Do you personally agree with this
I'm 19 and while I'm not a religious freak, the guy I'm with is the only person I had sex with and vise VESA.(you'll know our story of you read one of my previous threads) Now we are no where new perfect be it we had sex before marriage. However I do feel that my generation expects to sling it around for everybody to get, and also expect for a decent man or women to respect them. Again I'm not perfect but I do think it should be a limit. I don't know if it's just because I haven't lived the average teen life nor do I want to(I have better things to do then to party and have sex with mutiple people) like college. Are people aware of the consequences like pregnancy and AIDS? Everybody wants to do adult things but do not want to face the adult consequences. What is your opinion?
I think you have some morals. I personally didn't want to have sex with everyone around I felt it was something to share with someone who loved me and I loved them , not just to have a good time. I know alot of people will disagree but it's a personal choice and just because someone has sex with everyone doesn't mean it's right for everyone.
Sex. Yeah, umm..I'm not even going to involve morals in this.
We live in an age positively riddled with unwanted pregnancy, STDs, and of course AIDs.
We may not have a 'limit' imposed on our bodies, but we still only get one, so it's about the dumbest thing I can imagine to play so fast and loose (no pun intended) with those risks.
Not even to mention the drama and issues that arise when someone has multiple partners, some of whom may or may not be married, in a relationship, possibly a serial killer who seemed perfectly nice at the bar or party...etc.
Seems so very unworth it.
I'm not saying not to shop around and all that, but..be selective, be careful and watch out, for crissakes.
Not you, personally...'you' in general.
How many sex partners does one have to have to qualify as a ho? Three? Eight? Having multiple partners does not make you a ho.
Original Post by katonick:
How many sex partners does one have to have to qualify as a ho? Three? Eight? Having multiple partners does not make you a ho.
Maybe not, but it raises the risk for all sorts of bad things.
I don't like yanking morality into sex.
Seems like a twisted religious guilt way to go about things.
Original Post by iloveyou098:
I'm 19 and while I'm not a religious freak, the guy I'm with is the only person I had sex with and vise VESA. Are people aware of the consequences like pregnancy and AIDS? Everybody wants to do adult things but do not want to face the adult consequences. What is your opinion?
Ummm, aren't you pregnant?
Original Post by andreams:
Original Post by iloveyou098:
I'm 19 and while I'm not a religious freak, the guy I'm with is the only person I had sex with and vise VESA. Are people aware of the consequences like pregnancy and AIDS? Everybody wants to do adult things but do not want to face the adult consequences. What is your opinion?Ummm, aren't you pregnant?
ruh roh
Original Post by raychelc:
Original Post by katonick:
How many sex partners does one have to have to qualify as a ho? Three? Eight? Having multiple partners does not make you a ho.
Maybe not, but it raises the risk for all sorts of bad things.I don't like yanking morality into sex.
Seems like a twisted religious guilt way to go about things.
It does increase the risk of contracting a STD. Some manage the risk, some don't, some will get one regardless. For some sex is fun and variety makes it more so. I think most people end up bonding with their sex partner and limit their extracurricular activities. Others enjoy casual sex.
i hope things work out for you, iloveyou... you've been through some major life-changing events, and I really do wish you the best...
(((hugs)))
Original Post by iloveyou098:
I'm handling my responsibility. Despite our problems we both are without complaining about it. I had Protected sex, however the condom broke which led to this pregnancy. Before I found out I was also planning on getting on birth control for double protection. Son girls have unprotected sex and put their selves are risk of unwanted pregnancy or STDs. Nevertheless we all need to realize that even if you use protection, you are still putting yourself at risk for pregnancy or a STD. There is no sure way to protect yourself other than not having sex at all. And that's what I'm trying to say. I learned that hard way, but I'm not complaining about my situation.
Just trying to understand, are you advocating abstinence? That is one way to go. I wish more young women had all the resources and information necessary to make the right choice for them whether it be abstinence, monogamy or casual sex.
It must be difficult dealing with an unplanned pregnancy. I wish you luck.
There is a difference in being sexual and being a sexualized object.
Being sexual is part of being a human being, something the feminist movement in America and other countries embraced. This sexuality was about embracing one's body both as a sexual being and as a part of a whole person. In my opinion, excellent ideas. I fully support any teenager and beyond accepting and most importantly not feeling guilt or shamed into have sexual urges or desires. Whether it is accomplished through a relationship or by oneself or with a little exploring into whatever, I say go for it.
Being sexualized is what I believe your friend is referring to. Wearing clothing that projects a stereotype from the general population, showing skin when it wouldn't be appropriate, and thinking a woman's independence comes from having sex without protection. Frankly, it's a thin line to cross.
