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People that like to push buttons.


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Pushing someone's buttons just for the sake of pushing them seems so mean to me.  I'm not talking about online because really, who cares what online people think if they are being mean to you?  But in real life when dealing with family and friends, why do people like to do this?

My sister did it to me all through our childhood.  And friends do it now.  Honestly, the things they say don't really bother me that much but the fact that they WANT me upset is what hurts.  Why the heck do they get a kick out of upsetting me?  

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Of course your family knows how to push your buttons, they're the ones that installed them.

I like to push buttons, especially on the elvator.

 

...no, but really. Sometimes I'll tease but I never try to rile people up for the heck of it. I try not to be mean. I want to make people laugh, I don't want to make them angry.

Original Post by kathygator:

Of course your family knows how to push your buttons, they're the ones that installed them.

Heh - very true.

It's amazing how peeved I can get by my brother. If anyone else said the same thing to me, it would be water off a duck's back. But from him.... Yell

My sister still complains about how I did this to her growing up. In fact, if you bring it up, she can still get furious.

Aw, man. I thought this was going to be a post about Console Gaming.

*sulks out*

My brother and I did that to each other all the time!  You could tell when you were "winning" when you got this overwhelming desire to laugh maniacally....and you could tell when you were losing by the overwhelming desire to inflict bodily harm on the other....good times...??  I think there is a little mean person in all of us that likes to come out and play in certain situations where it feels safe to do so.  That's why siblings do it so often to each other!!

In my office where I work, we have one lady that is really bad about pushing buttons, because of the way she has to argue EVERYTHING.  We've tried to figure out why she's that way.  We thinks she's frustrated and taking it out on us in this way.  She talks a little bit about her husband and arguments she doesn't really have that much with him, so we think WE get the brunt of it because she gets frustrated she can't argue things out with her husband like she likes.  We could be totally off. 

 I don't think most people intend to be "mean" but I know there are times when I feel frustrated with something someone has done or said to me, and I'd like to be able to "get them back."

Original Post by hksquared:

Aw, man. I thought this was going to be a post about Console Gaming.

*sulks out*

... and I thought it was going to be about people who know where the clitoris is.

Damned false advertising, if you ask me. Tongue out

A lot of people just joke and poke fun all the time, they are not nessicerially trying to be mean or push any buttons, thats just how they are. Everyone I know, myself included makes fun of everything, each other and ourselves all the time. Mean jokes are told, insults are deflected and deadpan remarks batted back and forth.

Some people just can't tell when they have strayed into a tense issue, you all know someone like that I'll bet. Gay jokes with your gay best friend is one thing, perhaps not so much with your friend with a gay son. Other people are super sensitive so if you make a single light-hearted observation of their awesome but nerdy hat they will act like you just used their soul for loo roll and banned christmas.

But being mean with the intent of actually hurting someone rather than provoking a witty comeback is not cool. It's pretty low, arguments should never resort to insults. It's all too easy to go for the kill in an argument once you have spent a while firing back jokes and stepping around sore areas with people. Fatality!

Original Post by amethystgirl:

Original Post by kathygator:

Of course your family knows how to push your buttons, they're the ones that installed them.

Heh - very true.

It's amazing how peeved I can get by my brother. If anyone else said the same thing to me, it would be water off a duck's back. But from him....

Just recently myself and some friends were discussing this- we call it "The Family Rage". If anyone else were to criticize you it would be very easy for you to eloquently and concisely state your case. But with family it just becomes a blubbering rage of tears/curses.

As far as friends go, randomv3, you should call them out on it. "Why would you say something like that" or "I think you're being inflammatory and I don't wish to discuss this line of thought" can go a long way with bullies. Because ultimately that's what that 'friend' is being to you.

My younger brother absolutely loves to push my buttons.  Only he does it in a very passive-aggressive way, so the only person who notices it is me.  I freak out, and everyone else in my family thinks that I'm the crazy one, while he just sits there smirking.

For example: I cannot stand lateness.  I am a very scheduled person.  He will intentionally drag his feet just to annoy me.

Another example:  I tend to be a bit OC about germs and contamination.  He will intentionally not wash his hands after doing something such as blowing his nose just to annoy me.  It is disgusting.

Another example: He refuses to close the toilet seat lid.  I'm not sure whether this stems from pure laziness or from the fact that it drives me crazy.  I would assume the latter; I mean, how difficult is it to close the toilet seat lid?

I'm not really sure how we share the same genes.  We are truly polar opposites.

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