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How old were you before you moved out? (If you did)


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Sup homies! I'm 23! I live at home and have a part time minimum wage job while I try to score a real job, the same as all my friends. We had a plan to team up and rent a house together, but it's not happened, mostly because it is hard to find actual jobs/save enough from our crappy jobs. My parents alternate between telling me not to worry about moving out, how renting anywhere is a waste of money, telling me to get married and move in with someone else, or reminding me of how they were my age when they got married and bought their own house. 

I'm freaking out a bit here, how did you guys afford to move out, and how old were you? And do I even want to rent with my friends, or is that a crazy waste of money?

What do I dooooo

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Honestly? I was 28 when I moved out. My Mother gave me a constant guilt trip about paying a stranger rent when I could give it to her (had been paying rent since age 15 and paid for my own tuition a the local University).

You will probably hear horror stories about roommate situations. I personally regret never having this experience. I've always had someone to answer to (having gone straight from mom's house to living with my husband).

Don't move out if you can't afford it, but if you have the opportunity.. take the personal growth experience.

Just my opinion.

 long story, but moved out at 15.

16, although I was effectively looking after myself from 13 onward.

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I second what Meta says. I married at 21. So, from parents house to living with my husband. I really wish I had lived on my own a bit.  If you can find a way to afford it, I vote moving out.

I'm in the mindset to move out earler rather than later, just for the simple fact that you need to find your way in life.  Time to pony up, if you know what I mean.  I moved out when I was 17, just graduated from high school.  I moved in with a roomie in a small apartment.  We got along for the most part, but it started to fall apart after a while.  You learn and move on.  And grow into an adult.  You learn the value of money and responsibility real fast.  Something that'll carry with you for the rest of your life. 

Now that I'm a parent, I'll probably change my way of thinking somewhat when my kids get to that age and allow them to stay home provided they pay some room and board. 

I guess at 18? Went to college, came back home for the summer, got a job, and left and have been on my own since.

I've been financially responsible for myself since I was 15 (I couldn't justify allowing my parents to be responsible for me, since we were pretty much third-world poor, and I was able to work), but I didn't move out of their house until I was 19.

I was a junior in college, worked at a vet clinic, a groom shop, and showed dogs for money. When I first moved out, I lived on my own in a nice little rental house between where I worked and went to school. It was a bit of a waste of money since I was at school or work much more often than I was at home--in fact, I only had water and electricity at my house, because I was only there two days a week, except to shower and change clothes. The rest of the time, I was sleeping at the kennel, studying at school, or traveling the country and showing dogs.

I'm 23 now, and live with a roommate. It's pretty great, although since I live so far away, I spend more time out of the apartment than in it. It's a nice place, but modest. We're able to comfortably afford everything we need, most of what we want, and still save money every month.

I should also mention that from the time I was very young, I had been prepping myself (at least mentally) to move out on my own at 18 (I stayed a while longer to help out at home).

I don't know what your mentality on the subject is, heat. You still seem a little ambivalent. I think it worked so well for me because I see moving back home as failure (for me, personally, and I have my reasons).

When I was 17 and went to college.  Stayed at home during the first two summers and then I decided to stay at school to take summer classes the remaining years, but still came home regularly.  The first time I lived without any kind of support from my parents, however, was when I graduated college and my hubby (then fiancé) and I got an apartment.

Original Post by heatseaker:

Sup homies! I'm 23! I live at home and have a part time minimum wage job while I try to score a real job, the same as all my friends. We had a plan to team up and rent a house together, but it's not happened, mostly because it is hard to find actual jobs/save enough from our crappy jobs. My parents alternate between telling me not to worry about moving out, how renting anywhere is a waste of money, telling me to get married and move in with someone else, or reminding me of how they were my age when they got married and bought their own house. 

I'm freaking out a bit here, how did you guys afford to move out, and how old were you? And do I even want to rent with my friends, or is that a crazy waste of money?

What do I dooooo

That cracks me up because my parents do the exact same thing!
My mom moved out when she was 15, and my parents were living together by the time she was 16 and my dad was 18.

I'm 25....and still live at home.
I hope to be out of here in a year, but who knows at this point.

Rent here is FREE and I need to save up while I can. I have virtually no bills except my car.
Plus I have my boyfriends place to escape to when needed....

