piercing and motherhood

I know i have a few years till I am a mother, at the least, but my boyfriend brought up a topic i want to touch on. I Have 11 piercings and 2 of which is my tounge and belly button. He said that when i become a mother that i should take out my piercing, especully these two. He said that they will be hard to esplian why mommy wanted a hole in herself...lmao. i admit it might me a lil weird to esplain but jsut because im a mother should i take out my piecing? what do u think. Is  there any mothers out there that had a child and took there piercings out because of that reason? anybody that kept them in, if so why?

thanks for you help..

You shouldn't have to take them out just because you're a mother.  But I would take out the one in your belly button when you're pregnant.  Belly buttons do wierd things when you're stomach gets big...ouch.

My daughters both have their bellybuttons pierced.
When they were about four or five months along they took out the ring and put in a piece of string.

My oldest grandchild is almost eight and has never asked why mommy has holes in her body.

yeah i know that at least 6 months in your pregnancy you take out the belly button one. then put it back in after you have the baby.

So just because im a mother i shouldnt take them out?

My tongue is pierced and I am a mom.  I pierced it before I was a mom.  My husband had the same concerns. 

My daughter was fascinated by it when she was a baby but obviously didn't ask much about it.  Now that she's a little older it's almost normal for her to see it in me.  Once, she said to me:  Mommy, when I get older I have to have one?"  I told her it is for grown ups only and only the grown ups that want one.  I told her not everyone has earring because not everyone wants them.  I told her it's just like that.  It hasn't been an issue really in our family...at least not yet.

thats the stupidest thing ive ever heard. i know plenty of mothers with lots of piercings and their children dont wonder why "mommy has holes in her body". they just see it as a part of their mother. maybe you should question your boyfriend...maybe he'd be embarrassed that the mother of his child still has piercings? i wont give my opinion on that topic...

That is your choice.

At my work place you can only have two visible stud earrings in your ears. Nowhere else.  We have girls that wear bandages over their lip and eyebrow piercings.  So if you plan on working with the public you may have to take them out.

If you decide to join the PTA when your child goes to school, you may want to.

My daughter got her tongue pierced after her second child.  It doesn't bother her, it doesn't bother the kids.  Me, I look at it and yuck.  I could never do that.

see thats what i thought. I have a brother that is 20 months and he is like you said vklamorick, is fascinated by it. and my 6 year old brother doesnt say anything either. when i got them he did but now its normal to us all. that was a great way to tell your daughter, i will have to keep that in mind. thanks

Ok this is great to hear. I will ask my boyfriend why he brought this up. because i know i will be lost without my piercings...

i wouldn't worry about that too much.  having peircings or other body modifications does not change your motherly qualifications!!!

i am getting married in a few months and we have talked about children in the next few years and my fiance has a full sleeve of tattoos on one arm and several more on his body, and i have a few myself!  this doesn't change the fact that he will make an excellent father!

just do what you feel comfortable with!

you  said that they took out the ring and put a piece of string? did that actully keep it open? never heard of that. interresting though

You can do anything you want to. Becoming a mother does change you but how a mother appears does not change who she is. 

I would not take my piercings out or regret my tats because I became a mom. My kids pay no attention to what I have really. Sometimes my youngest will ask whats in my ear and I just tell him an earring. Now my tat on my leg is a focal piece for them and always has been. I just tell them its a picture mommy had put on her leg. And they tell me its pretty.

I have no issues when I am up at the school. And we live in a small community. I have even gotten compliments on my tats at the school. If you are concerned about what the school,PTA or work may say you can buy clear studs and spacers that go in the holes when you go to such things so no one can really see them. Here are some examples:

http://www.bodycandy.com/cgi-bin/category/ret ainers ;

 

yeah i have a clear tongue stud already becasue i a sna and in training for a cna. I refuse to by one for my belly button. I think my boyfrind doesnt wants me to be judged on how good of a mother i am because of my peircings.

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yeah i have a clear tongue stud already becasue i a sna and in training for a cna. I refuse to by one for my belly button. I think my boyfrind doesnt wants me to be judged on how good of a mother i am because of my peircings.

 I understand but I really would not worry about what others say. What matters is how you feel and your hubby feels. If you know you are a good mother nothing else matters.

i have friends with button piercings-- they took em out when they start to stretch and replaced after baby was born, no big deal.  i really dont think belly button piercings are ones that are going to make kids freak out.  maybe if you have a row of piercings down your back or the inside of your arm, you might want to think about that...

i had my nipple pierced-- my dr gave me the whole "have to grow up and take it out" speech.  i ended up taking it out at about 7 or 8 mths pregnant.  i really miss it now but i guess i am just too old to go get it re-pierced....  i do think tho that might have been a stranger conversation to have with my child.

so many people ahve told me that when i get pregnant i should take out the belly ring..

go to website

http://www.bodycandy.com/cgi-bin/item/15286

does that work? anybody know?

I've got piercings.  And tattoos.  and Iintend to be a mom someday.  I'm not goin to stop wearing fishnets or jewelry because I'm toting around a baby, and Alex won't encourage me to do otherwise.  He knows who I am and how my parenting skills are.  My jewelry doesn't effect it what-so-ever.

My sister has more tattoos than I do, and wears her piercings more than me.  She's a really bad mom to her boys, though..

well i dont plan to change myself either and these piercing feel like a part of me know. Does anybody know wh y my boyfriend would feel like this..that i should take out my piercings? im just wondering

He may associate piercings with immaturity.  "Only a teenager would get that many holes in her face!" or so my dad says.  The classic, dream mom on TV doesn't have piercings or tattoos, just a hot body hidden beneath those frumpy clothes that all the teenage boys in the neighborhood want to tap.

Ask him.  And tell him you love your piercings as much as he loves his hair or something, then go on a long spiel about how daddies look better bald.

the thing i dont get is that he has his eyebrow pierced and he has not mentioned that he wants to change that once he becomes a father. I personlly love it too so i wouldnt tell him to take it out.

I learned my lesson about eyebrow piercings with a grabby baby.