Ok, so first off, I am not so new to this site, I just wanted this post to be anonymous. So here's the dilemma. I have been seeing this guy I work with (I know I know) for the past 4 weeks. It's not an exclusive thing, but it has been deeper than just hooking up. We started as just friends. We work together at a restaurant and would go out with the group and have drinks. Somewhere along the line we started flirting and then texting, and the rest is history.
Well, last night we were out with our co-workers after working a very difficult Valentines Day. At some point, he walked away from the table to go say hi to some 'friends' It was a girl and another guy sitting at the other end of the bar. When I noticed he had walked away, I looked over and he was making out with this girl. I was absolutely crushed. I didn't know how to act at all. I guess maybe I like this guy more than I thought. Not long after I saw that, everyone got up from our table and walked to where he was sitting. So I followed suit. It was awkward to say the least. I kept my cool though and was even nice to this girl. He didn't even look at me. I knew he was drunk at that point, and he blacks out and does stupid **** when he's drunk, and wont remember it the next day. But I still feel like that was a little over the line. And it didn't end there, they continued making out on and off until it was closing time at the bar, and then they proceeded to leave together. He didn't say a word to me.
I know what you're thinking, this guy is a complete JERK. But I can't help thinking of the time we've spent together. Like I said, we're not exclusive, and technically I guess he's not in the wrong. I can see other guys just as much as he can see other girls. But I like him enough, that I don't want to know about or hear about any other girls he sees, nonetheless witness him make out with and then leave the bar with one of these girls. We have spent a lot of time together the past 4 weeks. Not just out at the bar either. We have had nights watching movies and cuddling up on the couch. Nights of cocktails at his place and some deep conversation. And I guess that's what's throwing me off. How can he do that with me, and then do what he did last night?
Usually I'm good with this stuff. But I'm struggling with what I should do. My mind is telling me that he just marked the end of our 'relationship' and that I should just work on moving on now because he's obviously not the guy I thought he was. But I don't WANT that to be the answer. I just really like this guy. And in the past 4 weeks he has done nothing but show me how much he cares for me too. So it's hard for me to grasp this situation. We probably wont see each other again until Wednesday, but typically we send texts throughout the days we don't see each other. We speak on the phone occasionally, but my phone isn't working properly right now and I can't talk long before it drops the call. So we have been sticking to texting because of this.
So the main question is, what do I do?? Do I text him? And, if I do, what do I say? I can't get angry, because we're not exclusive and I don't want him thinking I'm too attached already. Basically, I just don't want to scare him off if theres any chance of this continuing. And I also think it's too soon to talk about a relationship, so I don't want to go there either. Part of me just wants to ignore him and not speak to him at all until we see each other at work on Wednesday. But this can't be discussed at work either, so I don't things to be awkward. And also, I just can't get this off of my mind and I'll go crazy if I don't deal with it until Wednesday. Ugh, I'm so lost and I feel like this post is all over the place.
Please, if anyone can give me any advice here I'd really appreciate it! I know it was a little vague, mostly because I'm so worked up I can't think straight. So if theres something else you want to know feel free to ask.
PS He's 28 and I'm just about 23