18 joined the army and went to Germany

 

Hey Sayit, can you ask your parents if they'd be interested in adopting a 38 year old woman? ;)
  1. College move-out: 18 years old.  Lived in the dorms.  I spent the first two years with a roommate, and the last two years in a single dorm room.  I still had some of my stuff at my parents house and came home on breaks though.  College was about 1-2 h away from home (depending on traffic)
  2. After-graduation move-out: 22 years old.  I got a job across the country and moved from WA to IN.  Fortunately, the company paid for my relocation expenses.  

16 when I went to school overseas; 17 when I went to college (also overseas) and had my "own" apartment; 21 when I joined the Air Force.  Although I lived at home for brief periods between 16-21, from the time I left, i knew I wasn't going to be able to go back... as it is even now I can't stay more than a couple of days with my mother... That's why I joined the service -- depressed economy in Michigan, no jobs, Air Force paid (comparably) well, and I didn't have to see/hear/speak to my mother.

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16 when I went to school overseas; 17 when I went to college (also overseas) and had my "own" apartment; 21 when I joined the Air Force.  Although I lived at home for brief periods between 16-21, from the time I left, i knew I wasn't going to be able to go back... as it is even now I can't stay more than a couple of days with my mother... That's why I joined the service -- depressed economy in Michigan, no jobs, Air Force paid (comparably) well, and I didn't have to see/hear/speak to my mother.

I was a little depressed when I visited my parents in January (after not seeing them at all for over a year) and it didn't feel like home anymore. 

I'm irrevocably a growed-up person? o.o

I moved out at 18 (right after graduating HS I took a second job as a barista to supplement my night job as a pizza cook). My parents' belief was that if I wanted to go to college, I needed to figure it out myself. I lived and worked on my own for 8 years, struggled to make ends meet (had to borrow a couple hundred dollars from my grandpa more than once to pay overdraft fees), and almost always had two jobs to survive.  I always had roommates, and frankly, we lived in sh*tholes.

Finally applied for financial aid and started college at 26 (couldn't be considered legally independent of my parents' financially until my mid-20s).  Tried to do school/work at the same time to pay rent, but found myself having to max out my loan money from the feds for living expenses : / so with my tail between my legs, asked my mom to move back in at 28.

She obliged, but somewhat reluctantly. I lived there until I finished my bachelor's, went back to working two underpayed jobs, and decided move away to a city where I could make more $$.  I painted houses for a summer to make enough $$ to move, and stayed on a friend's couch there until I found a job. If you don't know, you can make more $$ in a city like Chicago, with higher pay and lower living expenses.

You basically have to decide if you want to move out enough to work a few jobs or work a really labor-intense job that pays better.  It's less painful when living with good friends, because everybody's struggling! And it might just be the jumping off point that you need.

Good luck!!!

16 right out of high school. Been on my own since. If you are smart about it no reason you can't afford it. Bought my first house at 23. It's about realizing what toucan and cannot afford. Maybe you don't need $200 cable or to go drinking every weekend.

I worked full time and paid my way through my degree and masters while doing so. It can be done just have to be focused and work it out.

As for roommates I love living with my guy friends lived with one girl and never again. Haha. I know have my own place and prefer it that way it's nice. All the best!
I lived at home until I finished university. I got a summer job in my third year and moved across the country. Then I moved back home to finish school and moved back across the country. I was 22.
No wait... I had just turned 23.
Original Post by meta15:

Hey Sayit, can you ask your parents if they'd be interested in adopting a 38 year old woman? ;)

Heck yes! We can be bunk buddies! I've always wanted a bunk bed!

I haven't officially moved out yet, but I moved out for college last year (Aug 2010) to live in the dorms at school, I was 18. I lived there for those 2 semesters, lived at home during the summer, and then lived there again last fall semester. Now I'm back at home since I transferred to a closer school (we figured it would make more sense to commute this semester since the school is only 15-mins away, plus it would be difficult to find a room placement mid-school year), and I hate it. I'd much rather be out on my own or with roommates, which is why I'm itching for next semester already since I'll be living on campus with 3 other girls in an apartment.

Having to live back home this semester has really cemented my want (more like a need, to be honest) to move out as soon as I can post-graduation. That's why I've stopped farting around with my money, am working more, and am keeping an eye out for internships that could help get my foot in the door of a "real people" job. I just want to get as much experience as possible, as well as realistically accepting that I most likely won't be getting a real job right off the bat & will have to spend a while scraping up pennies and working odd jobs. Anything other than living at home, though.

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