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please don't crucify me but for some reason it's a turn off when...


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men COUNT calories. 

It's not a turnoff for them to be mindful of their health but calorie counting is just so feminine to me and really turns me off. 

Like a man who "can't eat" something is just like so not attractive to me. I work at a gym so usually i encounter this with the actual male workers behind the desk, not trainers. 

The trainers basically eat what they want but workout. they are healthy and don't obsess over food. I dunno. What are your feelings on this? 

 

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I hope the men here don't get offended by this...but I kinda' feel the same way.  As much as I KNOW I'm being judgemental and hypocritical, my gut instinct thinks it is feminine.

But, this isn't the only area that I'm sexist.  I also want men to be taller than me, stronger than me, and weigh more than me.  I guess all those traits add up to the ability to eat more than me.

Yes, un PC.  Flame away.

It doesn't freak me out, gross me out, or make me unattracted to my bf when he counts.

But it's not like he's counting to lose weight though. And it's not a religious thing like how it is with me.

His is more observant: "Wow, this thing has 1340 calories for one serving? Damn, that rocks"

He is also 6' and 135 pounds. I think I might feel differently if he was counting religiously like me to lose weight and turned his nose up at things because they were too calorie laden. I don't know for sure though.

   I eat what  want but count calories.  I have spacific goals in mind, so what is so "feminine" about that? Seems to me that a woman would like a guy to take care of himself.  Unless you like the pot belly thing on your guy while you look all buff.

Wow I was totally distracted by a chocolate cupcake with pink frosting in the pop up advertisement on this page.

But anywho I kind of understand that. I mean I wouldn't totally turn my nose up at it, but it would be weird to hear a guy talk about calories the way that I do, "I can't have that I only have 400 calories left for the evening" AWKWARD lol

nasuoni--i wouldn't mind a mere observation, but i mean like calorie goals, counting the calories, looking up menus and stuff like that. 

caveman: like i said, i don't mind him being health minded but counting calories isn't the only way to be healthy. many people are quite thin without counting calories. 

Original Post by chrissy1988:

nasuoni--i wouldn't mind a mere observation, but i mean like calorie goals, counting the calories, looking up menus and stuff like that. 

 I guess it wouldn't mind me if it was done in a 'manly' fashion. Like just keeping things in mind, but not keeping a diary like I do. Logging calories would be okay, but measuring things out precisely and getting upset if something doesn't have a calorie count would kinda weird me out...those are 'classically' more feminine ways of handling it.

logging calories is ehhh...still a bit weird for me. But if he were to say, "no, that cupcake would make me go over my daily calories" i think i would be really weirded out. lol. Or if he got upset because he went over his calories for the day. lol .

huh.  yeah, that's some double standard.  i guess men are supposed to have perfect bodies without trying?

Well, calorie counting, and very obsessively at times, has helped me lose over 110 pounds in a year, so I will never apologize for doing it.  Nor did I ever feel feminine or girlie doing it.  I needed to do it to help learn good eating habits.  Fortunately, I'm to the point now where I hardly ever log anything, but I still have a good idea of how many calories I eat.

I'm to the point now where I'm kind of experimenting with my body.  I like to do cardio in the morning and lift weights in the evening.  Due to changes in my job situation I wasn't getting out and running in the morning for the last month and a half but I was lifting weights fairly religiously.  I really paid no mind to what I was eating.  I managed to put on a fair amount of new muscle but also put a little more flab around the middle.

Now I reinjured a biceps muscle I hurt a couple years ago, and it's effecting almost every upper body exercise I do, so I'm going to force myself to get up earlier in the morning and do my runs.  I'm also going to cut back a bit on my calories and see if I can lose the weight without logging a single calorie.  I'm pretty sure I can do it, but time will tell.

By the way, as obsessive as I was about counting calories, I never complained about it in public.  There I times I met up with my friends and I didn't drink, but if we were going to a restaurant, I would definitely eat whatever I felt like, but just planned for it.

And I would go onto a restaurant's website to check their menu, but I was concerned more about sodium levels than calories and fat content.  Of course I stopped doing that when I realized EVERYTHING was high in sodium.

Original Post by chrissy1988:

logging calories is ehhh...still a bit weird for me. But if he were to say, "no, that cupcake would make me go over my daily calories" i think i would be really weirded out. lol. Or if he got upset because he went over his calories for the day. lol .

I would never complain about it putting more over my limit.  But it WOULD go straight to my hips...I just KNOW it!  Tongue out

Original Post by majorpayne05:

Original Post by chrissy1988:

logging calories is ehhh...still a bit weird for me. But if he were to say, "no, that cupcake would make me go over my daily calories" i think i would be really weirded out. lol. Or if he got upset because he went over his calories for the day. lol .

I would never complain about it putting more over my limit.  But it WOULD go straight to my hips...I just KNOW it! 

 LOL!

Chrissy - I have to say that is the silliest "turn off" I have ever heard.  I hate to say this, girl, but you are a reverse sexist.   

silly yes, but it's true. ((sigh)) i am a walking contradiction i guess. I can't help it though, it really is a turn off for me. I like people to be health conscious but actually like calorie counting? I don't know why, it just isn't very masculine to me.

