence anyway..not like that.

If it's after dark, a man is wiser to just keep his distance because I have at least 3 objects in my purse that could put his eye out if I mistake his friendliness for rapistness.

 

My own personal annoyance lies in any member of either gender whistling or doing other things to get my attention. Not even in a 'romantic' way, but I work in food service, and some of the ways people (both male and female) attempt to get me to come over and help them is downright rude. I don't consider it a male chauvinist issue, I consider it a lack of respect issue in general.

I think some people just have this notion that the world revolves around them, and that if someone isn't immediately attending to their needs, it simply must mean they're not paying attention. I mean, it's not as if (*gasp*) they could actually be busy doing something else.

Maybe you shouldn't be so rude to the person who will be preparing your food/drink? ...Just kidding, I could never honestly spit in or do something gross to someone's order no matter how terrible they were.

But honestly, if I'm going to come over and be respectful to you as a customer, it shouldn't be completely unrealistic of me to hope for the same in return, dammit.

Original Post by fallingupstairs:

My own personal annoyance lies in any member of either gender whistling or doing other things to get my attention. Not even in a 'romantic' way, but I work in food service, and some of the ways people (both male and female) attempt to get me to come over and help them is downright rude. I don't consider it a male chauvinist issue, I consider it a lack of respect issue in general.

I think some people just have this notion that the world revolves around them, and that if someone isn't immediately attending to their needs, it simply must mean they're not paying attention. I mean, it's not as if (*gasp*) they could actually be busy doing something else.

Maybe you shouldn't be so rude to the person who will be preparing your food/drink? ...Just kidding, I could never honestly spit in or do something gross to someone's order no matter how terrible they were.

But honestly, if I'm going to come over and be respectful to you as a customer, it shouldn't be completely unrealistic of me to hope for the same in return, dammit.


I make it a point to always be very nice to servers. Not just because they handle my food but because I realize how many a-holes they probably have to deal with every day.

I think I gained my extra empathy for them while dating the ex. He was horrible. And cheap. He had plenty of money, so in his case, he was just super cheap, which I see as a character flaw as it's being stingy for no real reason.

Anyway, he would argue over the tab to the point of just embarrassing sometimes, like the time the waiter asked if we wanted water, and didn't specify what kind. The ex said yeah, and the waiter brought a bottle of mineral water to the table, and started to open it.

"Wait..is that free?"

"Uh, No, Sir..it's $2.00"

"Just bring tap water"

Ugh.

I also make sure to tip way extra when someone was great..I figure in a sea of buttholes, I can try to give them a smile.

 

Original Post by raychelc:

Original Post by lostpumpkins:

I had a little...confrontation with a man yesterday.

I'm standing in line at the little convenience store (referred to as the "Mafia Mart" for reasons I do not know) around the corner, minding my own business.  This guy comes in, looks at me, and makes an appreciative mmm-mmm sound (yuck).  And then proceeds to stare.

Then he starts asking me a bunch of questions.  Where you work at, girl?  Where you goin' after this?  Where you live at?  What's yo name?  How you doin'?  Where yo man at?

I was not sending him friendly signals.  Finally, he says, "You aren't very friendly."  I said, "I actually really don't want to talk to you."

 

Yeah yeah, maybe rude, but after the first seventeen questions to which he got one word answers, he should have gotten the hint.  I don't have to be friendly to make you feel better about yourself.  And if being friendly involves telling you where I live?  Uh, no.

Creepy and gross.

In a nice drugstore one night, I was picking up some asthma crap for my ex, and a man started talking at me. I'd say talking *to* me, but that's not what he did. It was a lot like what you describe above.

There was a glass display case near the register where they sold fancy looking pill cases, some rings..you know..probably in the 10-100 dollar range depending which thing you wanted.

After telling him I was just picking up meds for my boyfriend, he offers to buy me one of those rings.

"Is this the part where I get all excited over that forty dollar sparkly thing and have sex with you in the parking lot?" (it was late, I was bitchy)

The clerk stared, the guy kinda went silent with his mouth hanging, then he walked away.

Sorry, but it was wholly inappropriate! You don't buy cheap jewelry for strange women!

 

I need to move... :)

Moo!

lol, meta, may need a helmet too - am currently being stalked by a chugger i stupidly gave my number to (he is not calling about the charity; half his messages involve him trying to convince me he's a successful entrepreneur on the side). garh, i felt sorry for him initially, and he became intimidating; felt so cornered & wanted to get out of it fast, didn't even think to give him fake digits :(

or no digits, seriously >:

eta: don't want to overstate it. i am not being stalked in a dangerous way, i don't think. i imagine he believes he's being persistent. despite my NEVER answering. (See previous thread, 'Why she doesn't pick up the phone?!')

Also - what does the other person experience if they've been blocked, anyone know?

Am full of questions today.

Moo!

where i live, the whistling/cat calling thing happens very often and it used to bother me a lot when i was a teenager. now, i don't even care to make eye contact with the person unless i'm in a bad mood and feel like giving crap to a total stranger. one time, a crackhead even started running after me in the park. another time, i was stuck alone with a guy in the subway compartment and he sat the closest he could to me and it really didn't go well ~ poor guy. recently, i went to the library with my friend and a random guy followed us and started masturbating in the sofa in front of us. so yeah, i try not to go out alone at night and always bring pepper spray with me just in case someone doesn't take 'no' for an answer.

i really don't think guys or their behavior are a problem, though. i'm tired of the guy bashing i hear all the time. the few ones that go beyond the verbal are just very lonely or have mental health issues.

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