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Odd compliments... or insults?


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On the metro today, a guy told me: "You have the finest pair of legs that I've seen since I put on pants this morning."

 

It started off nice (creepy, but nice), but by the end, I think he might have been insulting me.

Any weird compliments (or insults disguised as compliments) that you've gotten?

 

Edit: For people not reading the rest of the thread, the guy was a crazy person on the train (who was ranting about revolution leading up to this). And I was wearing black tights, so I'm pretty sure it was not in reference to any shaving or lack thereof. It really was just a weird comment from a very bizarre man, and I in no way took it as an insult - it just made me laugh to think about what he said if it was taken literally.

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Well, I thought it was astoundingly cool.  :D  At the time I wasn't sure what to make of it, but now I think it was a compliment.

I don't usually recognize back-handed insults. You basically have to hit me over the head with your disdain in order to elicit anything but a chuckle.

In case anyone is curious what other interesting things the San Francisco street person had to say, I found my old journal entry about it, dated 12/13/2007:

A homeless man accosted me and my friends on Market Street on Monday night, wanting to sell us something from his backpack (not sure what).  He then says, "Hey beautiful, can I have four hundred degrees?  I have cockroaches in my head."  Now, this isn't terribly noteworthy in itself, as you're likely to meet many poor lost souls on any given night in San Francisco. 

The weird thing that happened was that Rob and I saw the very same street person on a BART (Bay Area Rapid Transit system) train on the following night.  The odds against that are pretty high, I think.

On BART, he was proclaiming.  I can think of no more apt verb.  The subject:  Jerry Garcia (probably not an uncommon theme for mentally-ill people who grew up in the sixties).  Here is his soliloquy, which was delivered in a ringing tone and punctuated by minute-long pauses:

"I remember the day that Jerry Garcia died.

"I was at the West Oakland station, standing on the platform, looking west.

"Suddenly I felt a cheap rhythm running through my body, and I knew that Jerry Garcia was dead.

"It wasn't until the next day that I found out that it was true.  I'm not sure if it was a coincidence.


"Jerry Garcia was the driving force of the Grateful Dead.

"Remember, YOU are the Jerry Garcia in your life."

At this point he exited the train.  I think he left at the West Oakland station, actually... anyway, I know he was absolutely nuts, but I thought he said a couple of neat things.  I like the phrase cheap rhythm.

Original Post by muttlover:

Original Post by shnitzel:

I was usually subjected to the classic backhanded insults, like "You have such a pretty face" or "You have a nice personality".  Yeah, uh, thanks.

How are those backhanded insults? They sound nice to me. :o

 These are the type of compliments that men give to fat women.

Original Post by muttlover:

Original Post by shnitzel:

I was usually subjected to the classic backhanded insults, like "You have such a pretty face" or "You have a nice personality".  Yeah, uh, thanks.

How are those backhanded insults? They sound nice to me. :o

The insult lies not in what was actually stated, but in what was implied, which concerned my being overweight/obese.

eta: Exactly. Mooni got it.  :)

This is a lose - lose for guys.  Tell a gal she has a nice ass and you're chastized for being sexually degrading.  Tell her she has a pretty face and she somehow sees it as an insult because you weren't sexually degrading.

No Tom. If you tell a woman she has a nice ass, she's going to take it as a sexual comment, because it is.

If you tell a woman who is obese that she has a pretty face or a nice personality, she knows you don't find her physically attractive. Fat women are not stupid.

Kind of agree with that, Tom. I don't see such compliments as back-handed insults. I see them as accentuating the positive.

Original Post by kathygator:

Kind of agree with that, Tom. I don't see such compliments as back-handed insults. I see them as accentuating the positive.

 Right, I mean someone could be overweight and ugly.

*chuckles*

"You're gorgeous and your boyfriend's ugly"

A friend of mine was told (while working as a server at a restaurant) that she had the bum of a black woman. I think he meant it as a compliment but it's all kinds of wrong.

 

Original Post by thehappyfish:

A friend of mine was told (while working as a server at a restaurant) that she had the bum of a black woman. I think he meant it as a compliment but it's all kinds of wrong.

 

 Commonly referred to as having a "JLo"

 I am usually rather oblivious to either compliment or insults...and I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt.  For all I know I have been insulted a million times and sweetly said "thank you".

Original Post by floggingsully:

"You're gorgeous and your boyfriend's ugly"

- Homeless guy in Galway, on our honeymoon.

Original Post by amethystgirl:

Original Post by floggingsully:

"You're gorgeous and your boyfriend's ugly"

- Homeless guy in Galway, on our honeymoon.

 From what my bf has told me about Galway, where his father is from, i'm going to assume said homeless man was no prize himself.

Original Post by moonikins:

Original Post by muttlover:

Original Post by shnitzel:

I was usually subjected to the classic backhanded insults, like "You have such a pretty face" or "You have a nice personality".  Yeah, uh, thanks.

How are those backhanded insults? They sound nice to me. :o

 These are the type of compliments that men give to fat women.

To be fair, women give these compliments to fat women too.

Original Post by nomoreexcuses:

Original Post by moonikins:

Original Post by muttlover:

Original Post by shnitzel:

I was usually subjected to the classic backhanded insults, like "You have such a pretty face" or "You have a nice personality".  Yeah, uh, thanks.

How are those backhanded insults? They sound nice to me. :o

 These are the type of compliments that men give to fat women.

To be fair, women give these compliments to fat women too.

Yeah but I also give them to NOT fat women :( 

 

But I wouldn't expect anyone to comment on my body one way or another --  it's just not really what I consider to be socially acceptable.  And conversely I would never comment on someone's body.  I feel like "you've got a great body" is just as awkward in conversation as "you've got some weight to lose" LOL

But..  I guess this is slightly different... regardless of who says it, "you've got a nice rack" is something I always like to hear.. but that's just me. :D

 

Yeah, I actually tend to make more general compliments to people regardless of gender.

You look nice today.

That outfit really suits you.

You're fun to be around (rarely actually say this one because it's dorky) 

I like you.

 

Original Post by nomoreexcuses:

Yeah, I actually tend to make more general compliments to people regardless of gender.

You look nice today.

That outfit really suits you.

You're fun to be around (rarely actually say this one because it's dorky) 

I like you.

 

I like your face.


((nomo))

 

ETA: and I'm actually thesuperdork because I tell people they're fun to be around all the time. ;)  haaha

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