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Do You Let Others Steal Your Joy?


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Stress adds quite a bit to an already overflowing plate.  Today's job stress caused me to b*tch and moan and be in a lousy mood for the past three hours UNTIL I bumped into a friend.  She reminded me that others did not give me my personal joy and therefore, why should I let them steal it????

Wise words from a wise young woman.  Normally I can talk myself and self-motivate to get myself back on track, but this morning's debacle sidetracked me a wee bit.  I need to remember my personal joys in life....and I need to not give my personal power away to another or to a situation.

Do you let others steal your joy? and how do you handle it?

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I totally let others steal my joy!  Yesterday I made the decision to not let others choices take from my good mood.  By golly it worked!  I had a wonderful day just concentrating on the good things instead of the bad.

Love it!  Excellent choice.  I guess we all need to be reminded not to let others steal our joy.

I agree! It is a hard thing sometimes when the day doesn't go as planned (like a child thowing a fit because he doesn't get to wear the shoes he wants to at school), but if we look for the good, it is always hiding there somewhere.

Its hard when its the person who should be there the most that is causing your pain.

UGH. He took it last night and I can't seem to get it back. I have been glaring at people all day and it isn't even their fault!

Not until I started therapy did I realize that I do this all of the time!

And when ever people see true joy radiating from you, they will try to steal it as a general rule.

I try to remind myself that we are all just people.  Needy people, and so, instead of allowing people to steal your joy, try to give it away...it may or may not work, but all you can do is try, and walk away feeling better about yourself!

Original Post by devilish_patsy:

Do you let others steal your joy? and how do you handle it?

I find that the best way to prevent "joy theft" is not to display any to begin with.  Tongue out

At work they call me "Eeyore."

 

LoL!Laughing 

I'm more of a "climb in the tiger's mouth" type. I can't pretend a situation's not bothering me if it is. I try to figure out the best way to address it with the person, or if it's unresolvable, avoid it. I've cut some toxic people out of my life.

No need to steal -- I share my joy with them freely.  Whether they like it or not.  

Annoying people with your positivity is an extra perk.  Laughing

This thread is AWESUM!!! 

I was feeling just this way Sunday.  I let others steal my joy and I had a really rotten grumpy day and I was not having any fun. 

Yesterday I had a so-so day at work and a great workout when I got home and I decided not to let little things get to me, but I was still being bothered by them.

I'm going to take all of these things and use them.  Not letting others steal my joy and sharing my joy with others "whether they like it or not" is going to be my goal from now on! 

I saw this thread earlier and gave it some consideration, great question.

Yes, as much as it pains me to say so others can and do steal my joy, I try and not let it happen but I guess I am over sensitive to under currents etc and it does cause a mood reaction in me.

Yes, I let people steal my joy.  I was doing it as I started reading this thread.  Thanks.  I am snapping myself out of it!

I try not to.  I realized many years ago that the difference between happy people and unhappy ones is not what is going on in their lives, it is how they respond to it.  If you want to be happy, you usually can be.  I have to admit that sometimes people can really piss me off and throw me off "my groove", but I try to ignore as much negativity as I can get away with.

Original Post by clharr:

I try not to.  I realized many years ago that the difference between happy people and unhappy ones is not what is going on in their lives, it is how they respond to it.  If you want to be happy, you usually can be.  I have to admit that sometimes people can really piss me off and throw me off "my groove", but I try to ignore as much negativity as I can get away with.

 Exactly....it is how we react to situations.  I make a conscious choice to be happy.  It doesnt mean I dont have serious things going on in my life, but I CHOOSE to be happy. 

Great attitude...(I just need to remember it sometimes).

Original Post by nomoreexcuses:

No need to steal -- I share my joy with them freely.  Whether they like it or not.  

Annoying people with your positivity is an extra perk.  Laughing

Actually you just described a toxic (and also fair weather and superficial) person who I've been much happier without them in my life. False and enforced positivity isn't anything I truly consider "joy".

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