OMFG I can't believe him!!!
Things your spouse, significant other, life partner, yin, yang or people in general do(es) that just pisses you off.
Go!!!
Inspired by PG the yin to my yang (does that make me sexist?)
Besides his incredibly unfair fast metabolism?
Double standards.
If I'm doing something that bothers him slightly (tickling him, etc), and he asks me to stop I have to stop -right then-. This wouldn't normally be a problem, except that when he tickles me or does something that he knows bugs me, I have to tell him several times and physically move him away before he stops.
When I mention it to him he says "Why do you always have to throw that in my face?".
Because you always do it? Maybe? Beh.
Meh, it's not a huge deal unless he's frisky and won't listen when I say no. Not that he uses any physical force, he just begs until the 'no' penetrates his skull. One of these days I'll be speeding it along with an icepick. Nah, just joking. I know he still loves me even when we don't engage in that sort of affection, so it's all good.
He's not so bad really, just 18.
haha, thanks. i'll try to loosen up a bit; sometimes i can be really tense, which is an unfortunate side-effect of my dependence on coffee. i like the idea of turn about though :P i just need to think about what i could tease him back with. the obvious ideas like shopping wouldn't work because he actually enjoys that stuff (his boss is convinced he's gay)
1: He has severe allergies which irritate his nostrils and throat. Instead of taking the claritin/zyrtec/sudafed etc that I BOUGHT, he makes this snorting noise to I guess scratch the back of his throat... It sounds as if he is trying to inhale the kitchen table... and if it were just once or twice within a day - no biggie, but in the mornings, his whole get dresed routine is saturated with this noise.... UGH.
2: His total lack of domestic skills... he doesn't cook, he doesn't clean, he will only do laundry if absolutely unavoidable... I have seen him walk through a room, declare it a mess and then proceed to the computer. I told him that he was truly the king of his castle to which he replied - yeah, well if I were my subjects wouldn't talk back as much as you and the kids do! :)
3: He chews what he drinks... seriously - if drinking out of a straw he slurps a bunch of liquid into his mouth, then chews it as he swallows it... Annoyingly ODD!!! What's better is that his mom did it, he does it and our 2 year old does it... its ingrained!!!! UGH!!!
Original Post by p0nda:
Original Post by youhearttme:
he is 21 years old and his mother still clips his toenails, fingernails and cleans his ears out for him. he just graduated college and moved back home. it is literally sickening to watch her clean his ears for him.
Regardless of any of the other crap he makes you put up with, that sentence right there is enough for me to say unequivocally - this guy is not a keeper. What is keeping you with him exactly?
we've been dating for 2 years...the security, i guess. and we met through friends. all my best friends are his best friends. and he's just the sweetest guy, its hard to hurt someone who wouldnt hurt a fly you know? we arent compatible anymore, but he's a sweet guy. just not for me. but im so afraid of hurting him
You are describing (almost) my relationship with my ex-husband. A social circle and being afraid to hurt someone's feelings is no reason to stay in a bad relationship in which you are not happy. He doesn't sound like he's all that happy either. Take it from someone who's been there... it only gets worse the longer you wait, and god forbid you walk down the aisle with this guy. Life's too short - Run away, now, quickly!
Original Post by youhearttme:
Original Post by p0nda:
Original Post by youhearttme:
he is 21 years old and his mother still clips his toenails, fingernails and cleans his ears out for him. he just graduated college and moved back home. it is literally sickening to watch her clean his ears for him.
Regardless of any of the other crap he makes you put up with, that sentence right there is enough for me to say unequivocally - this guy is not a keeper. What is keeping you with him exactly?
we've been dating for 2 years...the security, i guess. and we met through friends. all my best friends are his best friends. and he's just the sweetest guy, its hard to hurt someone who wouldnt hurt a fly you know? we arent compatible anymore, but he's a sweet guy. just not for me. but im so afraid of hurting him
Dump Him. Seriously.
Clearly, he doesn't know how to take care of himself. Mommy's done all that for him. More importantly, clearly it's a real issue for you (it would be for me too.)
So what happens from here? DO you think he's going to miraculously mature? Or do you think if he ever leaves momma's apron, that you're going to end up being a surrogate mother, taking care of him the way momma does now. I'm willing to bet it's the second.
If that doesn't appeal, then Run, don't Walk, out of this relationship.
hahahahahaha!!!! this is definately the last place i ever thought i'd be getting relationship advice, but i LOVE it! you guys, you're awesome! it sucks because i cant ask my own friends. i never thought i'd get people to actually back me up!
i know i have to dump him, it's just sad. he's a sweet guy and i get along great with his parents. ive spent the last 2 years of my life with him, and they've been such tough years. its just hard to let that go you know? and it's so hard for me to trust guys and find a guy who doesnt think one thing or another about me isnt weird or annoying. sigh!
Don't think about finding the next guy when you are considering ending this current relationship. You are very young. Have some time with yourself! You may be a bit lonely at first (but you have friends to hang out with, which helps) but it is definitely worth it! Then later when you find someone sooo wonderful you will wonder why you ever spent 2 seconds with this loser. Good luck!
