Relationship = emotional mess
Anyone else find that when they are in a relationship (past the initial OMIGOD OMIGOD IM SO HAPPY I CANT THINK OF ANYTHING ELSE phase) their emotions go all over the place? One minute happy, next minute irritated, next minute sad for no reason, next minute in a tantrum, then back to feeling fine, etc etc.
Happen to anyone else? I thought it was just me but recently talked to 2 other girl friends who were having the same issue.
Been with my husband for 6 years, married for 2 in January.
If it's emotional roller coaster, something is wrong. It's ok to fight, it's ok to be concerned, and sometimes a little jealous. But to describe it is a roller coaster with tantrums sounds like PMS.
Actually, I think a better way to put it would be: I get emotional changes for no reason anyway, but it's just a lot more intense in a relatinoship.
I hate to think that it's something wrong with the relationship instead of just me. But I suppose I've got to think realistically, right?
Based on some of your other posts, I'd say it's probably a you issue. Not to say that this relationship you're in is perfect or just right for you...but I think you'd feel this way in a relationship with anyone right now...and until you address some of your other issues.
I've felt like that before...but when I was much younger and much more anxious. I was always wondering where things were going, overanalyzing things, hyping things up, reading in to everything...I never just let it be. I picked fights so that the climate of the relationship would match what was going on in my head...at least it would make sense then.
Mood swings are normal to a certain extent, but not if they are having a serious impact on your relationship. If you feel yourself suddenly overwhelmed with sadness and feeling a need to act on that in some way...you need to take a step back and see if it will pass or see if there is an actual reason for you to feel so sad (or whatever you're feeling).
It usually works out to be really unfair to the other person, to be honest. No one wants to ride the mood swing roller coaster for too long.
Original Post by nicepumpkins:
Based on some of your other posts, I'd say it's probably a you issue. Not to say that this relationship your in is perfect or just right for you...but I think you'd feel this way in a relationship with anyone right now...and until you address some of your other issues.
I've felt like that before...but when I was much younger and much more anxious. I was always wondering where things were going, overanalyzing things, hyping things up, reading in to everything...I never just let it be. I picked fights so that the climate of the relationship would match what was going on in my head...at least it would make sense then.
Mood swings are normal to a certain extent, but not if they are having a serious impact on your relationship. If you feel yourself suddenly overwhelmed with sadness and feeling a need to act on that in some way...you need to take a step back and see if it will pass or see if there is an actual reason for you to feel so sad (or whatever you're feeling).
It usually works out to be really unfair to the other person, to be honest. No one wants to ride the mood swing roller coaster for too long. No one wants to, and no one deserves to.
I agree with this post.
Thanks. I completely agree that it is unfair to the other person, in fact I have just told him I need some space and time to sort myself out, even though he claims he doesn't mind it. Now I find that with all this extra "mind space" I am not really getting any extreme swings, just mild ones that I can cope/deal with.
It's strange, two of my friends said they go through the exact same thing, and one guy friend said that his girlfriend was exactly like this as well.
Age is a big factor...just saying. How old are you?
I think maybe you were hoping that we'd all chime in with, "Omg, me too!"
Original Post by nicepumpkins:
Age is a big factor...just saying. How old are you?
I think maybe you were hoping that we'd all chime in with, "Omg, me too!"
20, still young and fresh! So yeah, I guess maturity may affect this. I suppose I was somewhat hoping that others experienced this too so that I could just dismiss it as being "normal", but really I need to face it and start changing for the better.
I think I know where you're coming from. I'm 22, and I think I'm overly observant sometimes which makes me read into things too much.
Is there something bothering you about the relationship? If so, talk about it with your SO.
I'm experiencing something similar, but with good reason I think. I've been "dating" someone for 2-3 mos. now and we've never really discussed if we're actually together or what the deal is. Lately, it's been driving me nuts since we'll be apart for a couple of weeks and I don't really know where I stand. Should I be trying to see other people or not? I think I'm justified in my concerns haha. So we're going to have a little talk today. I feel better already just knowing that either way some of the issues going on in my head are going to be resolved.
Sometimes though, when its around TTOM I get moody. Like the week before, I'll be upset for no real reason at all and get irritated and pissed very easily haha. Now whenever I'm feeling that way, I stop and think, is it my crazy bi*** week or is this real? Haha. So I'd keep an eye out for that too 
Original Post by ilovemj909:
I think I know where you're coming from. I'm 22, and I think I'm overly observant sometimes which makes me read into things too much.
Is there something bothering you about the relationship? If so, talk about it with your SO.
I'm experiencing something similar, but with good reason I think. I've been "dating" someone for 2-3 mos. now and we've never really discussed if we're actually together or what the deal is. Lately, it's been driving me nuts since we'll be apart for a couple of weeks and I don't really know where I stand. Should I be trying to see other people or not? I think I'm justified in my concerns haha. So we're going to have a little talk today. I feel better already just knowing that either way some of the issues going on in my head are going to be resolved.
Sometimes though, when its around TTOM I get moody. Like the week before, I'll be upset for no real reason at all and get irritated and pissed very easily haha. Now whenever I'm feeling that way, I stop and think, is it my crazy bi*** week or is this real? Haha. So I'd keep an eye out for that too
Me and pumps are early 20's. (I don't know how early for NP, but I'm 23). So it's not the "general age group"
Second, if you're seeing a guy after 2-3months, and because he won't be around you for a few weeks you want to start seeing someone else? I don't see how that makes any sense. If you're just stringing the 2-3 month boyfriend/girlfriend along, just let them go.
oh yesssss,actually its recent.
its weird,i started laughing in front of my bf then started crying. hormones are wack
Are you on hormonal birth control? That can have a major effect.
Also, the younger you are the more you probably expect your life to be impacted positively from a relationship. The more you probably over analyze everything and read intentions out of nothing.
As you get older and hopefully have a full life you'll probably find that while crushes and love are awesome and can be a lot of fun they don't define your life.
Original Post by antibinge:
Anyone else find that when they are in a relationship (past the initial OMIGOD OMIGOD IM SO HAPPY I CANT THINK OF ANYTHING ELSE phase) their emotions go all over the place? One minute happy, next minute irritated, next minute sad for no reason, next minute in a tantrum, then back to feeling fine, etc etc.
Happen to anyone else? I thought it was just me but recently talked to 2 other girl friends who were having the same issue.
yes..though in my case i had to report this dude to 4 different polices.
Original Post by peebeegee:
Me and pumps are early 20's. (I don't know how early for NP, but I'm 23). So it's not the "general age group"
Second, if you're seeing a guy after 2-3months, and because he won't be around you for a few weeks you want to start seeing someone else? I don't see how that makes any sense. If you're just stringing the 2-3 month boyfriend/girlfriend along, just let them go.
Lol no it's not like that. I mean if he was (which he is not) then I wanted to make sure I was gettin mine too..know what I mean? hehe.