On the one hand, you don't want to be too sexual, but on the other what defines the idea of too sexual? Your community, friends, parents? I do however believe "****ing everybody" is not a good idea. I fully support having multiple sexual relationships, but it just isn't safe to have multiple partners at once especially without protection, birth control, and an STD check up for both partners. It isn't smart. Do I think someone is being stupid (man or woman) if they had say...20 partners? Yes, and that's my judgement on them. It isn't right, but it's there.
edited: to better explain
A woman or girl who has sex with multiple partners is engaging in risky behavior. Whether she is doing it because she feels pressured to or wants to is a different discussion. The question was: does it make her a ho? Derogatory words that are applied to women to describe their sexuality are meant to shame women. Some cities are organizing slut walks in an attempt to erase some of the shame society has heaped on women who are demonized or judged because of their choices.
Original Post by katonick:
A woman or girl who has sex with multiple partners is engaging in risky behavior. Whether she is doing it because she feels pressured to or wants to is a different discussion. The question was: does it make her a ho? Derogatory words that are applied to women to describe their sexuality are meant to shame women. Some cities are organizing slut walks in an attempt to erase some of the shame society has heaped on women who are demonized or judged because of their choices.
I don't understand what the number of partners has to do with it. OP is living, breathing proof that all the bad consequences of sex can happen even when you've only had sex with one partner. And is being awfully judgey for someone in her situation.
Original Post by iloveyou098:
What I would tell younger girls (like my little cousins) is wait until your married, however of you cant wait make sure your have multiple forms of birth control. Also makes sure he is the one. You think you know a person, but eventually their true colors will show. I want to be there for the younger girls who look up to me and give them advice and personal experiance especially when they can not talk to their own mother. I didnt have the type of mother I could come to about sex, however I made the decsion by myself to use protection, and even that did not work.
It is a powerful gift you give to your little cousins by providing them with the information they need to make imformed choices.
Original Post by andreams:
Original Post by katonick:
A woman or girl who has sex with multiple partners is engaging in risky behavior. Whether she is doing it because she feels pressured to or wants to is a different discussion. The question was: does it make her a ho? Derogatory words that are applied to women to describe their sexuality are meant to shame women. Some cities are organizing slut walks in an attempt to erase some of the shame society has heaped on women who are demonized or judged because of their choices.
I don't understand what the number of partners has to do with it. OP is living, breathing proof that all the bad consequences of sex can happen even when you've only had sex with one partner. And is being awfully judgey for someone in her situation.
The number of partners has nothing to do with the OP's situation, but it does have to do with her original question - Does having multiple partners , make you a ho?
Original Post by iloveyou098:
Actually I'm not being Judgey. But their is a thing called having respect for yourself witch is what I believe eveybody should have. The person said "Having sex with everybody" is basicly ok. That shows no self respect in my opinion. I talk about my situation to inform people that anything can happen. However there are ways to prevent yourself from being in certain situations. If by me saying how I feel about a topic is "Judgey" then so be it. Life is real and I'm sick of seeing my generation walking around like they are invincible.
Actually, just because someone else's choice is not the choice you would make does not mean they have no self respect. Most people who choose an alternative life style make that choice after a lot of self examination. I am not talking about young people who do things for the wrong reasons before they even know what they want. So it is judgey to say anyone who does this has no self respect.
Original Post by iloveyou098:
Actually I'm not being Judgey. But their is a thing called having respect for yourself witch is what I believe eveybody should have. The person said "Having sex with everybody" is basicly ok. That shows no self respect in my opinion. I talk about my situation to inform people that anything can happen. However there are ways to prevent yourself from being in certain situations. If by me saying how I feel about a topic is "Judgey" then so be it. Life is real and I'm sick of seeing my generation walking around like they are invincible.
I don't see why you're concerning yourself with other people's business. So some people will have more sex partners than you. How does that impact your life? Or is it that a part of you feels the need to put down others, so you feel better about your own choices. Is that why you're constructing this strawman about people deciding to throw all caution to the wind and copulate with everbody? Because it's hardly the most prevalent idea of the generation.
There are more options than being with one person, or having sex with everybody. If you think the second option is common you're completely out of touch with your generation.
Most people don't think, oh, let's go ahead and reach infinity. Instead, they just lack the obsession about keeping your number down. We don't think having a low number makes you a better person than anybody else.
And yes, everybody knows about STDs and pregnancy. That's why most people use double protection. And if you go about it responsibly you will have a very low chance of catching either. Life is about taking chances. You don't stop driving cars because you might get into an accident, do you?