I guess I associate it with this guy, the only one i've known in person to calorie count, who is a trainer and is totally unattractive to me and is completely obsessed. Like he uses splenda, sugar free syrup, tons of chemicals instead of real food because he "wants to look good. being healthy doesn't get him paid." aaah. it frustrated me this morning. rubs me the wrong way.

apparently i'm not alone though so i don't feel AS weird about it. 

Crucify! Crucify! Crucifycrucifycrucify!

Nah, I agree. Then again, I think men should live off of a diet of leather, raw meat and fear, which is enough calories to sustain even a God of War.

Oh, wow. Ok, nerd-alert. Sorry about that.

on a serious note though- it is weird for a guy to be weird about calories. Eating healthy is one thing, but 'dieting' and stuff in my head is such a... 'chick' thing (which I know it's not)

My husband is just starting to count, I think it's super sexy that he gives a **** about his health and doesn't want to grow up to be a doughball.

I wish my boyfriend counted calories or cared about excess carbohydrates more - but he just doesn't need to. Now, I'd say, "I wish he needed to count calories", but that would be horrible because he is the luckiest person alive to be pencil thin and be able to eat as much as he chooses (although he doesn't simply for health reasons).

So basically, if he DID count calories, it would be such a support! I wouldn't feel so much like the typical "girl on a diet who eats celery sticks", you know?

And when I meet guys (or anyone) who DO count calories, I feel like I immediately understand them better or know them better (even if I don't); it's as if I find a common ground with the person. So yeah, for me, definitely not a turn off! (=

Seriously?!?

Wow.

Well, you do get points for honesty. Laughing

I agree with those who are proud of the men in their lives who want to be healthy and keep from gaining weight. If they do this by calorie counting, I think that's great, and I don't find it remotely feminine.

Maybe it helps to be older and know men who are struggling with a slowing metabolism to appreciate men counting calories. Just like women, they can wake up one day and realize they can't eat the way they once did. So they decide to start working out, start watching what they eat, but maybe they find the weight still isn't coming off. So they start logging their food, counting calories. Hey, why not? It works for women. Why shouldn't men have the same advantages?

Now, my boyfriend? He's approaching 50 and still has the metabolism of a teenage boy. He's 135 and 6' and actually is working hard to put on some weight. But, while he doesn't count calories, he does know how many calories are in the foods he eats, and he avoids things that are outrageously high in saturated fat and sugar and creates healthy versions of all kinds of calorie-laden restaurant dishes every day. He cares about what he puts into his mouth, and I say, good for him! I love that he eats so healthy. And, if he ever had the need to do so, I'd fully support him counting calories. Fortunately for him, it looks like he's going to go through life without ever having to do that at all. But, as I say, he does pay attention to what he eats. He does make certain to get the right amount of protein, he does eat only whole wheat and whole grains, he does pay attention to his fruit and vegetable intake, etc. So he is counting to an extent.

Yay for him.

How do you lose pure fat without getting serious - not saying you count every calorie but you do have to have a good understanding of how many calories you are eating each day.  Need to make sure you get ample protein, good fats, etc.

Nice to hear that the trainers eat anything they want - usually thats the case when you are running a good cycle of the juice with some HGH on the side.  Can eat anything you want and the fat will still melt off. 

maybe it's different when you're talking about attraction to people who you'd consider "dating" and someone you're already committed to. 

I'm sure if i was married or in a relationship with someone and their weight was creeping up I might feel less strongly against counting calories but right now it's a matter of attraction to someone i'm not in a relationship with. 

i don't think people MUST COUNT CALORIES to be healthy, stay fit, and slender. I think most people actually do fine without it and for me, I'd prefer a man who is doing fine without micromanaging calories. awareness is differnet than calorie counting, writing it down, having a journal, getting freaked over passing calorie targets, etc.

i am attracted to people who are active, fit, and care about what goes into their body but not to that extent i guess. or not through those means shall i say. 

Original Post by chrissy1988:
i don't think people MUST COUNT CALORIES to be healthy, stay fit, and slender. I think most people actually do fine without it and for me, I'd prefer a man who is doing fine without micromanaging calories. awareness is differnet than calorie counting, writing it down, having a journal, getting freaked over passing calorie targets, etc.

I find getting freaked out about missing calorie targets to be unattractive in both men AND women. Obsessing over calories can get very ugly. But that to me is a different animal than just being aware of the amount and composition of the food you consume.

I eat anywhere from 2,500 to 3,500 calories a day to maintain. I keep a running total in my head of how many grams of protein, complex carbs, good and bad fats, fiber and simple sugars I am taking in. All of this affects my health and appearance, so even though I can eat a lot and not gain weight, I am pretty vigilant about my diet. But that's all something I keep to myself. I don't talk about it. I don't obsess over it. I just do it.

 

Original Post by ccappuccino:

How do you lose pure fat without getting serious 

you don't lose pure fat with OR without getting serious because it's impossible, but i know what you mean ;) 

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